Everyone
has times in their life when they feel inadequate and incompetent, but some of
us feel that way more often than others.
Many
people are so busy putting themselves down they fail to thrive in life. They
stop trying to learn and better themselves. They become discouraged and
depressed.
Do you
feel like you may be one of these people?
Maybe your self-doubt stems from some negative experiences early in your life.
For
example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your
abilities even today.
Traumatic
experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.
Parents,
teachers, and other children can sometimes unwittingly say things that have a
powerful impact for both good and bad.
So, how
do you turn things around and stop that nagging voice in your head that says
you'll never be good enough?
Here are some tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:
1. Let Go of Negative Criticism of
Yourself
This applies to both past and present.
Don't let
a jerk of a boss ruin your day by simply adding his voice to the tape player in
your head.
Realize
that he may be taking his anger out on someone else because of his own
inadequacies.
People's
negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!
2. Stifle your tendency to criticize yourself.
By agreeing
with those who criticize you, you're giving them all the power.
Pay no
attention to that voice in your head that's saying you're going to fail.
If you
stop listening, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.
3. Reclaim your life by believing that you
CAN succeed.
Surround
yourself with supportive people who believe in you.
Prepare
Yourself and Do Your Best
It's not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success
as well.
Visualizing
your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work
except you.
One way
to overcome self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities.
Make a
list of at least 5 good things about you.
Every day
when you wake up read the list.
Reading
aloud will also help you to believe the
items you've listed.
The
positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other
ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:
Set
reasonable goals.
Decide
what you want to do within a set amount of time.
Keep your
goals realistic so you can meet them. If you set unrealistic goals that you
can't meet, you'll quickly become discouraged.
Start out
small and get bigger with your dreams.
4. Get busy. Inactive people easily become
depressed.
To avoid
this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals.
Hard work
will always pay off in the end.
5. Revel in your success.
Self-doubters
tend to think they don't deserve to succeed. But you do!
You
deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more
confident.
You
deserve to be honoured for your hard work and perseverance. Don't let anyone
tell you otherwise.
Just
remember you can't reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many
steps along the way to reach the peak in due time.
The same
is true of success and achieving your goals.
Taking baby steps and attaining many small successes will bring you the
confidence to reach your dreams.
In the
meantime, sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the self-assured person
you know you can be.
It's a
wild ride, but it's well worth it in the end.
To your success
Thanks for unveiling a very handy intelligence. God bless you loads
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot #ikechukwu Chris
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