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11 Hard Truths about Love You Should Know

1. There is no love without self love

Pay close attention to those people who tell you how much they love you, but who treat themselves as if there is nothing worthy about them.

If a person has no love for themselves, they will have no love to offer to those around. How can anyone offer you something they themselves don’t have? It’s just not possible.

“I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~ Maya Angelou

2. Love is not selective

I used to be so proud of the fact that I had love only for a selective few.

And in my ignorance, I failed to realize that my love was flawed and imperfect. Because just as the Eckhart Tolle so beautifully said it,

“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary.”

3. Codependency is not love

So many people confuse co-dependency with love when in fact these two have nothing to do with one another.

Love is pure, perfect, and honest. While co-dependency is nothing but fear masked as love trying to cling onto other people by sucking the life out of them and by making them feel responsible for our own happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.

4. Love is not blind infatuation

You often hear people say things like: Oh my God, I fell in love! I’m so happy. And then after a little while, the same people will affirm: Oh, I’m so unhappy. I no longer love them. I fell out of love. 

But the truth of the matter is that what these people felt wasn’t love, but rather a blind infatuation that lasted for a little while and then it disappeared. Because that’s what infatuation does – it comes and goes. 

5. Love is eternal

Love isn’t something you fall in, and out of. Love just is. Love is eternal and always present. And if there’s true and honest love in your heart for someone, this love will remain with you for as long as you live. And whether you allow this love to be felt or not, that is your choice.

6. Love is not blind, or foolish

Love is not foolish, and love is not blind. Love will not permit us to be walked all over by those we love.

If somebody you love treats you in toxic and unkind ways, out of love for them and yourself, you will be guided intuitively to do what’s right – by either removing yourself from the toxic relationship or by asking them to change and correct their ways – but under no circumstances will love ask you to stay in a relationship where you will be abused, manipulated, and mistreated. So keep that in mind.

7. Love is to be offered to all

You might think that the only people worthy of your love are your family, your partner, your friends and a selective few.

But the truth of the matter is that the whole world is worthy and deserving of your love and affection. And since we are all ONE – connected with each other in a profound and meaningful way – it is your responsibility to expand your circle of compassion and offer your love and support, not just to those close to you, but to the whole world.

8. Love needs nothing in return

If you think you have a right to receive just because you have given your love to others, that is a clear sign your love is flawed and imperfect. Because love is pure and unconditional. It offers itself to the whole world without wanting anything in return. And even though we were taught to believe that we should only offer our love only to those who offer their love to us, we should never forget that true love comes with no conditions.

9. The word Love has become empty of meaning, but love itself has never lost its power

We go around throwing “I love you’s” as if love was nothing. But love is not, nothing. Love is everything. Love is the Source of all things. Love is what we all need, what we all seek, and what we all need.

And even though the word love has become empty of meaning through years and years of misuse, love itself has never lost its value and its power.

10. Love isn’t what we think it is

Love isn’t what we think it is. Love is what we feel. And since the majority of people have become disconnected from their own hearts and feelings, what we are getting is not love, but an idea of what love is supposed to be.

11.    Love Is Not Sex

A lot of people have been ruined because they thought that they could use sex to hold someone down in love. So many girls have become Mothers by force, so many boys who were unprepared to become Fathers have become emergency Fathers simply because they confused sex for love.

You do not use sex as a show of love or as a sign that you love someone.

If you love someone, you love them for who they are and what they stand for and not necessarily for what you can get out of them

And these are 11 hard truths about love we should all know.

What about you? What is one hard truth about love that you’ve learned and made your life better? You can share your opinion in the comment section below

23 Rules For Boys And The Kings Of Boys

 

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.

2. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs ain’t one.

3. The man at the grill is the closest thing we have to a king.

4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.

5. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.

6. Request the late check-out.

7. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

8. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.

9. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.

10. Don’t fill up on bread.

11. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.

12. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.

13. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.

14. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.

15. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.

16. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.

17. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

18. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.

19. Never turn down a breath mint.

20. In a game of HORSE, sometimes a simple free throw will get ’em.

21. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.

22. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.

23. Thank a veteran.

Stop Waiting For Happiness To Arrive

Too many people think of happiness as the ultimate goal of life. But, if you're waiting for happiness to arrive then it's likely that it never will!

You convince yourself that life will be happy when you're married. When the mortgage is paid off. When you have children. When the weekend arrives. Next summer. Whatever particular dream you
have, you're sure that when you reach it you'll finally be happy.

Unfortunately, this way of thinking is a trap.

You're always wanting something more, always looking forward to a time when you'll be "happy".

And, if you fall into this trap, you'll never reach that goal.

When you get married, you might wish your partner was more affectionate or more proactive.

When you have children, you might find their young age restrictive and long for them to grow up too quickly.

When you've paid off that mortgage you might long for a better
house, a better neighborhood, a better car. Life will pass you by with that goal of happiness forever in sight but never quite in reach.

Happiness should not be your life's goal, it should be your life!

The only time to be happy is right now! It's state of mind, not a set of
accomplishments or the accumulation of material things.

There is no time to achieve happiness other than right now.

You must accept that life will always have challenges and things will not
always go your way and make the decision to be happy right now.

Instead of feeling disappointed when things don't work out the way you'd hoped, feel grateful for the experience. Instead of dreaming of a brighter, happier, richer tomorrow, make today as wonderful as you can. Treasure each moment that you have air in your lungs and treasure the people you share those moments with.

Alfred D. Souza put this perfectly when he said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

His perspective helped me to see that happiness is a conscious decision and that I can make it right now.

He's not saying that having dreams, goals and ambitions is a bad thing. Thinking of the future and having aspirations is essential to leading a happy and fulfilled life.

The trick is not to let thoughts of the future overshadow your
enjoyment of the present and the appreciation of the things and people
you have in your life right now!

There is no way to happiness: happiness is the way!

Stop waiting to meet your soulmate, to get married, to have children, to pay off your mortgage. For Friday night, for payday, for the summer time. Stop waiting for happiness to arrive and simply decide to be happy! It's not some great goal or destination, it's a journey and a way of life. Why not try it out today?

Work like you don't need money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
And dance like no one's watching!

Success Can Only Happen When You Decide What You Want

If success is defined as a daily process of moving towards our goals, then we must first be clear about what our goals are.

If you do not define what your goals are, then how can you tell if the actions you take daily are moving in the direction or not?

Without goals, success is impossible.

Imagine playing a soccer game without knowing where the goal post is.
You won't know where to run to or which direction to aim the ball at.

Without a goal post, you cannot keep score on the game and tell if you are winning or losing.

It may seem absurd to play a ball game without knowing where the goal post is.

However, isn't this the way most people play their game of life?

Many people never decide what they really want; what their goals are.
As a result, they take sporadic actions, in all directions and end up achieving nothing. 

Make It A September To #MakeThingsHappen

You can do it

Make this new month a #SeptemberToRemember

One in which you made great efforts to #MakeThingsHappen

Thank me later

 

September Is Here: Welcome The New Month

Hello Friends

Guess who has just arrived for breakfast?

I am sure your guess was right

It's September, the 9th month of the year 2017 and the latest in the Universe

I want to invite you to join us on the Breakfast Table but before you take your seat, let me remind you of the following:

1.      One month is not just a period of time in your calendar – it’s a period of your life. So don’t neglect it and make the most of it. Best places to visit, best people to meet, best books to read, best feelings to experience – you can have them all.

2.      This month is another step on your way to happiness and realization of your dream. Keep running and you’ll reach your goal very soon.

3.      You can’t control the weather in this changeable and moody month, but you can control your emotions. Start this new month with good mood and inspiration and you’ll see how it will influence your inner peace and harmony.

4.      Time is the most precious thing in our life. Appreciate it, spend it wisely and never waste it on nonsense. Have an incredible month full of unforgettable moments that won’t make you regret eventually!

5.      It’s never too late to start running in the morning, to find a new job, to fall in love – in other words, to change something in your life and open for new opportunities. This wonderful month is also a great chance for any endeavour.

6.      If you ever wanted to start again, this new month is a good opportunity to do it. Don’t put your life on a waiting list, otherwise it (your life) will turn its back on you.

Now you can take your seat and have breakfast with us to welcome #September2017

Here's wishing you a very Happy New Month!

One in which you shall find #fulfillment and #happiness for in this brief sojourn of ours on earth, that is all that really and actually matter

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Dr. Jerry - the First: JP

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