The Truth - 47

 

The Truth - 47

 

 

The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth

 

He had what he thought was a small misunderstanding with his girl friend of 2 years, but to her, it was a big deal.

For one whole week, she refused to pick his calls and he called more than 100 times. She refused to see him even when he visited her house.

At the end of that week, he decided that he was going to propose to her and make her his wife eventually.

So he put a call to her, another call he thought to himself but to his amazement, she answered and he invited her out for dinner (he hoped to propose to her there). She was to meet him at the Restaurant

30 minutes to the dinner time,  he left his office to be able to beat the traffic and in his hurry, he forgot his cell phone. Yet he met the stand-still hold up and since he was locked into the traffic, there was no escaping it.

Finally after 50 minutes of snail-crawling through the traffic, he emerged on the free lane and as he was about to speed off, the engine of the car coughed and died, he was helped to push it to the sideline. When the bonnet was opened, it turned out that the engine was doing overheating, in his frustration, he opened the radiator and the steam sprang out of there and splashed dirty water all over this suit, his white shirt and his face.  By this time, he was 1 hour behind time.

Meanwhile the Lady arrived the Restaurant on the dot of time and took a seat to wait for him. She called his number several times, it rang same number of times but was not picked; she sent a number of text messages to which there were no responses. She dropped voice notes on whatsapp and text messages too but no response even though he was supposedly on line.

Seeing that there was nothing he could do about the car as at the time, since it has to be left to cool down, he wound up the windows, locked the car and took a taxi to the Restaurant. As he made to enter, the Security man told him that he could not enter like that and asked him to go to the Gents' to at least wash his face before entering; all his pleas that he wanted his girl friend to see him like that so that she could believe him fell on deaf ears. So he had no choice but to comply with the Security man's orders and just as he was coming out from the Gents;  he saw his girl friend's car departing the Restaurant. He ran towards it, shouting and waving but apparently she did not notice him. He then asked a taxi waiting there to follow her but somewhere along they lost her, He then asked the taxi driver to take him to where he packed his car, by this time he had  spent 2 hours and a half.

By the time he came back to where his car was parked, he noticed that the four tyres were gone. Some smart alecs had helped themselves to his brand new tyres. He was lost for words.  He could not understand how everything had gone wrong in the past 3 hours. Was that a sign from God or what?

Anyways, sign or no sign, it is noted that when it rains, it doesn't just rain, it pours which means that when trouble comes, it comes in droves.

Now that is *The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 46

 

The Truth - 46

 

 

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Yesterday, I had brought to your attention that popular phrase - letting go of the past - and I had reasoned that if anyone has any issues from the past that he or she needs to come to terms with, they should just do it to come clean and then move on. And I had given a specific example of what I think should be one of the things to come to terms with - a mistake from the past.

However my interaction with persons who come to me for assistance shows that many persons are simply unable to come to terms with the past.

They keep living in the past. They keep upbraiding and flogging themselves for mistakes made in the past and never letting go.

If you have found yourself in that jacket of blame-regret-more blame tango, then it is time for you to extricate yourself from it. The truth of the matter is that there is no way the YOU 2 point 0 can blossom if you are still dancing skelewu with the YOU 1 point 0.

The past is like a chain holding you hostage, putting you in a cage where you are the only occupant.

That you failed in business yesterday does not mean that you will fail today. That your marriage failed yesterday does not mean that you cannot give yourself another opportunity to try again.

Life is not static, it is dynamic and human beings are always evolving.

To evolve means to grow above the mundane and until you start seeing everything that happens around you which do not contribute to your happiness as the mundane, there can be no evolving.

Evolve from your past, embrace the now wholeheartedly and build a future with hope and precision.

Now that is *The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 45

 

The Truth - 45

 

 

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You have heard the popular phrase used by most Preachers and Positive Psychologists - especially when they are counseling persons who seem to think that the world has dealt them a bad blow - to let go of their past and march forward.

I am sure you have heard of it several times.

Well, I think that letting go of the past is dependent on what was in the past.

Now a man who did a business deal and failed, can afford to let go of that past experience when next he has an opportunity to do another business deal so long as he does not repeat the same mistake that caused the failure of the last business deal.

So can a student who failed one Class and has to repeat the Class or a woman who was chased out of the house of her First Husband due to bad character.

But can a girl who became pregnant in her Father's house and gave birth to a baby boy keep quiet of it when some guy comes to ask for her hand in marriage?

Wouldn't she sit down with the man and explain to him the circumstances under which she became a Mother while still unmarried?

Would letting the past be in the past apply to this one?

Well, I think that the girl should come clean with her past, deal with it and then move on and this is simply because, whether we like it or not, somewhere along our life path, the past always catches up with us.

Now that is *The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 44

 

The Truth - 44

 

 

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There once were two friends - A and B.

An opportunity to start off a franchise business was presented to B by his best friend A; he told his friend that it was a nice idea and a good opportunity but that he did not have the money to come into it then (an excuse).

A offered to bear the initial cost of entry and which B would refund when he makes a profit but he turned it down on the excuse that he does not believe in taking a loan to start a business (another excuse).

After several attempts to bring B into the business, A decided to let well alone.

They still remained very good friends and each time they met up, B would always inquire from A how the business was doing and A would always reply - so, so - not willing to continue further discussion on the business with B since he was not interested.

3 years down the line and B came home one day to find an invitation card waiting for him on his dining table and it was from A his good friend who was being honoured by the Company he had taken up their franchise.

Not only was he being given a car but he also was launching his very own outlet at a busy side of the town where the rent was on top of the iroko tree

Immediately B picked up his phone and put a call through to A asking him if it was the same business he invited him to join 3 years back that was honouring him - Yes, A answered and is it the Company that was renting the shop for him - No, A answered. He explained that he got to the level in the Company where with a cash support and his own funds accumulated through his savings, he could rent the place.

I hope to see you at the ceremony, A called out but B told him that he won't be able to make it because he had prior engagements but that he would come over to the house for a drink (a dodging remark).

But the truth was that B was regretful that he did not join his friend when he was invited and did not want to feel ashamed should he be spotted by those who knew the efforts his friend had made.

Most times we never know which business would escalate and which would die but taking the first step is always essential in that process and that is why the Good Book advises us to "sow in the morning and not neglect to sow in the evening too because we do not know which seed would sprout and bear much fruits" (paraphrased)

Another opportunity is coming your way, take a good look at it and then jump in and be on the driver's seat.

Now that is *The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 43

The Truth - 43

 

 

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Avoid trouble

Infact flee from trouble

Anything that  will involve the Police charging you to court is trouble

If you can end the matter at the Police Station, by all means do just that

Stop shouting I know my right, I know my right

In this place we are in, your right and left can change any time

If your Lawyer is shouting, at the Police Station,  we will meet in Court

Tell him to calm down, it is your case and not his

The use of we in the matter is merely figurative

If you are taken to Court, he will not stand in the accused box with you

And if peradventure you're sentenced to a term of imprisonment, he will not be there to serve the sentence with you.

Remember, it is not what you know that matters in Court, it is what you can prove beyond all reasonable doubt

Sometime ago, I was attacked by a Pedestrian in Lagos.

The car I was in brushed him slightly, I was not the driver. I just told him to be more careful; that's how the guy attacked me.

He threw 4 punches, I blocked 2, and dodged 2.

I had the opportunity to counter punch but I did not. Fortunately a Police Officer came around the scene and eventually stopped him. I immediately removed myself from the scene. I was happy enough I was not leaving the place with a broken jaw neither was I being charged for assault and battery occasioning harm.

Sometimes, it is better to let some things go.

I do not mean to advise that you should become everyone's foot mat, far from it but if you're going to take up an issue, ensure that you are blameless or almost blameless.

Whatever you can do, do it to avoid trouble.

If people are beating up a thief, do not join, or even stand and watch even if it was your property that was stolen.

If someone hits your car, don't start fighting because of that or even arguing on top of your voice, sometimes vessels have ruptured in the course of angered shouts

Do not lend people money including your friends and relatives, it hardly ends well.

Do not be a Guarantor or Surety for someone you don't absolutely trust

Avoid night movements and partying and clubbing, people have been killed through accidental discharges in those circumstances

Avoid people who cannot control their alcoholic intake, their actions are vexatious to the Spirit

Realize that a bad situation can get better or worse, depending on how you handle it

Avoid people who talk too much

Be wary of what you say to anyone.

Do not talk about people behind their backs, it is called gossip.

Always assume that someone is recording your speech and videoing your movements.

Even if someone comes to you with negative gossip about another person, nod your head and move on. Do not say anything, statistics has shown that if you talk, it is that which you said that will somehow find its way back to that person's ears.

Stop saying things like Do you know who I am? I am not afraid of anybody, My yes is my yes and My No is my no and all that, I tell you that when the time comes, you will fear fear itself.

And lastly, remember to keep your anger and ego in check.

The earth does not revolve around you, it certainly revolves around the Sun and you are not the Sun

As much as lieth in you, avoid trouble and seek peace with all men.

 

Now that is *The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 42

 

The Truth - 42

 

 

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So, what will matter?

How will the value of your life be measured?

What will matter?

is not what you bought

but what you built

is not what you got

but what you gave

is not your success

but your significance

is not what you learned

but what you taught

is not your competence

but your character

not how many people you knew

but how many people will feel a lasting loss when you're gone

is not your memories

but the memories that live in the hearts of those that love you

is every act of integrity, compassion or sacrifice that enriched, empowered and encouraged others

is how long you will be remembered by who and for what

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident, it i not a matter or coincidence or circumstance  but of choice.

Make that choice today

The Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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The Truth - 41

 

The Truth - 41

 

 

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I came across a write up that talked about raising plastic children.

I was intrigued by the title so I decided to read it and it turned out to be a lamentation on what today's children have become mainly because their Parents have over-protected them.

The writer was of the opinion that most of the world's Children of today are living on the glories of their Parents.

The Parents don't allow their Children to be stressed, they don't allow their children to sweat and thus they do not know how to do anything for themselves, they teach their children to pray and hope instead of praying and taking action; they teach their children to sort Lecturers out instead of studying to pass examinations; they literally take over running the lives of their children and in the process ruining them, making them both physically and intellectually lazy and giving them the license to live the entitlement mentality lifestyle where they expect that the world is at their feet for the take.

I could read meaning into the write up and the pain of the writer. I guess he was writing out of the mistake he had also made in raising his own kids - he did not say so in the write up though.

But come to think of it - why would a Parent buy admission for the child? why would a parent encourage sorting of lecturers for marks? why would a parent not allow the child to develop along his or her own lines, make his or her own mistakes and correct himself or herself while learning from it? why would a Parent live the life of his or her child?

For me, there is nothing wrong for any Parent to wish their child well and work with that child to see that he or she turns out a distinguished member of the Community, I also do so but to take over running the life of the child, I think it's uncalled for, because when that child is utterly dependent on the Parent, he or she cannot fit it well into the society and from such actions arise instances of personality disorders.

And so we advise Parents to train their children not in the manner of taking over their lives but in helping them to learn the ropes to be their own unique individuals and not photocopies.

Now, that is  *the Truth, the WHOLE Truth and nothing but the Truth*

--------------------------Jerry -the First

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