International Day Of Happiness

Every year on the 20th of March, the World celebrates International Day of Happiness.

The essence is to help world citizens keep at bay all issues that buffet them in their lives and just be happy.

I keyed into this maxim so many years ago when I realized that my happiness is really not dependent on the things I have achieved in life or the things I own, not even in the Wife and Children but in knowing that Christ came and died for me and that God is always there with and for me despite the circumstances and situations.

But I know that some people still think that their happiness is dependent on achieving one thing or the other; if only they can learn from me that happiness is not an event but a journey.

If your happiness is dependent on your achievements, then it will always be ephemeral and transient, because as soon as the euphoria of the achievement wears off, you enter into a despondent mood again.

When your happiness streams from inside because of the love of God in you, no matter what is happening around you, you'd always muster the courage to be happy.

Though we keep getting bad news about persons who take their own lives, it is really tragic but no one has the right to take his or her own life NO MATTER WHAT.

No matter how much the vicissitudes of life bellow on us, SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION

Today, just be happy and enjoy your life

#DrJTF

Tomorrow Is Never Promised

I woke up this morning with this thought burning in my heart and that thought is "the fact that most people tend to postpone happiness to a time when they are properly positioned and balanced to be able to enjoy it" and I was like, what the heck!!!!

Happiness is not a commodity that can be kept in the shelf and then brought out once in a while to be cleaned and admired.

Happiness is not in the things we obsessively possess, oh yes those might bring us some happiness but that is temporary

Happiness is actually in our DNA because when God created man, He gave him the marching orders and in those orders was contained the blueprint for happiness.

Invariably therefore, happiness is on our inside, it streams from who we are, it is a lifestyle and that lifestyle is shown in our everyday living.

Postponing happiness to tomorrow or to some time in the future when we have gathered all that we want to gather is not in comformity with the marching orders given to man by God.

And this is because tomorrow is not promised, here is one thing that God hid from mankind, to know when and how they would pass away from this sphere.

Passing away from this space is neither age dependent nor is it gender or class dependent.

Tomorrow rests with the Lord, today is all that we have and even that today is just the minute that we are still breathing and so while we have the opportunity to live, let's be happy for who we are, for what we have and for what we have become.

For as long as a man is still alive, there are things to be done, goals to be met, dreams to be dreamt of and hurdles to jump over.

Let this thought be in your mind, that happiness is intrinsic and should always be expressed irrespective of what is happening around and about.

Always be happy

#DrJTF

She Chose To Be Happy, How About You?

Nobody Can Make You Unhappy But YOU

Greetings of the new day my good Friends.

Today I just want to share with you the truth inherent in the above title of this post.

Many a time, many of us look up to external factors to make us happy and thus our happiness becomes contiguous upon some affair or activity or achievement.

We say to ourselves, if only I become a graduate, I would be the happiest person on earth, and then we go on to graduate, of course we become happy but only for a short while because after graduation comes the need to get a job.

And then we shift our happiness again to getting a job, so we say, I will be the happiest person on earth the day I get a well paying job, this takes a while to come and we continue to hiss and complain and fret while looking out for the job; then when we eventually get one, because it was not what we are expecting, we decide to manage it and though we are a little bit happy but we do not really express our full happiness at being employed; so instead of working at our jobs, we suck at them; we go late to work, gossip most of the time in the office, leave most jobs unfinished for the day, and then leave early for home; we make ourselves sad because we do not have the "well paying job" that we dreamt of.

I could go on and on to elucidate the various conditions we give to ourselves that would determine our happiness but my friend, you can see that that conditional happiness never lasts.

The happiness that lasts comes from within and streams from an advanced mind that recognizes that whatever comes his way does not define him, but how he reacts to that is what actually defines him.

A settled mind knows that life is fleeting and that one cannot postpone his or her happiness for a later date because no one can be happy in arrears.

The inner quality that makes the man who is happy always to so express it is the realization that whatever he has is given to him by the Creator and he lives with gratitude.

When you are grateful for the things you already have and even if you have nothing (which is an absolute impossibility), you are still ALIVE; being alive should be a source of internal happiness.

Today, strive to brew your own happiness right from inside of you; be happy for what you have and who you already are, by so doing, you arm Providence to do more for you and to take you higher.

Thanks for reading, do share your own opinion on this matter with me as you drop a comment using the comment box below.

Have a great day

Dr. Jerry - the First: JP

#DrJTF

6 Things That Happy People Avoid Like The Plague

 Happiness is a choice that everyone can make in their lifetime.

The key to happiness is simply in the way you view yourself and the world around you.

There are millions of people who are truly happy while there are others who create obstacles that prevent them from achieving happiness.

Happy people have habits that keep them happy while the unhappy people remain depressed. Below is a list of the 6 things happy people avoid doing.

1. Thinking Negatively

Unhappy people turn a blind eye to all the right things in the world and only focus on the wrong.

They can easily be spotted from miles away.

People who think negatively always end up being depressed and unhappy.

They are the miserable people who always complain about anything and everything and are always expecting negative outcomes.

Happy people are optimistic people who always view the glass as half full and are always looking for more in their lives.

They know the problems our world faces but keep an eye on the positives.

Bad things and good things happen, and happy people know that good and bad things are a way of the world.

Happy people are well aware of the global issues, but only choose to see what is right.

When bad things happen, fix it, and focus on the good things around you.

When you think positively, you experience happiness.

2. Blaming Other People

Unhappy people always blame other people when things go wrong and believe that they are the reason for their misery.

They lack confidence in people and believe that other people cannot be trusted.

They believe that there is not enough fortune to be shared, and people are always stealing from their own.

Blaming other people is psychologically disempowering and is the easiest way to unhappiness.

Blaming people causes misery and creates a circle of despair.

To be happy, you need to take personal responsibility even when the problems may be caused by someone else.

Happy people believe in trusting their fellow men and know that no one is out to get them.

They know that they possess a blueprint that cannot be taken away from them by anyone.

They are aware of the infinite possibilities and take daily steps to achieve their goals.

Happy people are focused on their ability and manage their lives and their happiness effectively.

They focus on their options even when the outside forces are closing up on them.

3. Seeking Revenge

 Holding on to resentment only intensifies one’s misery and sadness.

Seeking revenge creates resentment that eats up people from the inside causing stress and depression.

Unhappy people harbor the evil feelings of revenge and can never rise above them.

The past always remains the past for a reason.

There is a special feeling of freedom when you let go of the anger and give up on seeking revenge.

Happy people know that seeking revenge will never bring them the happiness they desire.

They may be deeply hurt, but they never try to avenge.

Happy people always make peace, forgive and move on with their lives.

When you learn to forgive, you enjoy a unique type of freedom and let go of the past.

To be happy, you must make peace with the past and focus entirely on the future.

Rise above revenge, live that up to karma and create your own happiness.

4. Giving Up

Unhappy people give up simply when the effort they are putting into something does not lead to the expected results.

They put in a limited effort to help themselves and constantly see themselves as victims of life.

They have negative attitudes and can never find their way through to the other side.

If you are constantly doing easy things and wishing that things were different, and you are not putting in enough effort, you are heading to failure and unhappiness.

Always dream and hope and create your way out of any situation.

Pull yourself together and look for a solution.

Happy people know that life is hard and bounce through tough times with their heads held high.

They persevere towards problem-solving, get themselves out of the mess and never consider themselves as victims.

Accomplish the goals you have set without relenting and you will enhance your happiness.

Failure is temporary.

Get up and try again.

5. Gossiping

Miserable people live in the past and make their misery a topic of conversation.

They engage in the petty behavior of gossiping once they have run out of words to express their unhappiness.

People who gossip are those whose lives are not fulfilling making them pathetic and jealous.

They seek to find faults in others so as to feel better. Negative talk only leads to further misery and unhappiness.

There is no reason for a happy person to gossip about someone or act jealous towards others.

Happy people are content with themselves, want to improve and always ignore the societal pressure.

They never compare themselves to others and take pleasure in celebrating the success of others.

You can only feel positive vibes from across the rooms of happy people.

Always think before you speak and if you have nothing good to say, do not

say anything at all.

6. Having Expectations

Unrealistic expectations most often set us up for painful disappointments.

People face the big challenge of learning to accept people just as they are. Expectation is a very big word that is quite hard and static.

When constantly expecting others to be in a specific way, we are regularly disappointed and unhappy.

Happy people go into situations having open minds without any pressure of living up to the preconceived expectations.

They know their value and do not look up to other people to confirm their self-worth.

View life optimistically but always leave room for other outcomes and it may just turn out to be way better than you hoped for.

You are more than capable of creating your own happiness, therefore, look within yourself and never at others to be happy.

Regardless of the outcome, stay in the present and let life run its course.

http://www.fitwellnews.com/2015/05/6-things-that-happy-people-avoid

7 Habits Of People Who Are Happy At Work

When it comes to the research results on happiness in the American workforce, the statistics are not flattering.

A recent survey by the staffing firm Manpower Group discovered that nearly two-thirds of American and Canadian workers were not happy in their job.

A recent Gallup survey found that close to 60% of American workers were unhappy enough in their jobs to want a new career.

Most of us have found ourselves in a job that was not fulfilling at some point.

While psychologists and social scientists believe some of our happiness is predetermined by our genes, at least a major portion of it is within our control.

Regardless of your situation at work, here are seven habits that people who have found happiness at their jobs have mastered.

1. THEY HAVE COMMITTED TO CONTINUOUSLY IMPROVING AS A LIFETIME GOAL.

Happier people believe in doing the best they can whether or not they are given credit for the work they do.

Giving their best makes them feel better about themselves. It creates character, builds self-regard, and forms good work habits that will benefit them in the future regardless if anyone in their present position notices or cares.

2. THEY HAVE GOALS WORTH STRIVING FOR.

People with clear goals they are working toward are able to look beyond everyday workplace irritants and problems.

They know they will be temporary, and are able to see beyond them.

When things are not going well, they focus on their goals instead of the negative situation that surrounds them at work.

3. THEY DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN ISSUES BEYOND THEIR CONTROL.

Happier people don’t let themselves get emotionally caught up in negative vibes or gossip that is toxic in the workplace.

They focus on the work at hand and on what they are able to do.

They avoid getting involved in issues and conflicts that do not involve them and are beyond their area of involvement.

They always focus their attention and energies on areas they have control over, which gives them a sense of satisfaction,

4. THEY ARE WILLING TO HELP OTHERS.

Happy people are always looking for ways they can help others.

Researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison found that people who helped others at work were happier than those who didn’t.

While helping others can lead to promotion, there are also warm feelings of satisfaction that come from helping out our fellow human beings.

5. THEY AVOID NEGATIVE PEOPLE AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.

When coming across a negative person or chronic complainer at work, happy people find ways to try to refocus on coming up with solutions or looking at the situation from another angle.

Their positive energy often causes complainers and whiners to avoid them since they know they will not receive a sympathetic ear.

Happy people are aware that negative people are an energy drain, and find ways to limit the amount of time that they have to spend with them.

6. THEY MAKE GRATITUDE AN INTEGRAL PART OF THEIR LIFE.

While they strive for more in life, happy people are constantly aware of all the reasons they have to be grateful.

They express their gratitude freely and openly, and are quick to offer thanks to those who help them or do a kind deed.

This attitude of gratitude attracts people to the positive energy that they give off. Colleagues want to be around them and work with them.

When things are not going well, they choose to focus on all of the things that have gone well in their lives.

7. THEY MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS AND HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR.

Happy people automatically try to make the most of every situation, whether at work, home, or play.

They have discovered they can change their emotions by smiling or thinking of humorous situations.

They are also able to distract themselves by thinking of pleasant, happy, fun times and places.

Whenever a situation comes up that threatens to engulf them in negative energy, they rely on their ability to rise above it and remain in a positive mental space.

http://www.fastcompany.com/3045979/know-it-all/7-habits-of-people-who-are-happy-at-work