New Month New You

This is the new program we have rolled out for the benefit of our teeming followers, fans, friends and associates

And it's all about #You

We want to help you achieve certain milestones in your life as you set them.

This program takes off on the 1st of every new month and ends on the 7th spanning a period of ONE WEEK

Whatever it is you want to achieve, all you need to do is to talk to us about it and we shall help you draw out the road map towards execution and keep you on it until success is achieved

It is more or less a one week INTENSIVE COACHING PROGRAM

We can only take 5 (FIVE) PERSONS each month for the program

Since we are announcing it today, the first set of people would then take off on the 8th of May through to the 14th of May 2017 but subsequently, it shall be from the 1st to the 7th of the month.

If you are interested in the program, drop me an inbox or send me a whatsapp message on +234705-994-9508

The first 5 to indicate interest would be on for the month of May 2017

Speak with you later

Cheers to a great month

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

Life/Business Coach

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5 Integrity Habits Every Business Leader Must Cultivate

The 5 Integrity Habits

Here are the 5 most essential habits every business leader must cultivate to inspire and positively impact his or her team.

How do you stack up?

As an entrepreneur, you're very much under a microscope. Your team watches you closely; your customers pay attention to small slices of their experiences with you and make up what type of person and company you are in their own heads. And so do your vendors and investors.

Business leaders understand that habits matter. Here are what I consider to be five essential "integrity habits," which will have you behaving at your best and positively impacting your team.

1. Be on time, all the time.

We have to start with first things first. Be on time--all the time. This simple behavior demonstrates to your team that you take your commitments seriously and live with integrity.

Sure it's easy to slip, and your team always seems willing to wait. But the message that being late sends hurts your credibility inside your company.

When you take appointments and deadlines seriously, so will your team. It is one behavior with a huge return on investment in terms of modeling accountability inside your company.

Too many companies implement respect in a hierarchical manner. Your time is not more important than an employee's time or a customer's time in their eyes. Being on time shows respect, and it makes a big difference to the receiver.

And of course you can rationalize why you didn't meet a stated deadline and no one will challenge you, but they will model the behavior you show them. So model the high standard of being on time, all the time.

2. Clarify all action items and deliverables in writing at the end of every meeting.

One of the biggest reasons things get missed is because they weren't handed off cleanly to begin with. Many times the receiving party doesn't know just what they've been asked to do, or in fact they may not know that they've been asked to do anything at all.

Hence the need to clarify all action items and deliverables in writing. Not only does this make sure that you've captured all your action items, but it is also a powerful way to role model how you want your team to behave.

Wherever possible, number the commitments so that they are absolutely clear.

At your next meeting, this might sound like:

OK, summing up, here's what I've committed to: I've got three action items here. Item one is to review the Johnson Proposal and make a yes or no decision by this Friday end of business. Item two is to give feedback via email to Carl about the new orientation process. And item three is to send out the date of our next quarterly planning session to the exec team by noon tomorrow. [I encourage you to visibly write each of them down in your notes as your meeting progresses.] Now, Cheryl, I have down that you've committed to two items...

Teach your team to employ this same skill with their staff. It's a best practice that companies that execute adopt.

3. Clearly state what you can't commit to so that you don't lower the accountability bar in your company by missing a "phantom deliverable."

"Phantom deliverables" are those things that the other person thinks you committed to but you didn't.

As a leader, you need to exhibit great communication by making any phantom deliverables you see come out of a meeting explicit. That way,

if you can commit to that deliverable, you do so, and if you can't, you clarify that you are not committing to it.

 4. "Close" the accountability loop.

It's one thing to meet your commitments, but it's another to make sure that the other parties involved get that you've done so. So "close" the loop.

Mark, as promised, here is the Data Form Proposal due to you tomorrow...

5. Be aware of your stress behaviors.

It's been said that adversity and pressure don't so much make the person as they reveal the person. What you do at stressful moments leaves a magnified impression on your team, your customers, your vendors, and your investors.

So let stress be a trigger for you to take a deep breath and behave at your best.

Source:     The 5 Integrity Habits

Pick Or Drop A Habit? Ask Yourself This Question

Asking yourself one question can help you successfully change your behavior

When you try and fail to start a new habit — say, going to the gym after work four days a week — it's tempting to beat yourself up for your inability to commit.

You're lazy, you're stupid, you've got no willpower — we know. But the self-deprecation isn't very productive.

Instead, it's helpful to do a little troubleshooting by taking a step back from the situation.

Rather than fixating on everything that's seemingly wrong with you, think about a time in the past when you successfully changed your behavior and ask yourself:What was different then from now?

That's according to Gretchen Rubin, author of "Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives." Rubin recently spoke to psychologist Ron Friedman at the Peak Work Performance Summit about the process of habit formation.

During the talk, Rubin emphasized that, when it comes to starting new habits, there's no such thing as one-size-fits-all. You've got to find a plan that works for you personally.

Reflecting on a time when you successfully changed your behavior in the past will help you figure out how to do that.

Rubin gave an example of a friend who used to work out regularly when she was on the track team in high school, but finds it difficult to make time for exercise now that she's on her own.

What was different then from now? Then, the friend had external expectations to meet — presumably, she had to show up to practices or else she'd get kicked off the team. Now, she's her own coach.

"Her own inner expectation wasn't enough to get her to follow through," Rubin said.

"Those are the people for whom accountability is so important," Rubin added. Accountability might come in the form of having a running buddy or signing up for a class that requires attendance.

Here's Rubin again:

"A lot of times we get discouraged about our habits because we think, 'Oh, I tried this and I failed. I keep trying to get myself to go the gym and I don't succeed. So I have no self control, I have no willpower. What's wrong with me?'

"Whereas in fact if you set it up in a way that's right for you, you're going to have much better success."

Other people with the goal of going to the gym regularly might find something different when they examine their past successes. For example, maybe they only exercised daily after their doctor told them it would help prevent potential cardiovascular problems.

In this case, the difference between then and now is that then, they had a concrete reason to stay fit. So it might help them to do some research on the benefits of regular exercise.

Ultimately, whether your goal is to start a habit of hitting the gym or getting to work earlier, you'll want to get introspective and figure out what worked for you — with any habit — in the past. Then go ahead and change your present circumstances accordingly.

It might sound simple, but oftentimes we get so caught up in frustration and discouragement that we overlook straightforward strategies like this one.

Source:     How To Develop New Habit

Advanced Strategies for Habit Formation

What if you're tackling something as ambitious as managing diabetes or transforming your dead-end dating history?

These ideas will give you an extra boost:

1. Practice compassion. 

You're bound to slip up occasionally. Forgive yourself, and move forward.

2. Team up. 

Enlist a friend so you can exchange support and encouragement. Eat lunch with a colleague who is trying to lose weight too.

3. Write it down. 

Raise your awareness by keeping a journal about your campaign to stop swearing or start flossing. Note what happens on the days you stick to your program compared to the days when you drift back into old patterns.

4. Remove temptations. 

Eliminate the triggers that distract you from your objectives. Clear the junk food out of your kitchen or the cigarettes out of your car.

5. Design obstacles. 

Make it difficult to give in to your old tendencies. Leave your credit cards at home to prevent impulsive shopping sprees.

6. Go on vacation. 

Leave home for a while. Vacations are an ideal time to forge new habits because you can make a fresh start in different surroundings. Sit down to meditate each morning instead of becoming caught up in searching for lost socks or checking your email.

How To Form New Habits - Must Read

How many times have you heard that it takes just a few weeks to develop a new habit? The truth is a bit more complicated than that, but there are scientific ways to help you lock in the changes you want to make.

The myth about behaviour becoming automatic in 21 days started when journalists misinterpreted a popular self-help book on Psycho Cybernetics back in the 1960's. After all, you can probably eat more vegetables starting today, but complex tasks like playing the violin are going to take more than a month to gel.

On the other hand, now is an ideal time to begin forming constructive habits that will enhance your happiness and wellbeing. Take a look at these strategies for learning new behaviours.

Basic Strategies for Habit Formation

Try these tips for easing into your new routines as quickly as possible:

1. Plan ahead. Eliminate excuses by plotting out your course in advance. 

If you want to wake up an hour earlier, go to bed on time, and dream about the invigorating yoga class and delicious breakfast that await you in the morning.

2. Be consistent. 

Regularity reinforces itself. Pretty soon it will be easier to go to the gym after work rather than changing your mind, even if it's raining or your colleagues are heading out for beer and pizza.

3. Spot triggers. 

Kicking a habit requires you to notice what happens right before you bite your nails or buy another pair of shoes. Are you bored at work or arguing with your spouse?

4. Develop substitutions. 

Once you know your cues, you can choose a different response. Take a walk or invite a friend out for coffee.

5. Review your reasons. 

Go over the reasons why you want to adopt your new behaviour. Remind yourself about how drinking water instead of soda will help you slim down, strengthen your bones, and save money.

6. Personalize your goals. 

While you're contemplating your reasons, visualize your future self. Focus on what you have to gain instead of just pleasing others.

Make daily exercise and parallel parking so easy you won't even have to think about them. Positive habits make advantageous choices automatic so you'll stick with them. You'll also have more energy to devote to other challenges.

 To your success.

9 Weird Habits Of Highly Successful Business Leaders

The most-successful leaders often do things their own way. Maybe you should too.

Over the years, I've read far more books on leadership than I can count.

To be honest, most of these books stick with a tried-and-true formula that doesn't stray too far outside the norm.

For example, pick up any book on leadership, and you're sure to read about empowerment and teamwork and inspiring creativity.

But guess what? Highly successful leaders don't always stick with the advice repeated over and over again in these leadership books.

In fact, they often have their own weird habits that help them get things done.

Here are some of the most interesting.

1. Mark Zuckerberg: yearly resolutions

Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg sets tests of discipline for himself each year.

In 2009 his challenge was to wear a tie to work each day, and in 2011 it was to personally kill any animal he ate.

This year's challenge is to read a new book every two weeks.

2. Steve Jobs: foodie

Steve Jobs was famous for eating only one type of food for weeks at a time.

He once became so convinced of the virtues of eating carrots that his skin was reported to have turned orange from eating so many of them in a short period of time.

3. Marissa Mayer: micromanager

Marissa Mayer, CEO of Yahoo, is reported to personally approve every new hire in her company of more than 12,500 employees.

4. Mark Parker: brain balancer

Nike CEO Mark Parker has a notebook that he uses to keep the two sides of his brain balanced.

While one page in the notebook is devoted to business brainstorming, the opposite page is used for sketches.

5. Donald Trump: germophobe

According to reports, real estate developer Donald Trump has a phobia for germs.

He avoids shaking hands with the people he meets, he will not touch an elevator button, and he once passed out bottles of hand sanitizer to reporters at a press conference.

6. Bill Gates: rocker

Former Microsoft CEO Bill Gates was known for rocking in his chair during business meetings. The more excited he was (in a good or bad way), the more he rocked.

7. Jeff Bezos: memo writer

Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos requires senior executives to draft six-page memos in advance of meetings.

These memos are then read in silence during the first 30 minutes of every senior executive meeting.

8. Henry Ford: weed eater

Ford Motor Company founder Henry Ford reportedly savored sandwiches made from "roadside greens"-weeds grown in his yard.

9. Martha Stewart: demanding boss

Martha Stewart is reported to allow only red or black ink to be used in her offices, and that employee desks be completely clear at the end of each business day.

http://www.inc.com/peter-economy/9-weird-habits-of-highly-successful-business-leaders.html

7 Habits Of Highly Influential People

By Harvey Deutschendorf

It may seem that some people are naturally charming, but the art of influencing others can be learned.

Here's how:

Real influence rarely comes from title or position.

It comes from understanding people and their deepest, most fundamental wants and needs.

Everyone at some level wants to be heard, understood, and appreciated.

While it appears that some people have a natural ability or charm that allows them to have a great deal of influence, the art of influencing others can be developed.

All we need is a basic understanding of what other people want, and to be constantly aware of this in our dealings.

Here are seven ways we can increase our influence.

1. DEVELOP LISTENING ABILITIES

Whether or not you agree with someone, realize that they have a need to be heard. In order for them to feel like they have been heard, we need to really listen.

Most people are busy thinking of a response, a rebuttal, or what they want to talk about to really pay attention to what the other person is saying.

One way of increasing listening skills is to repeat back to them in your own words what they just said. If not clear, ask questions.

Good listening requires us to overcome the urge to think ahead to what we want to say and stay focused on the person speaking.

2. FOLLOW NONVERBAL CUES

When two people are intensely connected in conversation, they tend to model each other’s nonverbal cues, such as smiling, moving toward the other, and making a great deal of eye contact.

These actions make the person we are speaking with more open to our ideas and influence. The comfort level increases, and they feel that we get them.

3. RECOGNIZE OTHER PEOPLE'S ACCOMPLISHMENTS

Everyone appreciates being acknowledged for something that they did well and have pride in.

Acknowledging those accomplishments will ensure that you will be remembered positively. It's important to be sincere in the acknowledgement.

If the recognition is seen to be superficial or phony, it will damage the relationship and result in distrust of the person giving it.

Being seen as someone who truly appreciates them will elevate you in their eyes and put you in a category above all the people who haven’t noticed them.

4. ASK FOR ADVICE

Next time someone asks you for advice or assistance, notice what it feels like.

Asking for advice or a favor from someone is an indication that you value their knowledge and hold them in high regard.

Everyone has an area of knowledge or expertise that they are proud of, and asking them to share it gives their confidence a boost.

It also raises our status level in their mind—we are someone who is able to recognize the value of what they have to offer.

5. USE PEOPLE'S NAMES AND REMEMBER PERSONAL DETAILS

The most beautiful-sounding work in our vocabulary is the sound of our own names.

Remembering someone’s name and greeting them by using it is Influence 101.

At a basic level, if someone remembers our name, it means that we have made enough of an impression that they took the time and effort to remember it.

The more significant information we can remember about people, the stronger impression we will make and the more influential we become to them.

6. LET SOMEONE KNOW YOU HAVE FAITH IN THEM

Virtually all people who have become successful have had to overcome adversity, and can name someone who challenged them to rise above their present circumstances and become the person they were capable of.

These people never forget the person or persons who expected more of them and pushed them to go beyond their boundaries and comfort zone.

It naturally makes us feel good about ourselves when someone expects great things from us, and we will be inclined to strive to prove them right.

We will see it as a challenge, and our self-worth and confidence will make us want to give our best.

7. LOOK FOR THINGS YOU HAVE IN COMMON

Regardless of our differences, if we look long enough, we will find something that we share with virtually everyone. If we find out what that is, we can develop stronger connections with the people that we wish to have a greater influence with.

In preparation for meeting with someone, we can learn the latest in the area of common interest so that we both have something to get the conversation off to a positive start and flowing in the right direction.

http://www.fastcompany.com/3046444/how-to-be-a-success-at-everything/7-habits-of-highly-influential-people