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Stop Waiting For Happiness To Arrive

Too many people think of happiness as the ultimate goal of life. But, if you're waiting for happiness to arrive then it's likely that it never will!

You convince yourself that life will be happy when you're married. When the mortgage is paid off. When you have children. When the weekend arrives. Next summer. Whatever particular dream you
have, you're sure that when you reach it you'll finally be happy.

Unfortunately, this way of thinking is a trap.

You're always wanting something more, always looking forward to a time when you'll be "happy".

And, if you fall into this trap, you'll never reach that goal.

When you get married, you might wish your partner was more affectionate or more proactive.

When you have children, you might find their young age restrictive and long for them to grow up too quickly.

When you've paid off that mortgage you might long for a better
house, a better neighborhood, a better car. Life will pass you by with that goal of happiness forever in sight but never quite in reach.

Happiness should not be your life's goal, it should be your life!

The only time to be happy is right now! It's state of mind, not a set of
accomplishments or the accumulation of material things.

There is no time to achieve happiness other than right now.

You must accept that life will always have challenges and things will not
always go your way and make the decision to be happy right now.

Instead of feeling disappointed when things don't work out the way you'd hoped, feel grateful for the experience. Instead of dreaming of a brighter, happier, richer tomorrow, make today as wonderful as you can. Treasure each moment that you have air in your lungs and treasure the people you share those moments with.

Alfred D. Souza put this perfectly when he said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

His perspective helped me to see that happiness is a conscious decision and that I can make it right now.

He's not saying that having dreams, goals and ambitions is a bad thing. Thinking of the future and having aspirations is essential to leading a happy and fulfilled life.

The trick is not to let thoughts of the future overshadow your
enjoyment of the present and the appreciation of the things and people
you have in your life right now!

There is no way to happiness: happiness is the way!

Stop waiting to meet your soulmate, to get married, to have children, to pay off your mortgage. For Friday night, for payday, for the summer time. Stop waiting for happiness to arrive and simply decide to be happy! It's not some great goal or destination, it's a journey and a way of life. Why not try it out today?

Work like you don't need money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
And dance like no one's watching!

The Great Dictator’s Speech-Charlie Chaplin’s Profound Message to Humanity

“I’m sorry, but I don’t want to be an emperor. That’s not my business. I don’t want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone – if possible – Jew, Gentile – black man – white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each other’s happiness – not by each other’s misery. We don’t want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone.

The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way.

Greed has poisoned men’s souls, has barricaded the world with hate, has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed.

We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in.

Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want.

Our knowledge has made us cynical.

Our cleverness, hard and unkind.

We think too much and feel too little.

More than machinery we need humanity.

More than cleverness we need kindness and gentleness.

Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost….

The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in men – cries out for universal brotherhood – for the unity of us all. Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world – millions of despairing men, women, and little children – victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people.

To those who can hear me, I say – do not despair. The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed – the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish. …..

Soldiers! don’t give yourselves to brutes – men who despise you – enslave you – who regiment your lives – tell you what to do – what to think and what to feel! Who drill you – diet you – treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder. Don’t give yourselves to these unnatural men – machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have the love of humanity in your hearts! You don’t hate! Only the unloved hate – the unloved and the unnatural! Soldiers! Don’t fight for slavery! Fight for liberty!

In the 17th Chapter of St Luke it is written: “the Kingdom of God is within man” – not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you!

You, the people have the power – the power to create machines. The power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure.

Then – in the name of democracy – let us use that power – let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world – a decent world that will give men a chance to work – that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill that promise. They never will!

Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people! Now let us fight to fulfill that promise! Let us fight to free the world – to do away with national barriers – to do away with greed, with hate and intolerance. 

Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness. Soldiers! in the name of democracy, let us all unite!” ~ Charlie Chaplin

7 Scientific Ways to Stop Complaining And Enjoy A Happier Life

Research shows that habitual complaining affects us mentally, emotionally, and physically. Such behavior may cause or worsen stress, sapping our energy and desire to pursue our dreams.

Above all that, it just doesn't feel good to complain, or hear complaints. They're negative by nature and they don't help resolve the situation you wish were different. Complaining can also keep you from being a likable person.

If you want to start attracting and creating the success you desire, you'll want to stop complaining. Here are seven ways to break the habit of complaining, backed by science.

Laugh

Research from Loma Linda University in California reveals that the simple act of laughter increases endorphins and sends mood-lifting dopamine to the brain. This hormone also has the power to lower stress levels by helping us process emotional responses and experience pleasure.

This solution is pretty simple: Bring more laughter into your life. As Law of Attraction advocate Steve Harvey says, "Laughter attracts joy and releases negativity." If you allow more joy and laughter in your life, you won't feel the pains and stresses as much. You won't focus on them.

Whether it's funny TV shows, comedy podcasts, or time with friends and family, there are more ways than ever to get laughing.

Try the "Rubber Band Technique"

We've all heard the story of Ivan Pavlov, the Russian physiologist who discovered that any activity or object he associated with food--yes, his famous bell!--would trigger the same salivation response in his dogs. What did he really discover? The power of conditioning.

You can apply this same principle to stop complaining. Put a rubber band around your wrist. When you complain about something, think about the complaint while you pull the rubber band back. Then release it so it stings the inside of your wrist.

This simple action serves as a physical and mental reminder that you're complaining, and to reinforce the negativity around the action. It works by bringing subconscious acts into your daily consciousness. I did this when I wanted to stop my own complaining, and it worked.

See through the lens of gratitude

We tend to complain when we focus on the negative, not the positive. Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're grateful for each night. This habit will help you see your life through the lens of gratitude, and not lack. As a result, you'll simply see fewer things that prompt you to complain in the first place. Some schools of thought believe we can change our brain chemistry this way, and this process will help rewire you to see the positive.

Examine your relationships

Author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn says it best: "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." When trying to stop a bad habit, it helps to surround yourself with people--inspirational speakers or leaders, mentors, family and friends--who embody the same behaviors and discipline you want to live by.

Consider the power of your closest ties by examining how your relationships make you feel and behave. Take steps to end any toxic relationships, and invite more positive people into your inner circle and life.

Meditate

Matthieu Ricard, a trained biochemist turned Buddhist monk, suggests we can train our minds to generate an ongoing sense of serenity and fulfillment through meditation. He cites brain plasticity, which is the ability of repetition and reinforcement to alter our synaptic connections.

I credit my regular meditation practice with raising my baseline for awareness and serenity, and lowering my baseline for stress and anxiety. After a few weeks of practicing meditation, I became more grounded and small things didn't bother me as much.

Get more sleep

Studies show that getting more sleep helps us to be happier and more positive, while also building the mental acuity needed to stay focused. How much sleep do adults need? Research suggests between seven and nine hours nightly.

Exercise out the stress

There are few better ways to counter negativity than by getting your blood flowing and releasing endorphins through exercise. According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise has been shown to reduce stress and ward off feelings of anxiety or depression, which can lead to chronic complaining.

Putting it all together

Complaining is a negative behavior that affects our happiness, attitude, and ability to perform. Learn from what science teaches us about this bad mental habit--and how to bring more positive practices into your life starting today.

Source:     Inc.com

How To Live With Positive Emotions On Daily Basis

1. Bond With People

Whenever you feel down for whatever reason or no reason whatsoever, there should be a friend to comfort you.

Cynical people say, a friend in need is a friend indeed. So, to have a friend when you are in need of emotional support, you should be a friend when not in need – at all times.

Besides, being in a company of friendly people keeps you from overthinking and feeling blue altogether.

2. Get Over Things

Eliminating negative emotions are equally important as obtaining positive ones.

One of the most common negative emotions is regret.

Haven’t you made a choice recently, that you now regret?

Even the smallest one. A pizza instead of sushi? Seeing one movie instead of another?

All these small things get you down, you need to get over them.

A good idea is to get rid of little things that you regret symbolically.

That would be writing them on a piece of paper, sealing them in an envelope, and getting rid of the envelope.

3. Don’t Be Too Secretive

Our reflexes tell us to only give out as much information as necessary for a certain cause. The rest we keep to ourselves.

In fact, secrets are an extra burden that is carried on your shoulders. As much information as possible needs to be shared, so you can feel lighter and breathe more freely.

Note: this should not be confused with keeping to one’s privacy.

4. Like What You Have To Do

If there are some activities in your life that you don’t like but have to do, this is sure to give you negative emotions.

The negative emotions, however, root in the dislike element, and not in the activities in question.

So, you can easily get rid of these negative emotions by embracing those necessary activities and removing your dislike from them.

For example, if you are on a diet, you need to convince yourself that you actually find fruits and vegetables tastier than burgers.

5. Smile

We know that we smile when we feel good.

But it goes the other way around just as well: smiling can make you feel better. Here is how you do it:

– relax your facial muscles to the point where your mouth slightly opens;

– constrict the muscles at the corners of your mouth – the wider, the better;

– keep your face in this position for about 20 seconds.

This exercise is especially effective when you need to feel positive before something important, such as an important phone call.

6. Tense Your Muscles

Whenever we need to do some physical activity – such as go jogging or lift something heavy – we often make a fist or grip something without even thinking. It helps us concentrate our willpower and achieve a better result.

It turns out that this trick works for all kinds of activities just as well.

Whenever you need to do something, contract your muscles, or just press your thumbs against your index fingers, – and you will feel your willpower-boosting.

This concentration of willpower, combined with the self-content feeling you get upon completing whatever it is that you had to do, are some of those positive emotions.

7. Powerpose

Researches have shown that when your body is in a certain position, you get the increased level of the hormones responsible for dominance and the senses of security and comfort, whereas some other positions increase the level of chemicals responsible for the feeling of stress.

The former are called power poses. Here are some of them:

– if you are standing up, push your chest forward and pull your shoulders back;

– if you are sitting, lean back, lock your fingers on the back of your head or neck, and look up.

8. Surround Yourself With Comfort

Lack of comfort is another common reason for negative emotions.

Therefore, to avoid unnecessary negative emotions caused by discomfort, you must not overlook all the tiniest details that surround you in your everyday life – the wallpapers in your room, the dislocation of your furniture, the furniture itself: it must all serve one sole purpose – your comfort.

The furniture is especially important here. It is vital to your positive mindset that your furniture was soft and comfortable.

9. Stay Warm

From our childhood, we associate warmness with comfort and friendliness, and coldness with neutrality at best.

This is why you should surround yourself with warmness to keep perceiving your environment in a positive way.

In practice – pay extra attention to keeping your home warm, don’t drink cold drinks unless it’s hot, avoid cold showers unless necessary, etc.

10. Break Your Habits

New experiences always give us adrenaline which is a hormone for positive emotion.

Especially when these new experiences are safe.

For example, you can take a different route when driving to your office, you can shop or eat in new places, – there are dozens of variations.

So, positive emotions are crucial for a good and happy life, and not only so.

Think of all the bad things that happen to people in their everyday lives because of their negative mindset.

One cannot but agree that when one is in a bad mood, everything is just falling from one’s hands. This can be vital, literally.

Therefore, positive emotions are critical for your mental – and sometimes even physical – health.

Follow the humble tips from this article to assure your positive mindset – and stay well!

Source:     PurposeFairy

People, It's The Newest Month In The Universe!!!!

It's November, the eleventh month of the year 2016

It has pleased God to bring us into it and for that there is a purpose

In it, He shall

provide for us

sustain us by His Mighty Right Hand

protect us with His Wings

defend us with His Shield

enable us to be that He wants us to be

awaken our cold spirits to His Service

love us like never before

This November, God shall uplift us beyond our expectations

He shall turn His Face to us and brighten our days

He shall not let the sun smite us in the day time nor the moon in the night

And He shall not let our feet hit upon any stone

It surely shall be a very joyful, purposeful and fulfilling month

Happy New Month to all my friends

#CarpeDiem

#DrJTF