Yesterday, I had
introduced this topic and taken a good look at it and how we sometimes are
unable to actually decide what our purpose in life is; I also did mention that
the sole purpose of life here on earth is to LIVE it - to find that something
that brings us joy and happiness and to do it.
From the interactions I
had on the matter it is obvious that not all agree with me on that.
Some people feel that the
only purpose in life is to find God's Will for us and to do it.
Whichever side of the
divide you are on, I would like to conclude this matter today with some tips on
how to find our purpose in life.
There are basically 7
questions to ask and provide answers to that would help anyone find their
rhythm in life
1. What do you suck at?
In life sometimes every
thing sucks; this means thaat "nothing is pleasurable for a long
time"
There are always
sacrifices to be made, compromises to be reached in achieving any tangible
objective.
Life is a struggle and to
find your rhythm, you have to choose what struggle you can tolerate, what
sacrifices you are willing to make. If for example you want to be a great
Surgeon but can't stand the sight of blood, then definitely you can't make it
to the Medical School in the first place. If your happiness lies in paintings
but you can't stand people criticizing your works, surely you'ld need to look
for another thing to do.
So, go choose your
struggle.
2. What are you passionate about?
What is it that gets your
attention completely fixed at it that you forget to sleep or eat or even take
your bath?
What is it that catches
your fancy so much that that you are willing to forgo all other things just to
pursue that?
Do you know that Isaac
Newton while he was young, would go for days without sleeping because he was
tweaking and thinkering with his experiments and theories, to the point that
even his mother go tired of having to constantly "wake him up to
reality" - that of eating his food to stay alive!!! and when Newton was
done, he became one of the greatest Physicists that ever lived.
So what is your passion?
What do you obsess over and about?
Finding your passion is
like a full - contact sport, you just have to be in touch with it because if
you've not done it, there's no way you can tell if you like it or not.
3. Release the little child in you!!
No matter how much any
adult wants to deny it, but the fact is that there is a little boy in every
grown adult man and there is a little girl in every grown adult woman.
These little children cry
every day in our heads and minds asking to be released - they still want to
play naked in the rain, they still want to build castles with sand, they still
want to play hide and seek e.t.c. - all those games that little children of
ages past used to play.
And it is of a good note
that most successful people have really learnt to integrate the yearnings of
the little children in them to their adult actions and activities - they are
never too old or too big to relate to the little children in them.
So, are you still
stultifying the cry of the little child in you - flow with it and see......
4. Choose your moments of embarrassment!
If you are not willing to
be embarrassed while trying to do something important, something that gives you
a sense of fulfillment, something that brings you joy and happiness, makes your
face very radiant even in a dark room, something that makes your lips to part
in a raucous laughter that reverberates all around, then you would never arrive
there.
If you allow your life to
be ruled by "What will people say?", if you allow the thoughts of
what other people will think or say about your action or what you are doing,
then you have a long way to go.
This is because the basic
fact is - no one actually cares what you do - people are more comfortable with
you if you are at the same level with them - failure - than if you are heading
above them and making a success of yourself.
And the truth of the
matter really is that it doesn't really matter what you do, people will always
talk. If you do they talk and if you don't do, they even talk more. So what the
heck!!! go do that which you have been fantasizing over in your head for a long
while and been putting off because you don't know how people will react to it -
it's only in the doing that you would guage the people's reaction and by the
way this is your LIFE.
5. Set your standards
We are all born into a
society that tends to make us conformists and tend to ostracize us when we show
some independency of thought and action, when we take a step across and over
the social boundary built by the society.
While it is good to have
social norms and dictates to guide our social interactions but it is not just
proper and fair for the society to decide for me who I should be or what I
should do with my life.
So if you are like me,
draw up your own set of standards and break them!! draw up your own rules and
break them (rules are meant to be broken any way otherwise how would
Governments make extra money without the fines) - take a leap to the 9th
Heaven, Geniuses are not earth-held, be a Genius; allow yourself to fly far
above everyone else
6. Always follow your heart
In discovering your
purpose in life, - flow with your heart.
Be where your heart is,
anyother thing aside this is a pretence and a fake and it is also a lie and the
worst sin of man is "living a lie".
In your heart lives the
"still Small Voice" of God and it is there to guide you aright.
If you ever listen to your
heart at every occasion, you would notice that the loud voice always eggs you
on - sometimes to destruction but the still small voice comforts and
admonishes.
Where a man's heart is,
that is where his treasures are. No man grows at a job he does not have the
calling for, where his heart is not; it is very frustrating, but if a man works
his passion, it is no longer a job.
Follow your heart always,
it is the first deep thought on any issue and most times it is never wrong.
So get involved in what
you think you are passionate about and know if truly your heart is in it.
7. How would you like to be remembered?
Have you ever had a
discussion with yourself about your death?
If you have not, I suggest
that you do!! because when you do that, you'ld find out that because you don't
know when, how and where it will take place, you cannot but maximize the time
you have left.
Death comes to the
newborn, infact even to the yet to be born; to the child; to the adolescent; to
the young adult; to the middle aged; to the old and elderly - it is not a
respecter of age or status or personality and am sure you know that the worst
thing about death is that NOBODY KNOWS WHEN S/HE WILL DIE but as for dying,
that is obvious.
So how would you like to
be remembered when you are dead and gone with eyes that can no longer see and
ears that can no longer hear?
Would you like to be
remembered as the one who had a life but did not know how to live it? as one
who died at 30 but was eventually buried at 70?
Would you like to be
remembered as the brilliant chap who had load of ideas, but none of which came
to the lime light and he died with his dreams?
Or would you like to be
remembered as Napoleon Bonaparte who declared "I came, I saw, I
conquered"
The choice is obviously
yours
Ask yourself this
question- "What would I do if I knew that I had one year left to
live?"
Answer it and just go to
work doing that which will set you apart and above your peers, your competitors
and every other person in your circle.
Take the time to
re-evaluate your priorities
Let me end this treatise
with these quotes from Mark Manson
" When people feel like they have no sense of direction and purpose in their lives, it's
because they don't know what's important to them.
They
don't know what their values are and when you don't know what your values are,
you are bound to take on other people's values and living other people's
priorities instead of your own
Discovering
one's purpose in life essentially boils down to finiding those one or two
things that are bigger than yourself, bigger than those around you.
And to
find them, you must get out of your comfort zone and act"
Be yourself - start
TODAY!!!
That's it my friends
Thank you for reading and
do let me know your thoughts about this topic.
Have a swell day
Thank God It's Friday
#TGIF
#DrJTF
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