Response Magic 
1. There is no love without self love
Pay close attention to those
people who tell you how much they love you, but who treat themselves as if
there is nothing worthy about them.
If a person has no love for
themselves, they will have no love to offer to those around. How can anyone
offer you something they themselves don’t have? It’s just not possible.
“I don’t trust people who don’t
love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which
is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~ Maya
Angelou
2. Love is not selective
I used to be so proud of the
fact that I had love only for a selective few.
And in my ignorance, I failed
to realize that my love was flawed and imperfect. Because just as the Eckhart
Tolle so
beautifully said it,
“Love is not selective, just as
the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It
is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego.
However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary.”
3. Codependency is not love
So many people confuse
co-dependency with love when in fact these two have nothing to do with one
another.
Love is pure, perfect, and
honest. While co-dependency is nothing but fear masked as love trying to cling onto other people by
sucking the life out of them and by making them feel responsible for our own
happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.
4. Love is not blind infatuation
You often hear people say
things like: Oh my God, I fell in love!
I’m so happy. And
then after a little while, the same people will affirm: Oh, I’m so unhappy. I no
longer love them. I fell out of love.
But the truth of the matter is
that what these people felt wasn’t love, but rather a blind infatuation that
lasted for a little while and then it disappeared. Because that’s what
infatuation does – it comes and goes.
Love isn’t something you
fall in, and out of. Love just is. Love is eternal and always present. And
if there’s true and honest love in your heart for someone, this love will
remain with you for as long as you live. And whether you allow this love to be
felt or not, that is your choice.
6. Love is not blind, or foolish
Love is not foolish, and love
is not blind. Love will not permit us to be walked all over by those we
love.
If somebody you love treats you
in toxic and unkind ways, out of love for them and yourself, you will be guided intuitively to
do what’s right – by either removing yourself from the toxic relationship or by
asking them to change and correct their ways – but under no circumstances will
love ask you to stay in a relationship where you will be abused, manipulated,
and mistreated. So keep that in mind.
7. Love is to be offered to all
You might think that the only
people worthy of your love are your family, your partner, your friends and a
selective few.
But the truth of the matter is
that the whole world is worthy and deserving of your love and affection. And
since we are all ONE – connected with each other in a profound and meaningful
way – it is your responsibility to expand your circle of compassion and offer
your love and support, not just to those close to you, but to the whole world.
8. Love needs nothing in return
If you think you have a
right to receive just because you have given your love to others, that is a
clear sign your love is flawed and imperfect. Because love is pure and
unconditional. It offers itself to the whole world without wanting anything in
return. And even though we were taught to believe that we should only offer our
love only to those who offer their love to us, we should never forget that true love comes with no
conditions.
9. The word Love has become empty of meaning, but love itself has never
lost its power
We go around throwing “I
love you’s” as if love was nothing. But love is not, nothing. Love is everything.
Love is the Source of all things. Love is what we all need, what we all seek,
and what we all need.
And even though the word
love has become empty of meaning through years and years of misuse, love itself
has never lost its value and its power.
10. Love isn’t what we think it is
Love isn’t what we think it is.
Love is what we feel. And since the majority of people have become disconnected
from their own hearts and feelings, what we are getting is not love, but an
idea of what love is supposed to be.
11. Love Is Not Sex
A lot of people have been
ruined because they thought that they could use sex to hold someone down in
love. So many girls have become Mothers by force, so many boys who were
unprepared to become Fathers have become emergency Fathers simply because they
confused sex for love.
You do not use sex as a
show of love or as a sign that you love someone.
If you love someone, you
love them for who they are and what they stand for and not necessarily for what
you can get out of them
And these are 11 hard
truths about love we should all know.
What about you? What is
one hard truth about love that you’ve learned and made your life better? You
can share your opinion in the comment section below
