As January 2021 Ends Today

 

As January 2021 Ends Today

 

It seemed like it was yesterday that we welcomed January 2021 into our lives but no, it was 31 days ago. See how the days have run?

How did it go for you?

There were warnings about how difficult and tough January would be - what is your experience like?

Did you make some new year resolutions?

How far have you gone with keeping to them?

Did you actually sit down to write out some goals to accomplish this year?

Have you started the first step is seeing your goals come to pass? or are you still waiting for the opportune time?

A thousand and one questions you must say

But all we are driving at here now is that January 2021 is about going into the bin of history and thanks be to God for that BUT if you made a list of goals you want to achieve in this year and you are yet to take the first step, you need to realize that 31 days are gone - never to be called back again.

While making haste slowly but you also need to make haste while the sun is still shining brightly for when darkness comes - your guess will be as good as ours.

It's the end of month, do a review of how your month went.

The new month beckons, wait for it; it won't be long now

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Of Winners And Losers - The Plain Truth

 

A Winner Or A Loser - Which Would You Rather Be?

 

Listen up

No one is born as a child of adversity - that is having the vicissitudes of life in more than enough quantum

We all experience life's challenges

We all have ups and downs

Some days we are coasting on the wings of the Eagle

Some other days we are down at the bottom and rocking it with the lower animals

That is life

BUT

What distinguishes the winner from the sore loser is in the way we implement these 3 decisions we need to make in our lives

1.      What are you focusing on?

When you are up, what is your focus?

When you are down, what do you focus on?

Are you one of those who when they are up think that the world is now at their feet to crush and do with it what they like, I want to tell you that you are wrong.

The World can never be under anyone's feet for all the time, but sure for certain times. Nothing in life lasts for ever. It will pass

So when you are up there, do the much you can to remain there in honesty and truth but also remember that as the Sun is sure to rise from the East and set in the West, you shall come down one day - make plans to be comfortable too when eventually you land from outer space

And when you are down, what do you focus on?

Do you see all the negatives?

Do you imagine the worst scenario?

Do you close your eyes to other possibilities of rising from the ashes again as a Peacock?

Do you see your situation as a dead end from which there can be no rising up again?

Well I also wish to let you know that what a man thinks of most of the time is what he sees and what he sees is what he gets.

You can come out of that dead end if you decide to take the bull by the horn. Instead of retiring to one corner of your life to whine and bemoan your fate, you can actually bounce back by taking action on those things that failed you before

2.      How Do You feel About What's Going On?

What you focus on generates the feelings you experience

when you focus on the positive, you are suffused with positive feelings and in same manner, when you focus on the negative, you get suffocated with negative feelings.

When you focus on things you cannot control, you give your life a hard task but when you focus on things you can control, you make it easier for you to reach them

When you focus on the past, the mistakes you made, the opportunities you did not take that have turned out to be gold mines, you injure yourself but when you focus on living better today in order to build a scintillating future, you are able to soar

3.      What are you going to do about it?

You are hoping for the best - right - great but how is that going to happen? hope is good to have but action makes it attainable

You are wondering if the future can actually be better - right - yeah great. Wondering is part of human experience but no matter how much you wonder, nothing can ever happen if you do not lift a finger to bring your wonderment into reality

And you are afraid of taking that step because you don't want to be laughed at - right - oh yeah, makes sense. But let me tell you that everyone is on his own journey and those who succeed most are those who have been most laughed at when they failed, some even failed massively before they achieved success.

It is natural to be afraid - it is one of our protective emotions BUT it becomes an issue when we obsess over it and it inhibits us from expressing ourselves and experiencing the life we are here to experience.

Courage is said to be the "fear that has said its prayers" - you need to be courageous enough to overcome your limiting fears.

These three decisions need to be made reflectively and soberly and the winner is he who finds solace in the fact that nothing in life is permanent and change is a constant and thus makes every effort to be adaptable to change while the loser will be he who is so straight-jacketed that he thinks only in black and white all the time without taking the greys into consideration

Which would you rather be?

Share your thoughts with us by way of comments here

See you soon

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21 Commitments To Keep In 2021

 

21 Commitments To Keep In 2021

 

Every year comes with its own bags and baggage. There is no particularly bad year neither is there any particularly good year. Each year is an admixture of the good, the bad, the ugly and the very ugly.

However, over time it has been observed that persons who set out at the beginning of each year some standards to commit to and do eventually commit to them, tend to have better experiences than those who just waltz through the year.

This is the reason we are suggesting to you to religiously keep these 21 commitments and see how the year turns out for you

They are

1.      Commit to God

          -        He is your Senior Partner

          -        Make Him Number 1 in all you do

          -        He is still ABLE

2.      Commit to your Family

          -        They are your home base and your number one fans

          -        They will be there for you when everyone else has walked out

          -        show them love like your life depends on it because it sure does

3.      Commit to your Job/Career

          -        No job is to be taken lightly so long as bringing food into the house depends on it

          -        put in an honest day's job for an honest day's pay

          -        don't leave a job you can do today for tomorrow, always endeavour to max out your working day

          -        continuous personal and professional development are essential for your career growth

4.      Commit to Friends/Colleagues

          -        friendship is a two -way street - don't be a parasite

          -        as much as lieth in you be at best pf  terms with work place colleagues - they can make or mar you

5.      Commit to Truth and Honesty

          -        they are like twins, one cannot be found without the other

          -        truth makes you sleep well at night

          -        honesty still pays great dividends

          -        both are adornments for a person of character

6.      Commit to Gratitude

          -        Being  grateful on daily basis for what you have places you at a higher level to receive what else you need

          -        gratitude is still the best attitude

          -        Cultivate the habit of giving thanks for every experience and every interaction life sends your way, either good or bad because all of them are meant to contribute to your growth and evolution.

7.      Commit to being Open and Receptive

          -        stop being fixated on certain expectations of yours. Life has its own plans for you, be open to learn from life and humble enough to receive her lessons

          -        Grow as your learn

8.    Commit to being Malleable and Adaptable

       -      Allow life to shape you and to mold you in a majestically and graceful way.

       -      you can bloom where-ever you are planted

9.    Commit to Surrender

       -      Surrender to what is

       -      stop swimming against the tide

       -      stop trying to reinvent the wheel

10.         Commit to Letting Go

              -      Let go of fixed plans and concepts and allow events to follow their natural course

              -      stop sweating the small stuff

              -      choose the battles you want to engage in

              -      stop throwing stones at every dog that barks at you on your life's journey

11. Commit to Accept Life

              -      Accept life unconditionally and trust that it’s all happening for your highest good

              -      accept that you are a child of the Universe and you are here to thrive

              -      Accept that with faith and perseverance, you shall arrive at your destiny

12.         Commit to Embrace your Daily Challenges

              -      Embrace with grace all that you face on daily basis

              -      remember that every challenge is for an experience and a lesson to be learnt

       - stop complaining about how bad things are, they could be worse

13.         Commit to Be Soft

              -      Be soft, fluid and yielding, just like water is, and you will overcome whatever is rigid and hard

              -      be angry but act not in anger

14.         Commit to Trust.

              -      Trust that God is your Ultimate Provider and Defender

              -      Trust that you are quipped to live life to the max

              - Trust that other beings are here for your good even if they do you bad

       Trust the wisdom of life more than your own wisdom.

15.         Commit to living in the Moment

              -      Treasure the moment. Don’t let it pass by you unnoticed

              -      stop worrying about the things you have no control over

       -      enjoy the moment you are in, the next minute is neither promised nor guaranteed

16. Commit to being of Good Cheer Always

              -      Be of good cheer, there is always another way

              -      do not carry the problems of the world on your shoulders, do the beat you can and allow others to do theirs

              -      there is no state of absolute nothingness, there's something you have that another is searching for

17.  Commit to Reading at least a Book every 3 months

              -      read widely, read voraciously

              -      reading helps you to learn more, travel more, and engage more

              -      reading helps to keep your brain cells very functional and active

18.         Commit to Speaking from the Heart

       -      Speak with love, speak from the heart. Speak in such a way that people love to listen to you.

       -      And when people talk, listen with your heart. Listen in such a way that they all love to speak to you.

 19.      Commit to Work with Love

       -      Whatever you do in life, work at it with all your heart.

       -      Work at it with love, passion, and dedication,

 20.  Commit to Becoming all that life created you to become

       -      Be who life created you to be, not who the world thinks you should be. “Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” ~ Catherine of Siena

21.  Commit to a Mentor/Life Coach

       -      A Mentor is your Accountability Partner

       -      Mentoring shortens the learning curve

       -      Mentoring bridges the acquisition of the 10, 000 hours you need to master any art

There you have them

Make them a daily diet and conquer the year

May the year bring you all that your heart and soul desire, and may you receive all your blessings, obvious or disguised, with grace and gratitude 

All the best

#successwithdrjerrythefirst

You Need To Get Out Of Your Head

 

Read This Until It Sinks In

 

You Need To Get Out Of Your Head!

 

Sometime in 2018, I went on a hospital visitation and met a 10 year old girl in the Paediatrics Ward. On inquiry, I was told that she was battling a rare and aggressive type of cancer and that she was admitted for her 14th surgery in three years. Good gracious I exclaimed - 14th surgery in three years? How is she coping I asked my informant? She directed me to meet the patient and ask her that question.

So I approached her (her Parents and 2 other siblings were there) and I said "Young Lady, how are doing today?"

"I am not a young Lady yet Sir, she replied because I am yet to be 16 years"

"As for how I am doing, I must tell you Sir that every day I wake up and see the brightness of the day is a great blessing to me"

Was I surprised at her reply?

For a child who has passed through 13 surgeries and awaiting the 14th, to utter such words of appreciation to God showed me the quality of her heart and mindset.

I was then informed by her Parents that even after all the medical procedures and surgeries, they've never seen her frown—they've never seen her skip a beat. Although the odds continue to work against her, they are certain her attitude, acceptance and presence are the principal reasons she has lived so well to this point. She’s still positively engaged in living her life to the fullest. She laughs and plays with her friends and family. She has realistic, intelligent goals for the upcoming year that she’s already working on.

I then compared her attitude to that of some Adults I have also met and who complained and stressed and sweated over their health states.

If a kid like her can go through everything she’s been through and wake up every day with enthusiasm for the life she’s living, what reason do you have for thinking the worst about your situation?

It has been found out that most adults are hard wired for negativity and that is the main reason why we obsess over things, why we tend to see more negativities than positivities, why we confess lack instead of wealth and why we carry all those self-destructive fantasies in our heads.

Some of us are incredibly fortunate to be alive and healthy, and yet we sit at home most nights thinking the opposite. We don’t necessarily do this consciously or intensely, but we do it. We fantasize about how life ‘should’ be different than it is—how everything should be better, easier, more enjoyable and so forth. And these fantasies are slowly wrecking our attitudes and abilities to make progress on the things that are important to us.

And so today I want to ask you to get out of your head.

You would have realized that the older you grow, and the more real-world tragedies and challenges you witness, the more you realize how incredibly blessed you are, and how frequently the fantasies in your head hold you back from these present blessings. In fact, you’ve likely fantasized your way into headaches and heartaches dozens of times in the past year alone.

We all do this to a greater or lesser extent

We stress ourselves out, because of fantasies.

We procrastinate to the point of failure, because of fantasies.

We get angry with others, with ourselves, and with the world at large, because of fantasies.

We miss out on many of life’s most beautiful and peaceful moments, because of fantasies.

So today, I challenge you to move through this day and practice seeing the real life right in front of you as it truly is.

Do what you have to do without fantasizing and fearing the worst, lamenting about what might happen, or obsessing over how unfair everything is.

See others and accept them without hasty judgments. Choose not to allow their behavior to dominate your thoughts and emotions. Just be present and accepting. Then decide if you want to spend extra time with them (or extra time thinking about them). If not, part ways with dignity.

Replace your fantasies with full presence

And invest your best into what you’ve got right in front of you.

Wishing you a great day

#successwithdrjerrythefirst

5 Things Everyone Should Do In The First Week Of 2021

5 Things Everyone Should Do In The First Week Of 2021

 

The first week of any new year is usually the first week of the first month which is January and so 2021 is not any different.

The first week of January is the period 1st to 7th of January and we wish to advise on what should be done in order to enjoy a successful year

1.      Bid Farewell To 2020

Many a time, even though the last year ended on the 31st of December, we still carry issues of the old year into the new year - some might even last as long as the first 6 months.

We wish to advise that you conclude everything about 2020 - all the failures, the adverse effects of the corona virus, maybe the loved ones lost to death, maybe bad business environment, maybe bad economic condition, the hurts, the blackmails, the betrayals  - everything - conclude everything, get 2020 over and done with.

Don’t carry the garbage of the past year into the new year.

Are there people you need to forgive? Ask God for help to do that.

2.      Make A Decision On What You Really Want In 2021

During the cross over night service, most persons are led to make certain resolutions they intend to keep in the coming year.

Statistics has shown that most resolutions do not last more than 2 weeks and this is majorly because they were made on the spur of the moment and were not really intentional.

To really decide what you want in a period of time, you have to be intentional about it. This may seem a tough nut to crack but it can be cracked.

Just take out time, sit by yourself, ruminate in yourself and ask yourself certain questions - the answers you provide to those questions will lead you into deciding on what you REALLY want in 2021.

Don't delay the exercise - later never comes

3.      Look Out For Persons Of Like Mindedness And Get A Team Going

To be successful, you have to mill around successful people.

If you have made up your mind on what you really want, then you have to look around your friends zone for persons who are forward looking and upwardly mobile to band them into a team.

One person can achieve so much but a team can achieve so much more

4.      Conduct A SWOT Analysis On Yourself

This analysis will help you to create your balance sheet - a process that will help to improve the areas of life where you have lacked or not performed well in the outgone year. When you gain balance, movement is steady, smooth and successful.

5.      Get A Coach

It is obvious that some one or some persons have done what you want to do and did it so well that they were adjudged successful.

The popular saying that you don't need to reinvent the wheel is still very apt.

So, seek and locate someone who has achieved that which you dream of and get close to him or her, ask them to Coach or Mentor you.

A Coach will shorten your learning curve and help you to conserve the 10000 hours you need to perfect any skill.

A Coach acts as your accountability partner - We all have blind spots and it takes a good eye to see it and help us through those areas.

That's it.

We believe that if you put these 5 things in perspective and actually do implement them, your story will not be the same by December 31st 2021.

We wish you God's speed

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

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This Is 2021 - Take Responsibility

 

This Is 2021 - Take Responsibility

Every man born of a woman and every woman brought into this world by another woman has a mission and is already equipped to carry out that mission.

It is expected that when a man or woman comes of age (usually at 18), he or she is expected to pursue that mission relentlessly until it is achieved.

If you are of age and you are a man, I need to remind you that Obi cannot continue to be a boy every year

And if you are a woman and you are of age, I would also like to remind you that Ada cannot continue to be a girl every year.

This is 2021, man up or woman up to your responsibilities- most especially take responsibility for your own life - God is the Owner of your life but He has graciously ceded the living of it to you and He has given you the Will Power to live it well.

So, go do it

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

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4 Golden Pieces Of Advice For 2021

 

4 Golden Pieces Of Advice For 2021

There is really nothing new under the Sun. These pieces of advice are as old as mankind itself but only very few adhere to them and make their lives and the living of it much more worth the while.

Take a good look at these areas of your life, and if they are not in good order, maybe the advise thereafter will help

1.     Your HEALTH

It is popularly said that prevention is better than cure and these days we even say that prevention is cheaper than cure.

Don't wait until you get knocked down by sickness before you go to see a  qualified Medical Doctor (Always ask to see a Medical Doctor - many people are answering Doctors now because they have Ph. D. and some are answering Doctors even when they have no such qualifications)

Other things to do concerning your health

-       Eat well

-       Sleep well

-       Exercise well

-       worry less

-       drink lots of water - plain old water - tasteless, colourless, odourless

-       mind your own business

2.     Your MONEY

Create a 2nd income stream or third or fourth (there can be no end to it)

To do this

-       Go to bed early, rise up early

-       Cut down on TV watching time

-       Keep away from negativities and negative people

-       Work hard (I have never heard that anyone died from hard work)

-       Work smartly too

-       Go online - the internet was invented for you to use

-       Pray always and without ceasing

3.     Your FINANCES

You need to learn how to manage your money so that you can create wealth for yourself and your family

To do this:

-       Live within your income

-       Spend less than you earn

-       Invest the remaining

-       Budget for what you want and save towards it

-       As much as lieth in you NEVER BORROW to buy anything

-       Never try to impress anyone - nobody is actually interested

-       That old adage - cut your coat according to your cloth is still very apt now

4.     OTHERS

-       JOY is innate, allow it to flow out in season and out of season

-       The door to HAPPINESS is always open, don't let things and people decide when you can be happy

-       LOVE is the ultimate - don't cheat on your spouse if you are married and if you are in a committed relationship don't cheat also

-       CHILDREN are gifts from God but ensure to train them in the nature and nurture of the Lord

2021 is here

Use it well

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

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In Victory Be Honest

 

True Life Story

 

Kenyan runner Abel Mutai was only a few meters from the finish line, but got confused with the signs and stopped, thinking he had finished the race.

A Spanish man, Ivan Fernandez, was right behind him and, realizing what was going on, started shouting to the Kenyan to keep running. Mutai did not know Spanish and did not understand.

Realizing what was going on, Fernandez pushed Mutai to victory.

After the race, a reporter asked Ivan, "Why did you do this?" Ivan replied, "My dream is that one day we can have some sort of community life where we push ourselves and help each other win."

The reporter insisted "But why did you let the Kenyan win?" Ivan replied, "I didn't let him win, he was going to win. The race was his."

The reporter insisted and asked again, "But you could have won!" Ivan looked at him and replied: "But what would be the merit of my victory? What would be the honor of this medal? What would my Mother think of it?"

From his responses, Ivan taught us one of the biggest life lessons that no victory is more valuable than being honest. Another person would have taken advantage of Abel's confusion but Ivan did not. He wanted to have a clear conscience after the race. To him taking advantage of someone's mistakes or confusion is akin to dishonesty and his Mother taught him to be honest in all things and at all time.

While most of us take advantage of people's weaknesses, true strength lies in helping them.

In this new year 2021, I want everyone of us to win; let's work together and help each other so we can push one another to the finishing line.

We all deserve victory

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How Can We Help Each Other To Grow In 2021

 

How Can We Help Each Other To Grow In 2021?

If you are a writer (Blogger) or Youtuber or a network marketer or a small business owner, you know how important traffic is to your link or site and you also know that when two or more persons come together to collaborate, they can make these posts and links gain traction in the social media.

That is why in this 2021, I wish to interact more with my family, friends, fans and followers and I hope you wish to do so with me too.

In order to make this happen, we need to enter into some form of social media contract to support each other for free

This is how we can do this

1.      When I share my Blog Post link to you (either by facebook inbox or telegram dm or whatsapp dm), Don't just pass over it.

Click on the link and read the Post.

We write to educate, entertain and to inform

I will do same for yours if you send it to me

2.      Don't just read my Blog post, share it if it resonated with you

          sharing is caring

          I will do same for yours if you are a Blogger or Writer

3.      Don't just say OK or THANKS if you have not read the Blog Post, read it first

          I will read yours too, if you send the link to me

4.      Don't just read the Blog post, make a comment. Your comment helps us to know that you visited the Post and that you read it, Moreover, your comment helps us to know if we are in the right direction or the wrong and it helps you to let out what you have in your mind

5.      Don't just like the Youtube video and leave, be social and share it to your social media friends

We need each other to grow in 2021, let's do it for real

Thanks for reading

#SuccesswithDrJTF

It's Here - Finally Year 2021 Has Arrived

 

It's Here - Finally Year 2021 Has Arrived

 

Hurray, finally Year 2021 has made its grand entry into our lives.

Since the 1st of December 2020, we have been waiting and expecting to see January 1 2021.

We fasted, we prayed, we went to the Mountain and slept on the plains, We went up the Hills to have a foresight of the year but No, we did not, all we could do was wish and wish and wish.

Finally our wish has come true. God in His Infinite Mercies has led us by His Mighty Hand and brought us into 2021

So, this is the new year, the year 2021.

What are you going to do with it?

That's a personal question and no one else can answer it for you but we can only suggest that whatever you choose to do with this year, do not abandon the driver's seat on your ship - Your Life is your very own space ship - be on the driver's seat, take responsibility for your life. Stop allowing others to rent your grey matter, put it to effective use for yourself. It is time for you to be the Architect and Builder of your own life and the Master and Captain of your own soul

There is GOD and under Him I pronounce unto you that in

This Year - 2021

You shall experience growth and elevation

Your borders shall be expanded and your coasts enlarged

God shall perfect all that concerns you, He shall fight your battles and you shall just hold your peace

No weapon fashioned against you shall prosper and every tongue that shall rise up in judgement against you shall be condemned

God shall be Your Provider, Protector, Shield and Guardian and under His very watchful Eyes, nothing shall be by any means hurt you.

It's a year of manifold blessings and you have been rightly positioned to appropriate the blessings

Always be grateful

Happy New Year

And a very prosperous one

Always be Blessed and be Happy

Dr. Oguzie Jerry - the First: JP