Thursday, October 29, 2015
“We cannot gloss over facts and expect problems to solve themselves.” –Ahmadu Bello.
The fact staring us in the face in this country is that a large percentage of our citizens are unemployed and looking for non-existent jobs.
Another sad fact staring us in the face is that no nation can rise to economic greatness where able bodied citizens are idle and doing nothing.
And the saddest of all the facts is that we will never get out of this mess with how the system works.
We have a system that churn out graduates who don’t know jack about starting a business or creating value.
They come out brandishing a piece of paper called a certificate expecting a job from the government and everyone.
They have this attitude of “expectational arrogance”. They are graduates, they have finished their NYSC, and so somebody must owe them a job.
How very sad indeed.
Most Nigerians never think of creating a job and employing others.
They don’t believe in further training or acquiring a new skill that will help them start out on their own.
For them once they are done with formal schooling they deserve a job.
Well, maybe they do deserve a job, but the best way to get a job in Nigeria is to create one.
Even those doing some sort of business are never satisfied until they get a “job”.
I met a cab driver in Abuja who makes more money than a bank teller monthly but he was still begging for a job.
As far as he is concerned he must wake up every morning and go to a place called a “job” before he is satisfied.
This is our general attitude with just a few exceptions.
Granted that our educational system doesn’t prepare us to be entrepreneurs, but once we are out of school we ought to take responsibility for our thoughts and our actions.
The system prepares you to be broke but your attitude will keep you broke.
Take charge of your attitude.
Attend a training, hone your talents, acquire a skill, get business mentoring and start out on your own.
It is really sad to see Nigerians work for years in a bank without learning how to start and run a bank, this also goes for those working in hotels, schools, NGOs, etc. what matters to them is to take peanuts home every month.
While I was working as the Programs Manager of a top NGO in Nigeria I noticed that my secretary never bothered understanding all the concept notes and proposals I was giving her to type, she didn’t bother to inquire how we raised money and engaged our donors, she didn’t bother to know how we executed and evaluated projects.
When I asked her why, she said it didn’t occur to her. But she didn’t change.
One day when I couldn’t take it any longer I fired her. I don’t like such folks around me, they poison my work atmosphere.
One of the best ways to measure this attitude of Nigerians is on social media, especially Facebook.
You can try it. Write anything about business or a business training, you will get no comments, no questions and just a couple of “likes”.
Nigerian youths hardly engage you on any post that has to do with entrepreneurship.
They don’t want to create value, they don’t want to learn anything about starting a business.
They want someone to give them a job, job, job, job…
Do another test. Just post about a job opening anywhere even in a Filling Station and see the number of comments and inbox messages you will get.
Infact the easiest way to scam a Nigerian is to tell him about a job offer.
Nigerians spend more money in bribes trying to get a job than they spend in acquiring skills and knowledge needed to start and run a profitable business.
You will see 1 million Nigerians applying for just 10 spots in a company and it beats me hollow to imagine that none of those Nigerians are thinking about starting a company like the one they are applying to.
Rather they will give you a thousand reasons why they can’t do it, forgetting that the company they are applying to succeeded inspite of those reasons.
Nigerians also love fast money.
I also like to make fast money but it’s just that most avenues promoted online for this fast money making are fake.
Have you seen this craze about “click on this link, register and share with your friends and make $100 daily for doing nothing! Click now”?
And you will see graduates clicking and sharing it on their wall.
If you share a link about a training or a course on how to acquire a skill to start a business those same folks will not click it.
Nigerians also love magic and miracles.
Just post a picture of a top man of God like Enoch Adeboye or David Oyedepo and write a short post like this: “I declare that all the witches in your village preventing you from getting a job will die by fire before Monday next week. Click ‘Like’ and type ‘Amen’ to claim it!”
I bet you my laptop you will get nothing less than 1000 ‘likes’ and comments.
But if you write an article about business, my brother nobody go answer you o.
They want magic not education.
Personally I’m still looking for that Bible verse that say you must type ‘Amen’ on a Facebook post to get a job or be blessed.
I call on all young Nigerians to break this jinx upon our generation, this jinx placed on us by culture and our educational system.
Let’s break this vicious circle of poverty.
Let’s change our attitude and watch our lives change.
Change your perspective, be open to new knowledge and insights, attend trainings, get a mentor, and transform your talents and skills into businesses.
Let’s change our story and that of Nigeria and Africa.
The future depends on you.
If this post has touched you and you want a change of attitude but do not know how to go about it or you want to start off something on your own and do not know how to go about it, I am here for you; make me your Mentor-Confessor and I shall fill the gap.
Drop a comment on the blog if you need help or assistance on how to start.
Remember I do not give people MONEY, I give them IDEAS to make money.
Earlier this morning, I was at the gym and I overheard a
A negative conversation.
From gas prices to layoffs, this person was complaining about
Blah, blah, blah, this person DEFEATED HIMSELF.
The economy didn’t defeat him, his boss didn’t defeat him, he
That’s the power of our MENTAL ATTITUDE.
It can cause us to WIN, to TRIUMPH, or to defeat ourselves.
This is very important.
It’s so easy to look to the left or look to the right and
find somebody complaining about something.
It’s so easy to join in. Misery loves company.
Don’t do it.
YOU weren’t born to complain. YOU my friend were born to WIN.
We make our own economy.
Work on yourself. Become valuable to others.
Become ATTRACTIVE to others.
Become a problem solver to others.
Don’t pass on a complaining, victim driven attitude to your
Pass on the SPIRIT of a HERO. A winner.
Don’t take two steps today. Take one.
Move forward 1%. Yes, just 1%.
Start speaking TRIUMPH over your life.
I am VALUABLE.
People are drawn to me.
I am TALENTED.
I like people and people like me.
Amigo, start going the extra mile for others.
Watch what happens.
Get clear on what you want.
If you’re at a job right now and you want to leave it.
Find out how much money you need to make consistently each
month to leave that job and make that your goal.
Don’t make $1,000,000 your goal. Make it your goal for your
business to pay your monthly expenses plus.
Get started. Don’t join the ‘complaining party’
That party will always be there. You’re ABOVE IT.
The world is waiting to EXPERIENCE your gifts, talents, and
Will you let them?
A successful business man was growing old and
knew it was time to choose a successor to take over the business..
Instead of choosing one of his Directors or his children,
he decided to do something different. He called all the young
executives in his company together.
He said, "It is time for me to step down and choose the next CEO.
I have decided to choose one of you.. "The young executives were
Shocked, but the boss continued. "I am going to give each one
of you a SEED today - one very special SEED... I want you to plant
the seed, water it, and come back here one year from today with
what you have grown from the seed I have given you. I will then
judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be
the next CEO."
One man, named Jim, was there that day and he, like the others,
received a seed. He went home and excitedly, told his wife the
story. She helped him get a pot, soil and compost and he planted
the seed. Everyday, he would water it and watch to see if it had
grown. After about three weeks, some of the other executives began
to talk about their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow.
Jim kept checking his seed, but nothing ever grew.
Three weeks, four weeks, five weeks went by, still nothing.
By now, others were talking about their plants, but Jim didn't have
a plant and he felt like a failure.
Six months went by -- still nothing in Jim's pot. He just knew he
had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees and tall plants, but
he had nothing. Jim didn't say anything to his colleagues, however.
He just kept watering and fertilizing the soil - He so wanted the
seed to grow.
A year finally went by and all the young executives of the company
brought their plants to the CEO for inspection.
Jim told his wife that he wasn't going to take an empty pot.
But she asked him to be honest about what happened. Jim felt sick
to his stomach, it was going to be the most embarrassing moment
of his life, but he knew his wife was right. He took his empty pot
to the board room. When Jim arrived, he was amazed at the variety
of plants grown by the other executives. They were beautiful --
in all shapes and sizes. Jim put his empty pot on the floor and
many of his colleagues laughed, a few felt sorry for him!
When the CEO arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted his young
Jim just tried to hide in the back. "My, what great plants, trees,
and flowers you have grown," said the CEO. "Today one of you will
be appointed the next CEO!"
All of a sudden, the CEO spotted Jim at the back of the room with
his empty pot. He ordered the Financial Director to bring him to
the front. Jim was terrified. He thought, "The CEO knows I'm a
failure! Maybe he will have me fired!"
When Jim got to the front, the CEO asked him what had happened
to his seed - Jim told him the story.
The CEO asked everyone to sit down except Jim. He looked at Jim,
and then announced to the young executives, "Behold your next
Chief Executive Officer!
His name is Jim!" Jim couldn't believe it. Jim couldn't even grow
"How could he be the new CEO?" the others said.
Then the CEO said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone in this
room a seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it,
and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds;
they were dead - it was not possible for them to grow.
All of you, except Jim, have brought me trees and plants and
flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you
substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Jim was the
only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with
my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new
Chief Executive Officer!"
* If you plant honesty, you will reap trust
* If you plant goodness, you will reap friends
* If you plant humility, you will reap greatness
* If you plant perseverance, you will reap contentment
* If you plant consideration, you will reap perspective
* If you plant hard work, you will reap success
* If you plant forgiveness, you will reap reconciliation
* If you plant faith in God , you will reap a harvest
So, be careful what you plant now;
it will determine what you will reap later.
"Whatever You Give To Life, Life Gives You Back"
Some years ago, on a hot summer day in South Florida , a little boy decided to go for a swim in the old swimming hole behind his house. In a hurry to dive into the cool water, he ran out the back door, leaving behind shoes, socks, and shirt as he went.
He flew into the water, not realizing that as he swam toward the middle of the lake, an alligator was swimming toward the shore.
His father, working in the yard, saw the two as they got closer and closer together. In utter fear, he ran toward the water, yelling to his son as loudly as he could.
Hearing his voice, the little boy became alarmed and made a U-turn to swim to his father. It was too late. Just as he reached his father, the alligator reached him.
From the dock, the father grabbed his little boy by the arms just as the
Alligator snatched his legs.
That began an incredible tug-of-war between the two. The alligator was much stronger than the father, but the father was much too passionate to let go.
A farmer happened to drive by, heard his screams, raced from his truck, took aim and shot the alligator.
Remarkably, after weeks and weeks in the hospital, the little boy survived.
His legs were extremely scarred by the vicious attack of the animal. And, on his arms, were deep scratches where his father's fingernails dug into his flesh in his effort to hang on to the son he loved.
The newspaper reporter who interviewed the boy after the trauma, asked if he would show him his scars. The boy lifted his pant legs. And then, with obvious pride, he said to the reporter, "But look at my arms. I have great scars on my arms, too. I have them because my Dad wouldn't let go."
You and I can identify with that little boy.
We have scars, too.
No, not from an alligator, but the scars of a painful past.
Some of those scars are unsightly and have caused us deep regret.
But, some wounds, my friend, are because God has refused to let go.
In the midst of your struggle, He's been there holding on to you.
The Scripture teaches that God loves you.
You are a child of God.
He wants to protect you and provide for you in every way But sometimes we foolishly wade into dangerous situations, not knowing what lies ahead.
The swimming hole of life is filled with peril - and we forget that the enemy is waiting to attack.
That's when the tug-of-war begins - and if you have the scars of His love on your arms, be very, very grateful.
He did not and will not ever let you go.
Please pass this on to those you love.
God has blessed you, so that you can be a blessing to others.
You just never know where a person is in his/her life and what they are going through.
Never judge another person's scars, because you don't know how they got them.
Also, it is so important that we are not selfish, to receive the blessings of these messages, without forwarding them to someone else.
Right now, someone needs to know that God loves them, and you love them, too - enough to not let them go .
I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."
This was how I saw it:
"As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to possess it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds".
This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love.
They try to possess it; they demand; they expect; and just like the water
spilling out of your hand, love will retreat from you.
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature.
If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.
Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly
It is the secret to true love.
To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those
Who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
PASSING THOUGHT... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we
Take; but by the moments that take our breath away.
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country side with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.
They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, 'How was the trip?'
'It was great, Dad.'
'Did you see how poor people live?' the father asked.
'Oh yeah,' said the son.
'So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?' asked the father
The son answered:
'I saw that we have one dog
and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden
and they have a creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden
and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard
and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on
and they have fields that go beyond our sight.
We have servants who serve us,
but they serve others.
We buy our food,
but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us,
they have friends to protect them.'
The boy's father was speechless.
Then his son added, 'Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.'
Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?
Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have.
Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!
And if you like your friends, why not share this with them
Sharing is Caring and it is Loving
Wednesday, October 28, 2015
If you react immediately to criticism then you’ll often react in a knee-jerk manner. And the words that come out may be overemotional, vicious and unnecessary. Count to at least 10 after someone has criticized you. Then respond.
This simple way of calming yourself down and regaining some perspective can save you a lot of trouble and help you avoid saying something you can’t take back.
Maybe you’ve heard this one before. It’s a great and practical way to look at criticism. It might be extra useful when dealing with angry, destructive criticism and nasty personal attacks.
“A man interrupted one of the Buddha’s lectures with a flood of abuse. Buddha waited until he had finished and then asked him, “If a man offered a gift to another but the gift was declined, to whom would the gift belong?”
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
A man and his wife are both working and leave the house almost about the same time daily. However the wife comes back earlier than the husband.
They have 2 kids (a boy and a girl) and a house maid named Nkechi
Nkechi is the one that bathes the kids in the morning, prepares them for school including preparing their lunch and packing their lunch boxes; she is the one that waits with the kids for the bus to come and takes them into the bus; she is the one that welcomes them back from school when the bus drops them and ensures that they do their homework (if any).
While the kids are at School and Oga and Madam are at work, Nkechi tidies the house, she cleans the Master Bedroom, tidies up the bed that Oga and Madam slept in the previous night; she tidies the children's room; does the dishes from last night and prepares lunch for Madam who usually comes earlier than Oga.
On a blessed day, Oga came back to meet Madam sprawled on the sofa in the living room; she called out a welcome greeting to him but Nkechi was there to take his portfolio from him and took it into the Bedroom.
While Madam was still sprawled on the sofa, Nkechi ran the water and asked Oga to go take his bath.
Madam was still lying down on the sofa when the Oga came out of the room refreshed and wanted his dinner.
Oga: Madam, can I have my dinner now?
Madam: Nkechi, bring Oga's food
Madam: Nkechi bring water for Oga to wash his hand
Madam: Nkechi bring drinking water for Oga
Nkechi served the Oga and after eating his food, he spent some time in the sitting room with Madam and then told her that he was going in for the night.
She said she would be in later
When she finally came into the bed, Oga turned to hold her and she just exploded "What do you want to do now? eh?; you came in and saw me in the sitting room and you did not even bother to ask me what is happening with me; now you want to touch me? look I am so tired from my activities today and am not in the mood for anything."
What do you think of this Oga and Madam?
Monday, October 26, 2015
So you have been shifting the goal post?
Postponing the evil day?
Shifting for tomorrow what can be done today?
Yesterday, you said today, and today again, you are saying tomorrow!!!!
That is called #procrastination
Are you guilty?
Yes you are
And how do I know that you are guilty?
Because I was once in that shoe
There was a time, I could not just decide on what I wanted to have done, even though several times I already had it done in my mind; but lifting my physical being to do that thing was an issue.
It must have been for fear of tomorrow or fear of the consequence of the action or fear of one thing or the other; but definitely it was as a result of FEAR.
Then one day, I put on the armour of faith and decided that whatever it would result in, I was going to do that which I had postponed for quite a while.
And kpummmmmm I did it
And what was the result?
The thunder did not strike as I had feared, the heavens did not come down on the earth as I had envisioned, the torrential rain did not result in flood to sweep away my abode as I thought it would, none of the things I feared ever came to be.
I was the fear that I actually feared. I was the one holding myself back, I was my own enemy and yet looking for the enemy outside.
Today, are you afraid of taking that step of faith?
Don't be afraid
Learn from me, the only thing to fear is YOU.
When you conquer you, then you would become the real you that you ought to be.
Don't forget to give the testimony
Fear lives inside of us; but God also lives inside of us, why don't we allow God to chase out the fear in us??
Waiting to read from you
The other day, in the course of my tour of duty to Sierra Leone, I was the Guest of a Business Man based in Free Town who wanted us to have a business lunch and discuss the possibility of a business tour of Nigeria.
For those who may not remember, Freetown is the capital and largest city of Sierra Leone. It is a major port city on the Atlantic Ocean and is located in the Western Area of the country.
Freetown is Sierra Leone's major urban, economic, financial,cultural, educational and political centre.
The city proper had a population of 951,000 at the 2014 census.
As of 2010, the population of Freetown is estimated at 1.2 million.
The city's economy revolves largely around its harbor, which occupies a part of the estuary of the Sierra Leone River in one of the world's largest natural deep water harbours.
The population of Freetown is ethnically, culturally, and religiously diverse, among Muslims and Christians.
The city is home to a significant population of virtually all of the country's ethnic groups, with no single ethnic group forming a majority of the city's population.
As in virtually all parts of Sierra Leone, the Krio language is Freetown's primary language of communication and is by far the most widely spoken language in the city.
So, I found myself at the downtown Restaurant where we scheduled to meet and in no time the Business man joined me.
After going through the menu, I placed my order for grilled fish and potato chips with plenty onions. And for drinks, I asked for old sweet Guinness
We made some small talks while waiting for the lunch to be served. It was my first time in Free Town and he made great efforts to fill me in about the city and its beauties.
Then lunch was served and while at it, we also had all the talk that needed to be talked about Nigeria and its business climate.
Towards the end of the lunch, the waiter brought the bill - gave me mine and gave the man his. I was waiting for the Business man that brought me out to take my bill and pay alongside his, but he just counted the amount on his bill and dropped on the plate.
I looked hard at him, but he was not batting an eye lid or saying anything and in order not to be embarrassed before the waiter, (and thank God I had some Leone with me) I also counted out the amount on my own bill and put into the plate and the waiter left.
As we were about to step out of the Restaurant, I asked him why he did not pick my bill, since it was his idea that we met there for a business lunch and he said "Sorry Doctor that you had to learn it this way, but even though we are in free town, but there is no free lunch here. Everyone picks their bill when they go out for lunch whether on invitation or all alone."
I told him that in Nigeria, when we ask people out for lunch or dinner, we pick the bills and he laughed so hard that I thought I had said something funny; and you know what he ended up saying "Anyway, you Nigerians are all rich because your Country is a rich Country"
So my Country people and friends, should any of you find yourselves in Freetown of Sierraleone, and someone asks you out for lunch or dinner or even breakfast, be sure to have enough Leone in your wallet to avoid any embarrassment.