Showing posts with label Change. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Change. Show all posts

Friday, February 12, 2021

Little Actions Could Make A Big Win

 



Little Actions Could Make A Big Win

 

There is this man who lived in a House near the beach. He loved to take a walk down the beach every morning

So on one such morning, as he was taking his walk, he noticed that the high morning tide had left hundreds of starfish on the beach when it receded.

He knew that these starfish would die when the Sun came up in the skies

Instead of continuing with his walk, he decided to help as many of the starfish as he could.

So while the tide was fresh and the starfish were alive, the man took a few steps, picked one up and threw it back into the water.

He did that repeatedly.

Right behind him was another person who didn’t seem to understand what he was doing.

He caught up with him and asked, "What are you doing? There are hundreds of starfish. How many can you help? What difference does it make?"

This man did not reply, took two more steps, picked up another one, threw it into the water, and said, "It makes a difference to this one."

Now, why am I telling you this story?

Simple… we should never underestimate the power of change no matter how small.

What if I tell you that a huge victory is really just an accumulation of small wins? That little actions could make a big win? And that, sometimes, just one small change could be all that it takes to make a huge difference?

Time to take action to change your life?

Try it.

Just try it

#successwithdrjerrythefirst

Monday, July 31, 2017

Are You Prepared For That Decision That Will Ruin Your Life?






What's riskier? Staying in a job you're not growing in, or quitting your job and starting all over? James Altucher asked one of the most brilliant questions: "How many people can make a major decision that will ruin your life?" If all it takes is one person to say "You're fired" or "Our entire department is getting laid off" or "Amazon just bought our competitor, we're screwed," then who's at risk more? The person who didn't take any risks with their career and was relying on permission from other people to learn new skills and move up the corporate ladder? Or the person that said to themselves, "I've seen this story before. It doesn't end well. Why don't I pack my bags, get my life together, try some new things and see what sticks." It's impossible to live life without risk. If you're avoiding it, you're asking for a miserable, unfulfilled life. "It is in the presence of danger that we are gifted with the strong incentive for action, dedication and surpassing oneself" ~ Anne Dufourmantelle (To the people who have a spouse, children, mortgage, etc - Risk is not saying YOLO and missing your child's tuition payments. Risk is understanding that the best way to take care of your family is to make sure you're prepared when that 1 person makes a decision to ruin your life.

Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Once Upon Nigeria, A Prospering People Asked For Change… God Gave Them Buhari"




 
By Charles Novia

There was a young business woman, whom we will call Jessie, who had a thriving buying and selling business which had been yielding fantastic profits for years. She would travel to Dubai, America, Paris to buy goods and would sell and make eye-popping profits back home in Nigeria. She was rich. But she wanted more. She wanted change. So she prayed and prayed for change, telling God that she wanted her business to grow more under a new government. She prayed and added change to her prayers. And God shrugged and accepted her request.

And God gave her Buhari.

There was a young banker, who we will call Momah, who had a good job in a bank and as a financial worker, could see the growth patterns of the economy and the daily volume of cash flow in his branch. He had a wife, could provide for his family, summer holidays for years with his family abroad and he even ran some private businesses on the side. But he felt it could be better. He wanted more. He wanted change. And he prayed and wished and screamed for change, screaming to the high heavens for change. And God heard, shrugged and accepted his request.

And God gave him Buhari.

There was a bureau de change operator, we will call him Haruna. He ran a successful forex business and also had a chain of private stores in his region. As the Nigerian economy grew all through the years, he saw his business grow as well. But he was restless. He felt someone else could do it better for the nation. Someone closer to him by spiritual beliefs, regionalism, and personal ideologies. So he prayed to Allah for change. He prayed more than five times a day. And Allah shrugged and gave him his request.

And Allah gave him Buhari.

There was a people in a country, who experienced prosperity in their lives for over a decade. They watched the economy grow, their industries yield outputs, their pockets filled or sometimes half full with money. The country wasn’t perfect but it had promise. Things may not have been where it should have been but things were certainly not as bad as thought. But a section of the people became consumed by the Israelites-in-the-wilderness complex. And they prayed for change. They prayed and prayed louder than the other section which mumbled supplications. And God shrugged and gave them their request.

And God gave them Buhari.

And now, in God’s sanctuary, as He watches whose prayers will be answered between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, God hears the loud cries of pain, suffering, death and malady coming up to the heavens.

‘Where is that din coming from?’ God asks Archangel Gabriel.

‘From Nigeria, Heavenly Father’ Archangel Gabriel replies with a bow.

‘Didn’t I give them what they cried for last year? Didn’t I answer Joanna’s prayers? And the prayers of Momah and Haruna and the people who cried for change?’ God asks as some Cherubims strum gently on their harps.

Archangel Gabriel replies as he reads from a scroll, ‘ Yes, Heavenly Father. But Joanna has lost everything. No one buys anything from her anymore. Her business is zero. She’s broke. She’s the person wailing in that sing-song right now. Momah was sacked by his bank in June 2015. He can’t even pay his children’s school fees and his business is at low levels. Haruna can’t get dollars or foreign exchange to run his business anymore and is gnashing his teeth. The people who cried for change amongst those who didn’t want it, have suddenly realised that what they prayed for is the same as snakes and scorpions. The stubborn ones amongst them still openly scream that they don’t regret that they asked for this change but in the privacy of their homes, they roll on the floor like Dino Melaye and curse the day they picked their permanent voters cards to vote for change. Many who voted for this change openly have been repenting of their mistakes and openly apologising. Those who didn’t vote for it have just been shaking their heads and hissing. It’s a mess, Heavenly Father’

‘And what do they want again this time?’ God asks in amusement.

‘It’s a Babel of voices, Heavenly Father’ replies Archangel Gabriel. ‘Those in charge of this change seem to have tongues of lies and confusion. They say one thing today and run back to change it the next minute. Even Lucifer is grumbling at the other side that some of those people in Nigeria are threatening his job!’

God laughs and laughs at this.

Gabriel continues, ‘Those who the change movement removed from Power are starting a new mantra which they call ‘change the change’. There is just chaos in that land. Now, both the change people and the other side of the divide are just praying’

God smiles. ‘ Let me attend to the American elections first. After that, I will get back to Nigeria. By the way, who’s this Lai Lai fellow I keep hearing people scream about from there?

Gabriel looks through his scroll. ‘ Heavenly Father, Lucifer would best have an answer to that question!’

Charles Novia is an award-winning filmmaker. He is founder of November Productions and November Records. Connect with him on Facebook.

Sunday, March 5, 2017

How Do Leaders Excel In Hard Times?



We human beings are wired for certainty. A lack of it tends to trigger anxiety that drives people to resist anything that may further threaten the status quo...regardless of the cost. Good leaders not only work to dial down fear but to tap the passion, ingenuity and innovation it too often stifles.
Of course uncertainty is a staple in all our lives, including the organizations in which we spend much of them.  Yet you’d have to be living in another Twittersphere not to have felt it dial up a notch or ten in recent times. Speculating about what’s to come has consumed a vast amount of column inches and dinner time debate. It’s also fueled a great deal of anxiety.
Our need for certainty was  hardwired into our psychological DNA back in our cave dwelling days. We like to make plans for a future we can reasonably predict. At the very least, we want to think we know what lies just ahead. The impact of uncertainty on our stress levels has recently been validated by a study by University College London (funded by the Medical Research Council). It found that people who are certain they will receive a small electric shock experience far less stress than those who know there’s a chance they may get shocked and a chance they won’t.  When we know something is about to happen that we won’t like, we can brace ourselves. It’s the not knowing, the uncertainty, that triggers stress and anxiety.
The problem with hyper-uncertainty is that it drives people to cling on to anything that provides any sense of certainty – however fragile or imagined it may be - and to resist all change, including change for the better. People stay with jobs they loathe simply because they’re familiar.  Organizations and teams stick with outdated and inadequate systems because they work, albeit not very well. Leaders put plans on hold to avoid disruption and mitigate risk should markets, policies or politics take a turn for the worse. When what once seemed unthinkable becomes a reality, nothing seems sure anymore.
“Let’s just wait until things settle down a bit,” a manager I know told his team last week,  referencing plans to build a new manufacturing facility in Mexico. Another shared with me how they are holding off an international relocation to expand their mid-sized IT company’s business in China until they had a stronger sense of the political and economic climate. Their indecision is understandable, yet it exacts a toll.
Disruption to the status quo may produce anxiety, but it also creates opportunity. In today's climate of uncertainty, leaders have an opportunity to harness this anxiety in positive ways to fuel the innovation and productivity it so often stifles. This requires spending less time trying to guard against all external threats to their organization, and more on tapping the ingenuity, passion and potential that resides within its walls.  Below are seven ways leaders can do just that.
1. Keep people focused on the mission.
Keeping people on task when the headlines are so distracting is no small feat. Good leaders communicate a compelling vision for their organization, and make sure everyone knows exactly what they need to be doing in order to achieve it. Does this eradicate all anxiety? Of course not. But when people are clear about what’s expected of them, and know that what they do provides a meaningful contribution to the larger whole, they’ll have less time and inclination to sit around catastrophizing about all the “What ifs?”
2. Dial down the anxiety-meter.
Organizational psychologists have found that every workplace develops its own group emotion, or "group effective tone." Over time, this creates shared "emotional norms" that are proliferated and reinforced by behavior, both verbal and non-verbal. Leaders have to set the tone for these norms. In many ways they act as emotional barometers, as people look to them for cues on how to think, engage and behave in the face of change and uncertainty. It’s why  great leaders are very deliberate about harnessing the contagious nature of emotions in a positive way , dialing down anxiety and dialing up optimism complete with its "we’ll figure it out" mindset.
3. Acknowledge unspoken concerns.
While good leaders don’t spread stress, they also don’t ignore what’s causing it.Tuning into and acknowledging the concerns and anxieties of those around them – legitimate and otherwise -  reassures people that they’re not alone and that the people they work for have got their back.
4. Shrink the holes in the psychological safety net.
Nobel Laureate and psychologist Daniel Kahneman wrote that when deciding whether to take action, “Potential losses loom larger than potential gains.” When uncertainty is running high, it further amplifies our innate tendency to focus more on what could go wrong than on what could go right ; more on what we might lose than on what we might gain. This in turn creates over-caution, intensifying any underlying insecurities. After all, as Bill Treasurer wrote in Courage Goes To Work, “People play it safe when they feel it’s unsafe to do otherwise.”
It’s why creating a safe environment is even more important in uncertain times when future security feels threatened, when people lack confidence in their ability to predict what lies ahead or how it will impact them, their family, their ability to pay their mortgage and their kid’s college fees. Leaders who focus solely on what could go wrong can enlarge the holes in people’s psychological safety net at a time when they most need to shrink them. Leaders must continually embolden people to ‘lean toward risk’ rather than away from it as a prerequisite for their own growth and success.
5. Reward bravery.
The more frequently people are exposed to uncomfortable situations, the more comfortable they become with them. Coined the "Mere Exposure Effect" by psychologists, it explains why bomb disposal experts, given both the right training and sufficient practice, can keep their cool in situations that would turn most of us into a shaking mess.
Encouraging people to embrace discomfort, risk mistakes and stretch themselves creates a scaffolding that builds confidence for taking bolder actions in the future. It’s why leaders must encourage people to take risks, but must also reward them for doing so. Reassurance that risks won’t be punished—assuming they’ve prepared properly—offsets anxiety and grows a willingness to innovate, experiment and disrupt old paradigms. Unless people feel that they’re able to make the odd bad decision, they won’t be willing to risk making good ones.
When leaders reward courageous behaviors—not just successful ones—they’re also demonstrating to everyone what is valued. The reward should be immediate (not delayed until their annual review), meaningful to the person receiving it and, ideally,  linked to the behavior you want to encourage.  It could as simple as a handwritten note or a few encouraging words of acknowledgment in a team meeting.
6. Encourage decisiveness.
Auto-chief Lee Iacocca once said, “The one word that makes a good manager—decisiveness.” But let’s face it, when we’re dealing with a lack of information, ambiguity, and a future that’s anything but predictable, being decisive is easier said than done. Yet just because making a decision can create greater uncertainty, that's not a good reason not to make it.  While waiting a little longer can feel like the sensible option, the price we pay for putting off a decision often outweighs the benefits we get by simply committing to a course of action. To quote
As a manager, you need to both practice and encourage decisiveness. Avoiding change because the future is uncertain makes us less secure, not more so.
7. Lay your own reputation on the line.
Are you venturing on to new ground, being decisive amid the ambiguity, risking mistakes and challenging the paradigms that govern how you do business?
If you’re not, you can hardly expect those further down in the ranks to be doing so. Let’s face it, people will always be more influenced by the power of your example than by the example of your power. In short: you’ve got to walk your talk.
Consider where you need to lead with greater courage and move through your own fears and anxiety to disrupt old thinking, generate new ideas and set your organization up to compete in the world we’ll be living in ten years from now.  While none of us can predict the future, it is the organizations which have been industrious in creating it that will be best poised to seize the opportunities it holds.

Source:     Forbes


Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Be Open To Change

Changing your life is hard! 

It requires everything in you to move your life in a different direction. 

Determine to break the habits that have caused you to live a life that does not reflect the real you. Embrace the fear of the unknown and release the need to stay stuck in your established routines. 

You are bigger and stronger than any habit, addiction or circumstance.

Change is not the result of wishful thinking, willpower, or even intention. 

It will happen because of hard work, careful planning, focused energy and feeling the pain that has kept you stuck. 

Until the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of change, your life will remain exactly the way it is. 

This new way of living requires dedication, practice, patience and pushing yourself in the right direction over and over again. 

You can change your life. 

You can do hard!! 

You have something special. 

You have GREATNESS within you

Les Brown.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

How To Be More Resilient When Things Get Tough


 The choices we make every day determine how resilient we can be when things go wrong. Discover the secret to thriving in challenging times.

It's human nature to resist change--particularly when it comes in the form of adversity or challenges. But change is inevitable, and developing the trait of resilience helps us not only survive change, but also learn, grow, and thrive in it.

Resilience is the capacity to cope with stress and adversity. It comes from believing in yourself and, at the same time, in something bigger than yourself.

Resilience is not a trait that people are born with; it involves behaviors, thoughts, and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone.
Here are 10 ways to develop your resilience so you're ready when you need your strength the most.

1. Don't try to solve problems with the same thinking that created them.

Resilient people do not make the same mistake again and again. They're willing to be honest about why they failed and they take the time to think about what didn't work.

2. Master your emotions before they manage you.

Resilient people have a positive outlook. They remind themselves that much of what they're facing is temporary, and that they've overcome setbacks before and can do it again. Resilient people focus on what they can learn from the experience.

3. Stay tough.

Resilient people face their fears and have an adaptive attitude that lets them focus on possibilities even in the worst of times. The tougher the situation, the tougher they become.

4. Keep growing.

Life does not get easier or more forgiving; we get stronger and more resilient. Resilient people are constantly becoming braver and more courageous. They know that life is not what happens to us but what happens within us.

5. Stay prepared.

Resilient people work on solving a problem rather than let themselves become paralyzed by negativity. They keep planning for the future even when things aren't working out.

6. Pick yourself up, as many times as it takes.

Resilient people understand that failure is not falling down but refusing to get up. They have the capacity to adapt successfully and the tenacity to never, ever quit.

7. Reward the small wins.

Resilient people believe in themselves. They work hard and take joy in the small wins that give them strength.

8. Keep giving.

Even in the toughest of times resilient people find a way to care for others, because sometimes being selfless is the best way to discover your own strength.

9. Build relationships.

Resilient people maintain strong and supportive relationships, both personal and professional. As a result, they have caring, supportive people around them in times of crisis.

10. Create your own meaning.

Resilient people search for meaning. They develop a "personal why" that helps them have a clear sense of purpose, which helps them view setbacks from a broader perspective.
To make it through the tough times takes resilience. It requires that we pay attention to the complexities of our own experiences, listen to our emotions, and be willing to learn from disappointment and failure as well as success and motivation.