By Ryan Holiday
On my first day of my
first job as a lowly assistant in Hollywood, someone gave me some advice
that would shape the course of my entire career. They said: “Just make your
boss look good.”
Now in Hollywood, a world
of big egos obsessed with getting credit, there is really no other way for
someone just starting out to survive. But it turns out that across industries
and across history, aspiring young men and women have used this same approach
to get ahead.
They realized that the
best way to advance their own interests was to do something simple but
counterintuitive: provide opportunities for other people. Not only because it
makes their boss look good, but because it creates its own opportunities for
the pupil to learn and explore.
For instance, many people
know that as a young man Benjamin Franklin published numerous letters written
under fake names like Silence Dogwood. What they don’t know is that
Franklin wrote those letters, submitted them by sliding them under the printshop
door, and received absolutely no credit for them until much later in his life.
In fact, it was his brother, the owner, who profited from their immense
popularity, regularly running them on the front page of his newspaper. Franklin
was playing the long game, though — learning how public opinion worked,
generating awareness of what he believed in, crafting his style and tone and
wit. It was a strategy he used time and again over his career — once even
publishing in his competitor’s paper in order to undermine a third competitor
— for Franklin saw the constant benefit in making other people look good and
letting them take credit for his ideas.
One must master their ego to be able to completely ignore
getting credit, getting ahead, even throwing out what your job is supposed to
be on paper. It takes a special type of humility to focus your energy on
finding, presenting, and facilitating opportunities that help other people
succeed.
But this is essential.
Bill Belichick, the now
four-time Super Bowl-winning coach of the New England Patriots, made his way up
the ranks of the NFL by loving and mastering how to do the one thing that
coaches hated at the time: analyzing film.
His first job in
professional football for the Baltimore Colts was one he volunteered to take
without pay — and his insights, which provided ammunition and critical
strategies for the game, were attributed exclusively to the other public-facing
coaches. “He was like a sponge, taking it all in, listening to
everything,” one coach said. “You gave him an assignment and he disappeared
into a room and you didn’t see him again until it was done, and then he wanted
to do more,” said another.
This gave him two things:
first, a role in the organization that allowed him to thrive and carve out
space for himself, two, an understanding of the game that today cannot be
matched. And today, Belichick has no problem getting paid.
A few years ago there was
some controversy because Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, was looking for
an unpaid intern. How dare she?! bloggers shouted and yelled. She can afford to
pay! Of course, she could. But can you afford to pass on that opportunity?
The attitude of the angry,
unappreciated genius—that gets us nowhere. Nowhere but living back at home with
our parents because “we’re overqualified” for an entry-level position. Nowhere
but a reputation for being a person who doesn’t work well with others, who is entitled and obnoxious.
Meanwhile, the
apprenticeship model is responsible for some of the greatest art in the history
of the world—everyone from
Michelangelo to Leonardo
da Vinci to Benjamin Franklin has been forced to navigate such a system. The
greatest networkers in the world practice their art by delivering extraordinary
amounts of value to everyone they meet.
It’s because they realize
what most people’s ego’s prevent them from seeing: that by serving and helping
others now, you’re really helping yourself.
I’ve seen this in my own
life. For many years, I was a research assistant and apprentice for the author Robert
Greene, creator of the 48 Laws of Power. My job was to contribute little bits
and pieces to his books that 99% of the public would have no idea I was
responsible for. But I loved it. I did it for years.
Working in that system,
also taught me the fatal consequences of ego. One slip up, one false belief that
you were indispensable to the project, and the door would be shut on you.
Important people don’t have time for that. But the quieter and more helpful I
could be? The more opportunities I had to contribute. The more I learned. The
more trust I was given.
Slowly I developed my own
abilities and was able to pursue my own career. I’m writing this article (and now my own books) because of it.
There is an old saying,
“Say little, do much.”
What we really ought to do
is update and apply a version of that to our early approach. Be lesser, do
more. Imagine if for every person you met, you thought of some way to help
them, something you could do for them? And you looked at it in a way that
entirely benefited them and not you. The cumulative effect this would have
over time would be profound: You’d learn a great deal by solving diverse
problems. You’d develop a reputation for being indispensable. You’d have
countless new relationships. You’d have an enormous bank of favors to call upon
down the road.
That’s what this strategy
is about — helping yourself by helping others. Making a concerted effort to
trade your short term gratification for a longerterm payoff. Whereas everyone
else wants to get credit and be “respected,” you can forget credit. You can
forget it so hard that you’re glad when others get it instead of you — that was
your aim, after all. Consider it all an investment.
This approach is here for
you at anytime. There is no expiration date on it either. It’s one of the few
that age does not limit — on either side, young or old. You can start at any time — before you have a job, before
you’re hired and while you’re doing something else, or if you’re starting
something new or find yourself inside an organization without strong allies or
support.
You may even find that there’s no reason to ever
stop doing it, even once you’ve graduated to heading your own projects. Let it
become natural and permanent — always, always find opportunities for
other people.
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