Who Said It'd Be Easy?

It's not easy

It's hard to change your life

I'm talking about the problem in your life

I don't know how you're handling it but you just have to handle it

because the problem will not just go away on its own,

you've got to handle it.

You can't sleep it away,

you can't drink it away;

you'll wake up from your sleep and it's right there beside you starring you in the face

tormenting you

You'd become sober after your drunken stupor and it will be right there hurting you the more; it's always tugging at the very fabric of your soul, you wish it's not there but anywhere and everywhere you look, it's waving at you and tormenting you

So I'm telling you today to DEAL with your problem;

and the sooner you deal with it, the sooner you get your rewards,

the sooner you get on the other side of it, the sooner you begin to feel fulfillment

The sooner you get on the other side of your problem, the sooner you'd be on the side of self-actualization and your dream becomes a reality

The sooner you get on the other side of your problem, the sooner you'd find out that there-in lies the world of success

The sooner you deal with the fact that you have anxieties, the sooner you'd be a free person

Deal with it, it's not the end of the world

Deal with the problem because when you do, you'd create a solution for it and you just get over it - Deal with it

That you and your children don't have the best of relationships - deal with it

Deal with the fact that you are procrastinating

Deal with the fact that it's hard for you to execute things

Deal with the fact that every time something happens, you're so worried about it

Deal with the fact that you have this attack of nerves (anxiety) every time you're about to reach another level of success

Deal with the fact that you're struggling with your success

Deal with the fact that you feel guilty that you're successful - deal with it

Start working on your dream

Most people don't work on their dreams because of either the fear of failure - they can't handle shame because they don't think it will work out - or fear of success - what if things work out and they can't handle it? -

Again most people don't work on their dreams because they become comfortable with who they are at the present time - that's their comfort zone -

they stop growing,

they stop working on themselves,

they stop stretching, they stop pushing themselves,

they stop expanding and start contracting and they end up becoming cynical about life and they then throw in the towel on themselves, on their family members, on their dreams.

And the other thing is that most people don't feel worthy of success because they did not have a College Degree or they take to heart what other people are saying to them and they do not believe in themselves and so they fail to act on their ideas.

Let  me tell you something my friend

All you need to achieve success is a belief in yourself and your capabilities and a belief in your Creator - Your Silent Senior Partner -

So it's possible for you to choose your future and to create it

but to do that, it's necessary for you to work on yourself and develop yourself

It's necessary that you get the energy drainers out of your life - people who don't want anything out of life, people who are not challenging themselves anymore,

people who are no longer striving,

people who have given up on life,

people who are not growing,

people who have stopped dreaming -

these are the energy drainers you need to extrude them out of your life

It's necessary that you align yourself with people who are hungry for success,

people who are unstoppable,

people who are refusing to live life just as it is (default mode), people who are asking more out of life,

people who would not take no for an answer.

There's this popular saying that "birds of the same feather flock together"

so if you run around with losers, you'll end up a loser.

It's necessary that you get the losers out of your life

If you want to change your life's default mode, it's necessary that you realize that no one is going to do that for you except you

And even though you face disappointments, even though you experience some set backs, it all comes with the territory.

If you are starting something new and you call for meetings and no one attends, even if someone says to you "count me in" and they don't come around, you won't just give up on yourself, you've got to continue believing in yourself, you've got to continue visioning your dreams and goals

and you've got to keep saying "It's never over until I win, until I succeed"

To succeed, you'll encounter difficulties, you'll meet obstacles, you'd fail severally, you'd be disappointed severally, even by your own family and trusted friends,

you'd suffer lots of setbacks,

you'd suffer anguish and pains, defeat will laugh at you most times

but if each you fall down, you rise again, you shall overcome.

The trials and temptations will teach you things that you didn't know you possessed like the fact that you have greatness inside of you,

the fact that you are powerful beyond measure

and the subtle fact that you're greater than your circumstances

and that you can't afford to go through life as if you were a victim when just a little more push would tilt you down the road to victory.

So I want to invite you right now to think about that your dream - yes that dream that won't let you have peace of mind,

that dream that won't let you sleep well,

that dream that makes your heart skip a beat, that dream that you wish you had all the money in the world to chase, pursue and close it in - yes that your dream

I want you to begin to envision it right now, visualize its completion, its attainment

Fears To Overcome When Successful

If you want to succeed live in life, you must overcome your biggest fears.

Some fears hold us back more than others. The nasty ones are like straight-jackets that restrain our abilities, making our dreams an impossibility. To be successful, you need to confront them head on.

Here are seven common fears that you must overcome to be truly successful.

1. Fear of criticism

Many people are afraid to live their dreams for fear of what others may think and say about them. Recently, I received a letter from a college student. “My parents want me to finish my master's degree, but I'm ready to start my business,” he wrote. “They would think I'm crazy if I dropped out now. What should I do?"

This is a common theme from many people. But making decisions based on what people think -- even your closest friends and family -- will debilitate you for the rest of your life. Instead, think about what these same people would say if you did achieve success. To this college student, my advice is to think about what your parents would say if your business did succeed -- would they be proud of you? What if it was the best decision you’ve ever made? It very well could be.

2. Fear of poverty

Many people are stuck in “survival mode.”

"I'm 26 years old and I'm trapped in a cubicle for 40 hours a week,” a man recently wrote me. “I pay the bills and live an average life, but I know I can have a better job and reach my fullest potential. I'm tired of being bored and I want to use my gifts. However, I'm afraid that I'll run out of money. What do you suggest?"

The fear of poverty is crippling. However, this young man did express in his email that he had $10,000 in savings, which would be enough to help him quit his job for a few months and look for his dream occupation or business. Too many people settle for mediocrity because they think they must “survive” instead of “thrive.” The fear of poverty should never hold you back from your dreams.

3. Fear of old age (and death)

There's a certain age where many people quit at life. Benjamin Franklin once said, "Most people die at 25 and are buried at 75." For some people, this metaphorical death -- when they decide to settle for a mediocre lifestyle -- comes earlier than 25. These people figure they can't make it happen, so they end up quitting in advance.

Fear of old age can also be harmful when a person has to go through a major career transition. The thinking often goes something like this: "I'm 46. How do you expect me to learn about real estate if I've been in health insurance all my life? Plus, it has to work out perfectly, otherwise I won't be able to support my family."

In the end, however, age is far less important than your belief in yourself.

4. Fear of failure  

This is when most people ask the “what if” question. Except typically, they phrase it in a negative way such as: “What if it doesn't work? What if no one likes it? What if it fails?"

These are the wrong questions. Instead of thinking about all the ways you may fail, concentrate on all the ways you may succeed! Even if you fail or make a mistake, it gives you a chance to reflect and correct. You must fail before you succeed. Every master was once a disaster. So go ahead and try!

5. Fear of offending others

Here’s what someone told me the other day:

"I'm not going to call Human Resources until THEY call me for the job. Plus, I'll end up offending them and I don't want them to think I'm too needy. I'll just wait by the phone and they'll follow-up. If I don't get it, then it wasn't meant to be. And anyways, if I call them, it might ruin my chances and then I'll never get the job!"

This is the wrong approach. I firmly believe people must be audacious in their actions if they are going to achieve their dreams. Many people are afraid of offending others with their self-promotion for fear that it comes across as “arrogance.” However, no one will recognize your talents unless you show them.

6. Fear of looking foolish

Many times, we look at our wardrobes and say, "I won't wear that today. It will look foolish. Maybe another time." But why not now? We often act as if what we want to do is wrong, but we need to have more faith in our decision-making ability. We need to test our abilities, whether we are going to give a speech, write articles, shoot videos or anything else.

Some of the greatest decisions in the world were fortuitous. Time after time, people have spontaneously deviated from their original plans and meandered their way into success. Find out who you are and what fits your style. Often, you'll have to start by finding out who you aren't. Trust your gut and know that you're making the right decision--every time. You'll only look foolish if you don't do anything at all.

7. Fear of success

Too often, people are afraid of becoming themselves. They are afraid of their true “self-expression,” which is what real success is all about. They watch others and say, "You know, I could do that too" or "Why couldn't that be me?" In reality, there are afraid of receiving the same level of fame, wealth, recognition and love.

Many of us were taught that we could never be truly successful in life. Many families operate on the belief system that becoming successful is unrealistic, so they never push their kids. They assume success is impossible because they haven't seen it for themselves. Instead of adopting this mindset, believe that you will achieve massive success down the road.

At the end of the day, all of the above fears can be overcome by faith and purpose. If you know what you want and take the necessary actions to overcome your fears, you will achieve far more in your life than if you are held back by doubt and uncertainty.

Original Article:     Fears To Overcome

Associate Professor At 27 Years Old, He Beat His Mates Handsdown

Here's the productivity formula one Wharton professor uses to outwork almost everyone in his field

In 2009, 27-year-old behavioral scientist Adam Grant became an associate professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.

Within two years, he became the youngest professor to receive tenure at the school; within five years, he became the school's youngest full professor with around 60 peer-reviewed research papers under his belt.

Now, at 34, Grant is a New York Times bestselling author and prolific researcher who performs at a level typically far beyond his years.

Grant decided early in his career that productivity was a scientific problem that could be solved, and one of the fundamental components of his solution is doing "deep work," Georgetown professor and author Cal Newportwrites in his new book "Deep Work". It's a phrase Newport coined for intense sessions of distraction-free work that requires the full use of one's focus and intelligence.

It's a simple formula, Newport says: "High quality work produced = (time spent) x (intensity of focus)."

Newport writes that "there's one idea in particular that seems central to his method: the batching of hard but important intellectual work into long, uninterrupted stretches."

Rather than continuously work on research throughout the year, Grant reserves the fall semester for his teaching responsibilities, and the effort that he puts into his classes and students has resulted in Grant's being Wharton's top-rated professor for four straight years.

The spring semester and summer are then dedicated to research. When he's working in his office, he'll sometimes spend a few days working in total isolation. During these stretches, Grant will set up an email auto-reply telling people he's not answering messages for a few days.

"It sometimes confuses my colleagues," Grant told Newport. "They say, 'You're not out of office, I see you in your office right now!'"

In a 2009 research paper, University of Minnesota business professor Sophie Leroy explains that every time a brain shifts its attention from one task to another, part of its energy is still processing the first task. She calls this "attention residue."

When people discipline themselves to focus on one task only, their brain utilizes energy more efficiently, which Newport argues can result in more and better quality work.

"When Grant is working for days in isolation on a paper," Newport writes, "he's doing so at a higher level of effectiveness than the standard professor following a more distracted strategy in which the work is repeatedly interrupted by residue-slathering interruptions."

Source:     Wharton Professor Adam Grant Uses Deep Work For Maximum Productivity

5 Things Successful People Do Each Morning

1.      They wake up early

Many successful professionals and political figures, from Square CEO Jack Dorsey to the U.K.’s former Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher, believe in an early start to the day.  

If you’re a self-proclaimed night owl, consider taking this seven-day challenge set by Fast Company’s Rachel Gillett.

Click on the following link to find out what happened when Rachel and her readers woke up ‘insanely early’ for one week.

2.      They make time to exercise

Exercising, even for as little as 30 minutes each morning, can make a world of difference throughout your workday.

In fact, when you exercise in the morning, your metabolism gets triggered and remains elevated for hours, helping you feel energized throughout the day.

Carve out time in the morning, before your workday begins, to get in your workout.  C

an’t be bothered with the gym? Check out this 30-minute workout from Health.com.

3.      They eat a healthy breakfast

This one should be a no-brainer by now. Scientists and successful professionals alike have been lauding the benefits of a good breakfast for decades.

Breakfast provides the nutrients and energy needed to jump-start your day after fasting for six to ten hours overnight.

Willpower is also at its highest in the morning, so choosing a healthy breakfast sets the tone for the decisions made during the rest of the day.

 Strapped for time? Prep your food the night before, and try out one of these 34 healthy breakfasts for busy mornings.

4.      They meditate

According to the Huffington Post, meditation helps lower stress levels, improve cognitive functioning, creative thinking and productivity, and can even improve your physical health.

Because of this, many corporate leaders are finding that meditation helps them deal with the stress and pace of their high-pressure roles.

Cisco System’s Chief Technology and Strategy Officer, Padmasree Warrior, told the New York Times that meditation “is like a reboot for your brain and soul.”

By taking a few minutes to meditate each morning, you can set your mind and body up for success during the rest of the day.

Check out this list of top meditation apps for your iPhone or Android to learn how to get started.

5.      They visualize their day

Benjamin Franklin had it right: “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” [TWEET]

Successful people tend to be notorious list-makers and planners.

Spend a few minutes in the morning mapping out the rest of the day, and which projects are most important to complete.

Prioritize these and get them done early in the day when your willpower is still high.

Think about how this day fits into your larger goals in life, and visualize what it will be like to get there.

Realizing your larger life goals helps keep your motivation high as you perform your least-favorite tasks. 

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How Successful People Work Less And Get More Done

As co-founder of Hotwire.com and CEO of Zillow for the last seven years, 39-year-old Spencer Rascoff fits most people’s definition of success. As a father of three young children, Spencer is a busy guy at home and at work.

What’s the one thing that Spencer refuses to do on the weekend? Work—at least, in the traditional sense. Rascoff says:

“I never go into the office on weekends, but I do check e-mail at night. My weekends are an important time to unplug from the day-to-day and get a chance to think more deeply about my company and my industry. Weekends are a great chance to reflect and be more introspective about bigger issues.”

A new study from Stanford shows that Rascoff is on to something.

The study found that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours, and productivity drops off so much after 55 hours that there’s no point in working any more. That’s right, people who work as much as 70 hours (or more) per week actually get the same amount done as people who work 55 hours.

Successful people know the importance of shifting gears on the weekend to relaxing and rejuvenating activities. Like Spencer, they use their weekends to create a better week ahead.

Related: 10 Truths We Forget Too Easily

This is easier said than done, so here’s some help. The following list contains 10 things that successful people do to find balance on the weekend and to come into work at 110% on Monday morning.

1. They Disconnect

Disconnecting is the most important weekend strategy on this list, because if you can’t find a way to remove yourself electronically from your work Friday evening through Monday morning, then you’ve never really left work.

Making yourself available to your work 24/7 exposes you to a constant barrage of stressors that prevent you from refocusing and recharging. If taking the entire weekend off handling work e-mails and calls isn’t realistic, try designating specific times on Saturday and Sunday for checking e-mails and responding to voicemails. For example, check your messages on Saturday afternoon while your kids are getting a haircut and on Sunday evenings after dinner. Scheduling short blocks of time will alleviate stress without sacrificing availability.

2. They Minimize Chores

Chores have a funny habit of completely taking over your weekends. When this happens, you lose the opportunity to relax and reflect. What’s worse is that a lot of chores feel like work, and if you spend all weekend doing them, you just put in a seven-day workweek. To keep this from happening, you need to schedule your chores like you would anything else during the week, and if you don’t complete them during the allotted time, you move on and finish them the following weekend.

3. They Reflect

Weekly reflection is a powerful tool for improvement. Use the weekend to contemplate the larger forces that are shaping your industry, your organization, and your job. Without the distractions of Monday to Friday busy work, you should be able to see things in a whole new light. Use this insight to alter your approach to the coming week, improving the efficiency and efficacy of your work.

4. They Exercise

No time to exercise during the week? You have 48 hours every weekend to make it happen. Getting your body moving for as little as 10 minutes releases GABA, a soothing neurotransmitter that reduces stress. Exercise is also a great way to come up with new ideas. Innovators and other successful people know that being outdoors often sparks creativity.

I know that a lot of my best ideas come to me while I’m surfing. While you’re out in the ocean, the combination of invigorating activity and beautiful scenery creates the perfect environment for an influx of creativity. Whether you’re running, cycling, or gardening, exercise leads to endorphin-fueled introspection. The key is to find a physical activity that does this for you and then to make it an important part of your weekend routine.

5. They Pursue a Passion

You might be surprised what happens when you pursue something you’re passionate about on weekends. Indulging your passions is a great way to escape stress and to open your mind to new ways of thinking. Things like playing music, reading, writing, painting, or even playing catch with your kids can help stimulate different modes of thought that can reap huge dividends over the coming week.

Related: How Successful People Stay Productive and In Control

6. They Spend Quality Time with Family

Spending quality time with your family on the weekend is essential if you want to recharge and relax. Family time on the weekend is so important to Spencer Rascoff that he flies home for the weekend, no matter how far away he is, even if he has to be in the same city the following week. Weekdays are so hectic that the entire week can fly by with little quality family time. Don’t let this bleed into your weekends. Take your kids to the park, take your spouse to his or her favorite restaurant, and go visit your parents. You’ll be glad you did.

7. They Schedule Micro-Adventures

Buy tickets to a concert or play, or get reservations for that cool new hotel that just opened downtown. Instead of running on a treadmill, plan a hike. Try something you haven’t done before or perhaps something you haven’t done in a long time. Studies show that anticipating something good to come is a significant part of what makes the activity pleasurable. Knowing that you have something interesting planned for Saturday will not only be fun come Saturday, but it will significantly improve your mood throughout the week.

8. They Wake Up at the Same Time

It’s tempting to sleep in on the weekend to catch up on your sleep. Though it feels good temporarily, having an inconsistent wake-up time disturbs your circadian rhythm. Your body cycles through an elaborate series of sleep phases in order for you to wake up rested and refreshed. One of these phases involves preparing your mind to be awake and alert, which is why people often wake up just before their alarm clock goes off (the brain is trained and ready). When you sleep past your regular wake-up time on the weekend, you end up feeling groggy and tired. This isn’t just disruptive to your day off, it also makes you less productive on Monday because your brain isn’t ready to wake up at your regular time. If you need to catch up on sleep, just go to bed earlier.

9. They Designate Mornings as Me Time

It can be difficult to get time to yourself on the weekends, especially if you have family. Finding a way to engage in an activity you’re passionate about first thing in the morning can pay massive dividends in happiness and cleanliness of mind. It’s also a great way to perfect your circadian rhythm by forcing yourself to wake up at the same time you do on weekdays. Your mind achieves peak performance two-to-four hours after you wake up, so get up early to do something physical, and then sit down and engage in something mental while your mind is at its peak.

10. They Prepare for the Upcoming Week

The weekend is a great time to spend a few moments planning your upcoming week. As little as 30 minutes of planning can yield significant gains in productivity and reduced stress. The week feels a lot more manageable when you go into it with a plan because all you have to focus on is execution.

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