Finish September Strong

Hello Friend

Just 6 days left for the 9th month of the year 2017 called September to come to an end.

And you know, even if you have not achieved what you set out to achieve in this month, you can still #FinishSeptemberStrong

I know that one of the major challenges of men irrespective of what they are engaged in is PROCRASTINATION - postponing for tomorrow what can be done today.

I have been fighting it ever since I can remember yet, I have not won but I am not giving up and that's why, this last week of September 2017, I want to dedicate it to rooting out procrastination from my life for ever.

Are you having such challenge too?

Would you like to join me?

Then drop your whatsapp number so that I can invite you to the group

and let us team up and chase procrastination out of our lives

The program will kick off on Monday 26th and end on Saturday 30th

See you on the inside

#DrJTF

Neither Envy Nor Mock Anyone - Nothing Is As It Seems

Obama retired at 55, Trump started at 70. 

Showing that there are #EarlyBloomers and #LateBloomers

Sydney is 3 hours ahead of Perth, but that doesn't make Perth slow.

Someone graduated at the age of 22, but waited 5 years after NYSC before securing a good job.

Another graduated at age 27 and secured a good job a year after NYSC

Someone became a CEO at 25 and died at 50.

While another became a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 years.

Someone is still single and very willing to be married, while someone else got married and very willing to be single again.

Someone became a Millionaire at age 35

Another became a Millionaire at age 60

Someone started their family at age 30 and had his first kid at age 31

Another started his family at age 45 and had his first kid at age 41

Someone became a Grand Mother at age 44

Another became a Grand Mother at age 65

Everyone in this world works based on their time zone.

People around you might seem to be ahead of you and some might seem to be behind you.

But everyone is running their own race, in their own time.

Do not envy them and do not mock them.

They are in their time zone, and you are in yours.

Life is not about waiting for the right moment to act; but about acting irrespective of the moment.

So relax.

You're not early.

You're not late.

You are very much on time.

Nothing is ever assured, nothing is as it seems, nothing is promised

Time and chance happen to each and every one in their lives

Live your life

I Will Persist Until I Succeed

I will persist until I succeed. I was not delivered into this world into defeat, nor does failure course my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion, and I refuse to walk, talk, and to sleep with the sheep. I will persist until I succeed. - OG MANDINO

Good Morning

Action Speaks Louder Than Inaction

The World We Live In

When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him.

When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in.

A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend.

The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in.

A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend.

A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in.

The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him.

The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in.

A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady.

A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in.

A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is dating other ladies. Six months later he is married.

While the divorced woman is labeled a divorcee and remains single six years later. This is the world we live in.

A married man is caught in bed with another woman, his wife is asked to forgive him and move on.

A married woman is caught in bed with another man, the husband asks her to leave his house. This is the world we live in.

A man gets transferred by his company to another state, the entire family relocates with him.

The woman gets transferred to another state, she goes alone or resigns from the job. This is the world we live in.‎

If a man rises to be the CEO of the company, he got there by hard work and determination.

If a woman rises to be the CEO of the company, even if the staff are only women, she is suspected to get there by sleeping with the Board members. This is the world we live in.

Facts like these make some ladies angry at the world and channeling the anger towards men.

For me, that is not the right card to play.

Understanding the world you live in should help you play a better game.

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Before You Die, Live - Steve Jobs

This video was made on the day that Steve Jobs gave a commencement speech to graduands of Stanford University

You just have to watch it because you would learn the things that made Steve Jobs the enigma that he was and what drove him on to beat himself every time he had the opportunity even though he dropped out of College

Watch it here:

Characteristics Of A Good Listener

By     James Altucher

EXTREME LISTENING

I was at a dinner and someone told me, "if you are even thinking of a response while someone is talking, then you aren't really listening."

This guy seemed smarter than me. And he seemed like a nice person. But this advice is not true.

I thought about it a lot afterwards. For a long time I felt ashamed. I thought he was right and it must mean I am never a good listener.

Because I find that I get curious all the time while people are talking, so I want to ask my question or else I'll get lost in the mess of words that comes after.

I don't want to be the idiot that just nods his head, hoping people will like him. But if I don't get to ask when I'm curious, then I'll never be able to properly listen.

I get really nervous before any interview that I do. And I interview many people and I've been interviewed many times.

I've done about 200 podcasts where I've interviewed heroes of mine.
People I would be afraid to go up to and talk to because I'm intimidated by them.

I've also been interviewed by hundreds of podcasts, newspapers, blogs.

And because I want to get better, I listen to a lot of the best interviewers out there.

And even more importantly, I've been to a lot of couple's therapy.

Which means I've started off really bad at listening and hopefully I've gotten better.

Oh! Maybe most important: I have two children. They require constant attention. If I don't listen to them, then the day is "RUINED! YOU RUINED EVERYTHING!"

I practice what I call EXTREME LISTENING:

When someone is talking, these are some of the things I am thinking about:

- Why are they telling me this story?
If someone is telling me how they paid off their student loans before they became a famous actor, are they insecure that people think they didn't have it hard before their success?

And if they are insecure, why?

- What are the spaces?

"And after my divorce I moved into a smaller apartment…"

Wait a second. Why did you get a divorce? What happened? This might be critical for how you developed relationships afterwards.

- What are they telling me that doesn't matter?

People can go on and on about little details in their childhood. Sometimes it matters. Usually it doesn't. People like to talk. And other people are afraid to interrupt.

Let's get to the point!

- When are they skipping facts because it's too easy for them/ How?

It's really hard to interview athletes. Because their bodies do the talking for them. They are honed machines that act before they think. So often they don't have the words to describe what they do.

So I can either nod and listen to their achievements. Or really try to get them to break down what they do to achieve such success. This happens not just in sports but with any people who have been successful a long time.

They forget the initial language of success.

- Do they ever contradict themselves?

It's ok if they do. One person told me honesty is the only way he lives his life. But then he says he cheated on his wife because he wanted to be honest about his feelings to the other person.

Well: is this honest or not? I want to know!

- Do they ever not answer the question?

Rule of life: if someone doesn't answer the question, then they are lying.

Example: "Where were you last night?" "Oh, I was out with friends."

Notice that the "where" was not answered.

Listening is important to determine if someone is lying.

- Tone

Do they smile when talking to you? Are they facing you? Are they looking around while talking? Are they trying to figure something out in their head which means you might be touching an important issue. Do they appear annoyed, in which case you should back up and try again later?

- Repeat what you've learned.

When I talk to someone I like to break it down (for myself) into concise things I've learned from their experience. This is not just in interviews but in many situations. Why not learn while I can?

So I often summarize what I've learned.

This gives them a chance to correct. And also to appreciate how hard I've been listening.

People like to be heard. And I like to listen.

And listening is the only way a baby ever learns the languages of life around it.

This Is Your Time - Take It

Are you down and out, you can always pick yourself up again

The ability to do that rests squarely on your shoulders

And don't tell me that you can't do it

Because I know You Can

Watch this 4 minute video

And get roaring to possess your possessions thereafter

Remember to thank God for bringing you to this platform

11 Hard Truths about Love You Should Know

1. There is no love without self love

Pay close attention to those people who tell you how much they love you, but who treat themselves as if there is nothing worthy about them.

If a person has no love for themselves, they will have no love to offer to those around. How can anyone offer you something they themselves don’t have? It’s just not possible.

“I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves and tell me, ‘I love you.’ … There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ~ Maya Angelou

2. Love is not selective

I used to be so proud of the fact that I had love only for a selective few.

And in my ignorance, I failed to realize that my love was flawed and imperfect. Because just as the Eckhart Tolle so beautifully said it,

“Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the “love” of ego. However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary.”

3. Codependency is not love

So many people confuse co-dependency with love when in fact these two have nothing to do with one another.

Love is pure, perfect, and honest. While co-dependency is nothing but fear masked as love trying to cling onto other people by sucking the life out of them and by making them feel responsible for our own happiness, fulfillment, and well-being.

4. Love is not blind infatuation

You often hear people say things like: Oh my God, I fell in love! I’m so happy. And then after a little while, the same people will affirm: Oh, I’m so unhappy. I no longer love them. I fell out of love. 

But the truth of the matter is that what these people felt wasn’t love, but rather a blind infatuation that lasted for a little while and then it disappeared. Because that’s what infatuation does – it comes and goes. 

5. Love is eternal

Love isn’t something you fall in, and out of. Love just is. Love is eternal and always present. And if there’s true and honest love in your heart for someone, this love will remain with you for as long as you live. And whether you allow this love to be felt or not, that is your choice.

6. Love is not blind, or foolish

Love is not foolish, and love is not blind. Love will not permit us to be walked all over by those we love.

If somebody you love treats you in toxic and unkind ways, out of love for them and yourself, you will be guided intuitively to do what’s right – by either removing yourself from the toxic relationship or by asking them to change and correct their ways – but under no circumstances will love ask you to stay in a relationship where you will be abused, manipulated, and mistreated. So keep that in mind.

7. Love is to be offered to all

You might think that the only people worthy of your love are your family, your partner, your friends and a selective few.

But the truth of the matter is that the whole world is worthy and deserving of your love and affection. And since we are all ONE – connected with each other in a profound and meaningful way – it is your responsibility to expand your circle of compassion and offer your love and support, not just to those close to you, but to the whole world.

8. Love needs nothing in return

If you think you have a right to receive just because you have given your love to others, that is a clear sign your love is flawed and imperfect. Because love is pure and unconditional. It offers itself to the whole world without wanting anything in return. And even though we were taught to believe that we should only offer our love only to those who offer their love to us, we should never forget that true love comes with no conditions.

9. The word Love has become empty of meaning, but love itself has never lost its power

We go around throwing “I love you’s” as if love was nothing. But love is not, nothing. Love is everything. Love is the Source of all things. Love is what we all need, what we all seek, and what we all need.

And even though the word love has become empty of meaning through years and years of misuse, love itself has never lost its value and its power.

10. Love isn’t what we think it is

Love isn’t what we think it is. Love is what we feel. And since the majority of people have become disconnected from their own hearts and feelings, what we are getting is not love, but an idea of what love is supposed to be.

11.    Love Is Not Sex

A lot of people have been ruined because they thought that they could use sex to hold someone down in love. So many girls have become Mothers by force, so many boys who were unprepared to become Fathers have become emergency Fathers simply because they confused sex for love.

You do not use sex as a show of love or as a sign that you love someone.

If you love someone, you love them for who they are and what they stand for and not necessarily for what you can get out of them

And these are 11 hard truths about love we should all know.

What about you? What is one hard truth about love that you’ve learned and made your life better? You can share your opinion in the comment section below

23 Rules For Boys And The Kings Of Boys

 

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.

2. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs ain’t one.

3. The man at the grill is the closest thing we have to a king.

4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.

5. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.

6. Request the late check-out.

7. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

8. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.

9. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.

10. Don’t fill up on bread.

11. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.

12. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.

13. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.

14. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.

15. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.

16. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.

17. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

18. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.

19. Never turn down a breath mint.

20. In a game of HORSE, sometimes a simple free throw will get ’em.

21. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.

22. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.

23. Thank a veteran.