Effective Time Management - How To Boost Your Productivity

 

Effective Time Management - How To Boost Your Productivity

 

Someone said that there is nothing like time management and he premised his reasoning on the fact that time is constant and has not changed over the millenniums.

The time for every day has always been 24 hours - no more no less.

And so he said that instead of saying we manage time, we should rather say we manage ourselves because we are the ones to adjust to meet up with time demands and not the other way round.

What do you think of that?

Anyways we still talk about Time Management

Time management is a method for making better use of your time.

Organize your professional and personal tasks according to their urgency and importance, and prioritize the most urgent and important chores first, followed by less urgent but still significant activities.

And today we are discussing Effective Time Management

What then is Effective Time Management?

Effective time management entails completing more vital tasks in a given day.

In fact, effective time management is more important than effective time management.

Of a fact, the most effective time managers are also the most efficient.

What Are The Major Objectives Of Time Management?

Time management is a set of common sense skills that will help you make better use of your time and learn to:

Determine which activities are essential and which can be eliminated.

Utilize your time to the greatest extent possible.

Control time-wasting distractions.

Allow yourself more time to unwind and enjoy life.

How to Manage Your Time More Effectively in Seven Easy Steps

Step 1 - Figure out when you're most productive

Step 2 -    Make a to-do list

Step 3 – Break Down Large Tasks Into Smaller Pieces

Step 4 – Get Rid of the Distractions

Step 5 – Take Rest Periods While Working

Step 6 – Improve Your Efficiency

Step 7 -    Accept Your Limitations

5 Time Management Techniques You Should Know

1.  Make a to-do list and stick to it.

2.  Prioritize your tasks - rank them in the order of importance

3.  Manage distractions to stay focused.

4.  Make a schedule for your job and stick to it.

5.  Track your time to become more self-aware.

Advantages Of Time Management At The Workplace

1.  On-time delivery of jobs and assignments is a must

2.  Improve the quality of your work

3.  More efficiency and productivity

4.  There's a lot less procrastinating

5.  There is less anxiety and stress.

6.  A better quality of life

7.  More prospects and advancement in your career

8.  More leisure and recreation time.

 

What is the first step to time management success?

Make a plan to get rid of the time wasters from your day.

Begin Managing Your Time Right Now

Step 1: Make a list of your short- and long-term objectives.

Step 2: Figure out how much your time is worth.

Step 3: Maintain a Time Log.

Step 4: Examine your time sheet.

What Does It Mean To Have Time Management Skills?

Examples of time management skills or abilities.

Prioritizing

Organizing

Delegation

Strategic planning

Problem resolution aka problem solving

Don't just state your time management talents on your résumé; back them up with real-life experiences.

The 4 Ds Of Time Management

Do

Delegate

Defer

Delete

these make it easier for managers to actually determine what tasks truly matter.

The Fundamental Concepts Of Time Management?

Time Management Principles

1.     Planning

No matter what you do, planning is essential

2.     Organize and prioritize your tasks

Remember the 80/20 Rule  - the Pareto Principle: 80% of results are produced by 20% of causes.

In the 80-20 rule, you prioritize the 20% of factors that will produce the best results

3.   Take it one step at a time

4.   Avoid Distractions at all costs

5.   Delegate

6.   Maintain a healthy and stress-free lifestyle

7.   Saying “NO” is a skill that should be learned

 

Recurring Tips For Effective Time Management?

This is a fantastic place to start.

1.   Take a look at the clock. You should be aware of how you spend your time.

2.   Set a time limit for yourself. It might be enjoyable to set a time restriction for a work.

3.   Create a to-do list.

4.   Make a plan ahead of time...

5.   Begin with the most important tasks.

6.   Outsource and delegate.

7.   Concentrate on a single task at a time.

8.   Use software tools to help you manage your time.

Software (Tools) For Time Management

And talking about software (tools) for time management - check out these ones

Scoro

Scoro gives you all the tools you need for efficient time management, including 

time tracking,

billing,

work reporting,

project & task management

ActiveCollab

ProofHub

Clarizen

Harvest

Toggl

Replicon

Timecamp

https://www.timecamp.com

 

Typical Time-Wasting Activities

Click HERE to download the list of 40 time wasting activities that men and women indulge in, know the one that affects you and then plan on how to acquit yourself from its or their grip

 

However, let me just mention 5 of them

1.  Too Many Superfluous Meetings

     -    sitting in meetings are not really essential to carrying out the task at hand or where a subordinate can sit in

2.  Too Many Interruptions

     -    these serve as distractions

     -    when a train of thought is disorganized, it takes about 15 minutes for it to get back to base

3.  Majoring in the Minor

     -    getting concentrated on less important tasks and backing down on the more important tasks

4.  Procrastination

     -    using the phrase "what if" too much

5.  Delegation avoidance

     -    inability to delegate or outsource

 

Fixes & Workarounds for Time Management in a Hurry

Learning to manage your time effectively all of the time necessitates understanding of the challenges – as well as practice.

 It's just as tough to break old, time-wasting habits as it is to break any other habit.

However, if you're in a pinch right now and need to finish a job or find additional time in your day, consider these time management quick fixes and workarounds.

1.   Make a list of your objectives and post it somewhere you'll see it often.

2.   Set out a few minutes each day at the end of the day to plan, list, and schedule activities for the next day.

3.   Assign priorities to each of the jobs, and allot enough time to the highest-priority things so that they may be completed.

4.   Schedule your most important and/or tough chores at the time of day when you'll be most effective.

5.   Break down large jobs or projects into manageable chunks.

6.   Schedule less time-consuming chores or projects for when you're not at your most productive.

7.   Set deadlines for each task or component of a task to be completed.

8.   Distract yourself from your task at peak hours.

9.   Limit how much time you spend on social media.

10. Complete one assignment before moving on to the next.

11. Delegate tasks to other members of your team.

12. Ascertain that they have the necessary training and authorization to handle as much as possible independently.

13. Outsource work to other departments, businesses, or individuals.

14. If you are a morning person, try to wait until the afternoon to read your email. Make the most of your morning by doing crucial tasks.

If you're anticipating an important email, examine your inbox for the message you're looking for and open it only once.

15. To avoid being tempted to just "take a peek," turn off any automatic notifications that tell you there is new mail in your email account.

16. Turn off your phone's sound notifications so you won't be tempted to check texts or social media notifications all the time.

17. Tell your administrative assistant to put all of your phone calls on hold.

18. If you don't have anybody to take your calls, leave messages on an answering machine or with an answering service.

19. Set aside time during the day to take and return phone calls. This will help you resist the urge to talk to callers about non-urgent concerns.

20. Be always mindful and live in the present - the now

In Conclusion

Time they say is money and I am sure you know that is true whatever it is you are engaged in.

Time is currency and its cost is very expensive.

It is an insidious mover, you hardly notice its movement until you suddenly find that the day is far gone for instance; that's why Benjamin Franklin wrote, “You may delay, but time will not.” The problem with time is that it keeps on ticking away, whether you notice it or not.

That great philosopher, Dr. Seuss, wrote, “How did it get so late, so soon? It’s night before it’s afternoon. My goodness, how the time has flown! How did it get so late, so soon?”

He was overwhelmed and flabbergasted about the insidious movement of time.

Time is constant, humans are the ones on the move and we must ensure that we maximize the time on our hands so that we can make every second, every minute, every hour, every day to count towards the achievement of our goals and dreams before we sing the nunc dimitis.

Thank you for reading

What other time management techniques have we missed out?

What is your opinion on the use of time management software tools?

What is the greatest tool that anyone would employ in time management?

For effective time management, what is the best way to structure your to-do-list?

For a to-do-list to be accurately crafted, what is the one thing that anyone should know about themselves?

Mention in the order of importance, 5 basic principles of time management?

It would be great to read from you by way of quality comments on this Blog Post

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In The End We Are What We Choose!

 

In The End We Are What We Choose!

 

What is the key to living a long, happy, and prosperous life? That appears to be a question we keep asking ourselves.

“When you are 80-years-old, and in a quiet moment of reflection narrating for only yourself the most personal version of your life story, the telling that will be most compact and meaningful will be the series of choices you have made,” Bezos said in his 2010 commencement speech at Princeton University.

In his speech, titled “We Are What We Choose,” Bezos emphasized the difference between gifts and choices: “Cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice. Gifts are easy — they’re given after all. Choices can be hard. You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you’re not careful, and if you do, it’ll probably be to the detriment of your choices.”

In other words, no matter how successful you become, it won't be the amount of zeroes in your bank account that will matter most to you in the long run, but the decisions you took to get there.

But, without the advantage of hindsight, how can we judge if we're on the right track if we look back on our lives in 10, 20, or 30 years?

Making Decisions Is A Never-ending Effort.

Bezos highlighted the period of time when he originally had the notion to launch an online bookshop business in his talk (which would later become what the entire world now knows as Amazon).

He realized at the time that pursuing the notion would be a very dangerous move.

Bezos even sought guidance from his employer, whom he described as "intelligent" and "highly admired."

Although it "sounded like a very excellent concept," he was assured that if Bezos didn't already have a decent job, it "would be an even better idea."

There isn't such a thing as the "ideal" option.

In life, we will all make decisions that we will later come to regret. Failure is a positive thing since it teaches us how to improve. However, as we get older, we should try to reduce the amount of failures that result in regret.

“In the end, we are our choices. Build yourself a great story,” he said towards the end of his speech.

To build a great story, Bezos offered 12 questions and urged everyone to think deeply about them:

1.    How will you use your gifts?

2.    What choices will you make?

3.    Will inertia be your guide, or will you follow your passions?

4.    Will you follow dogma, or will you be original?

5.    Will you choose a life of ease, or a life of service and adventure?

6.    Will you wilt under criticism, or will you follow your convictions?

7.    Will you bluff it out when you’re wrong, or will you apologize?

8.    Will you guard your heart against rejection, or will you act when you fall in love?

9.    Will you play it safe, or will you be a little bit swashbuckling?

10.    When it’s tough, will you give up, or will you be relentless?

11.    Will you be a cynic, or will you be a builder?

12.    Will you be clever at the expense of others, or will you be kind?

While these questions do not provide a flawless recipe for happiness, they can help us make decisions that will help us live a life we are pleased of in the end.

Not everyone will achieve the same level of success as Bezos, a self-made millionaire and the world's second richest person.

But there's no reason we can't — or shouldn't — push ourselves to create a compelling story.

Can you pick THREE of those questions and answer them as your 80 year old self?

Drop your answer as a comment in the comment section

Be of a good cheer

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What Are The Causes Of Self-Doubt And How Can You Overcome Them?

 

What Are The Causes Of Self-Doubt And How Can You Overcome Them?

Your inner villain and inner hero can appear to be two totally distinct persons living inside your head at times.

The small voice inside your head that says, "I'm not good enough," every time you aspire for success is your inner villain.

It's your inner voice that draws attention to your inadequacies and causes self-doubt.

Your inner villain is countered by your inner hero, a small voice that affirms your abilities and enhances your self-esteem.

When you're dealing with stress or worry, your inner hero battles your inner villain. When your inner villain gets the upper hand, it can lead to severe self-doubt.

And if your inner villain is continuously stomping on your inner hero, your chances of success are severely limited.

“We all have the villain living inside of us,” Dean Graziosi always says. But there's also this hero who's simply waiting to be liberated... This is your opportunity to choose which one you feed, as that is the one who will take control of your life!”

You've come to the perfect place if you want to discover how to defeat your inner villain and overcome persistent self-doubt.

We're going to talk about what self-doubt is and where it comes from today.

We'll also show you how to determine whether your self-doubt is good or unhealthy.

We've also got 9 recommendations on how to get rid of those pesky self-doubt sentiments.

Tell your inner hero that it's time to put on his or her armor because we're finally going to get rid of your adversary for good!

What Is Self - doubt And How Does It Affect You?

What is self-doubt, and who is your inner villain?

Your inner villain is a slang term for your inner critic, which is the portion of your mind that refuses to believe you're good enough.

It's that inner voice that constantly criticizes your performance and makes you feel unqualified.

The biggest source of self-doubt is your inner critic.

Self-doubt is a mental habit of questioning one's own value all of the time.

It happens when you lack self-assurance or believe you can't trust yourself to execute things that are well within (or barely outside) your capabilities.

Self-doubt also forces you to stay in your comfort zone for far too long.

You may use this to avoid failure or shame when attempting new activities.

It's a frequent misunderstanding that self-doubt is linked to mental illness.

Self-doubt, on the other hand, is a natural aspect of being human!

And it can be beneficial at times, such as when you're doing something new that could be dangerous. For example, before making a major shift, such as deciding to relocate and start over, a little self-doubt is typical.

Healthy self-doubt and harmful self-doubt, on the other hand, are not synonymous.

Healthy self-doubt motivates you to do a test swim before diving in head first.

Unhealthy self-doubt, on the other hand, prevents you from entering the water altogether.

Let's examine the distinctions between the two in greater detail.

Unhealthy Vs Healthy Self-doubt

Although it may seem counterintuitive, the capacity to doubt oneself can be beneficial.

You can become overconfident in yourself and make a lot of unsafe mistakes if you don't allow yourself some health self-doubt

Healthy self-doubt sounds like a voice in the back of your head asking, "Are you sure?" before taking significant risks. It ensures that you consider all of your options before taking a risky action .

Self-doubt on the other hand can quickly deteriorate from healthy to unhealthy which is actually harmful  when you constantly hear, "Are you sure?" before everything you do, even things that aren't dangerous at all and thus unhealthy self-doubt begins to sneak in

When excessive self-doubt takes hold, you lose faith in your ability to make decisions. Over time, this can lead to low self-esteem and confidence.

When your self-doubt becomes unhealthy, there are a few warning signs:

i.   If your first reaction is self-doubt.

ii.  If self-doubt prevents you from taking advantage of fresh opportunities.

iii. If your self-doubt is interfering with your ability to concentrate and accomplish your work.

iv.  If you have doubts about yourself in many (or all) aspects of your life, from work to personal life.

v.   If you are continuously regretting your decisions due to self-doubt.

If any of the above warning signals sound familiar, you may be on the verge of developing an unhealthy level of self-doubt.

To reduce your self-doubt, you must first figure out what's creating it.

What Are The Causes Of Self-doubt?

You might be wondering, “Where does self-doubt come from, anyway?” at this point.

Self-doubt feelings are highly personal to each person.

There are, however, a number of frequent causes of self-doubt that many people experience.

Let's take a look at what might be causing your self-doubt in the first place.

1. Experience And Mistakes In The Past

It's no secret that your feelings now are influenced by your past experiences. This is especially true if you've experienced traumatic or humiliating experiences.

When you suspect you're about to face a situation that feels eerily similar to a previous negative experience, those unpleasant feelings can resurface.

Your inner villain can really amp up your self-doubt in these situations. Your subconscious mind will try everything it can to keep you from experiencing those emotions again.

However, keep in mind that your past does not determine your future.

You'll never be able to make room for fresh possibilities if you keep repeating the same mistakes.

2. Upbringing And Childhood

Aside from previous events, your childhood and upbringing have a significant impact on your mental patterns. Support from family or friends on a daily basis increased your self-esteem.

When they told you they loved you, were proud of you, or were thinking of you, they fed your inner hero.

People who constantly criticized you or told you that you weren't good enough, on the other hand, fueled your inner villain.

When you're a child or a young adult and don't get the assistance you need, you can develop a habit of constantly questioning yourself.

Your self-doubt can run rampant with your inner villain at the helm.

This is why it's critical to devote time to improving your mental health and personal growth.

You may not have been able to beat your inner villain as a 9-year-old, but as an adult, you can.

3. Analogues With Others (Comparing Yourself To Others)

Let's face it: we all compare ourselves to others from time to time. On social media platforms like Instagram and LinkedIn, we compare our work to that of our colleagues or our lifestyles to that of others.

We set a mental goal to outsell, outperform, or outsmart our opponents.

However, not all competition is good for you.

Healthy competition motivates you to give it your all and enhance your performance for the greater good of yourself. Competitiveness forces you to compare yourself to others, which is unhealthy.

If you lose in a healthy competition, you'll only have more to strive for in the future. You believe you are unworthy if you lose in an unhealthy competition.

Remember, you'll never be enough if you constantly compare yourself to others based on what you believe you lack. You should only compare yourself to who you were the day before.

4.  Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone

It's called your "comfort zone" for a reason: it's where you feel most secure. When you're in your comfort zone, there's no need for self-doubt since it's your home territory, and you know the game like the back of your hand. However, as you begin to venture outside of your comfort zone, self-doubt begins to sneak in.

Feelings of insecurity or uncertainty might make you feel exposed.

Worse, your inner villain may utilize these feelings to convince you that you will fail.

You start to believe that you'll never be able to do anything outside of your comfort zone.

You must, however, leave your safe haven in order to pursue possibilities for growth.

Self-doubt keeps you from venturing outside of your comfort zone, and that's only one of the many ways it holds you back in life.

How Can You Be Held Back By Self-doubt?

Successful people guard against self-doubting thoughts for a reason: those ideas aren't useful!

Self-doubt can make you feel as though both of your feet are trapped in mud.

Consider the following example if you're not clear what we're talking about:

Your efforts are finally beginning to pay off after months of hard work at your job. You've been given a leadership role for a new endeavor you proposed to your boss. In an ideal world, you'd use this as an occasion to congratulate yourself; after all, this initiative was your brainchild, and now you get to lead it!

Your inner villain, on the other hand, erupts and pushes your self-doubt into overdrive. “What if this was a horrible idea?” you think. or "What if they discover I'm not smart enough for this part?" This reasoning makes you to feel anxious and fearful and doubt your ability thinking that you will fail and make a complete fool of yourself.

Fear makes you procrastinate, which prevents you from gaining momentum before you ever begin.

Do these words ring a bell? If this is the case, then you are not alone in the least.

On a daily basis, millions of people are affected by this cycle of self-doubt. This way of thinking, on the other hand, sabotages your success. You work half-heartedly in fear of failure, rather than being confident and giving it your all. And instead of looking for fresh ways to expand your horizons, you stay in your comfort zone perpetually.

This is only one of the many symptoms that self-doubt is preventing you from achieving your goals.

Let's look at a couple more.

Signs That Your Success Is Being Sabotaged By Self-doubt

There are various symptoms that self-doubt is hindering your achievement, just as there are various reasons of self-doubt.

These indications indicate that you're allowing your anxieties to hold you back in your personal and professional life.

Take a look at the indications below to see if your self-doubt is preventing you from achieving your goals.

a.  Compliments Are Difficult To Accept

Self-doubting thoughts can make you believe you're not deserving of praise — or that you're not as brilliant, smart, or humorous as you think you are.

If you feel anxious or uncomfortable after receiving a compliment, it could be an indication that unhealthy self-doubt is hindering your achievement. It could also be an indication of imposter syndrome, which is one of the most common forms of self-doubt among employees and entrepreneurs.

The dread of being exposed as a fraud is known as impostor syndrome.

It makes you feel as if your achievements are undeserved. Impostor syndrome makes you believe you aren't as talented as your peers. For example, no matter how far you advance in your work, you always fear making a mistake that will reveal you as a fraud.

Self-doubt is a kind of impostor syndrome. It comes from a tendency of constantly doubting one's own abilities and achievements.

Furthermore, people who suffer from impostor syndrome have a hard time accepting compliments. Those pleasant comments can come off as a deception rather than a complement.

If this describes you, self-doubt is probably preventing you from realizing your full potential.

b.   Seeking for confirmation on a continual basis

Feeling like you need affirmation all the time is another indicator that self-doubt is harming your achievement.

You don't trust yourself or your abilities if you have to ask for confirmation every time you need to make a decision.

Of course, it's natural to seek advice from friends or family members from time to time, but if you never trust yourself to make the proper decision, it's likely that self-doubt is preventing you from doing so.

c.   Giving credit to yourself is difficult

Having trouble giving oneself credit, just like having trouble receiving praises can be another indicator that self-doubt is harming your achievement

If you find it difficult to praise yourself for a job well done or don't take the time to enjoy a victory, your inner villain may be to fault.

Allowing your inner villain to run amok drowns out any positive messages your inner hero has to offer. Instead of letting your inner hero to rejoice in your achievements, you wonder if there is anything to rejoice about at all. Doubt becomes your default way of assessing your success.

However, keep in mind that you have an option. You have the option of feeding either your inner villain or your inner hero.

So, have a look at these nine tactics for overcoming self-doubt and empowering your inner hero.

9 Strategies For Overcoming Self-doubt

It's time to break the cycle of self sabotage and permanently reduce your degree of self-doubt.

Finding tactics that work for you is the key to conquering your inner villain.

So, take a look at the list of nine tried and true techniques and pick a few of them that seem like a good fit. Then gradually include them into your daily regimen

1.   Accept And Embrace Your Self-Doubt

Yes, you read that correctly. If you want to overcome your self-doubt, you just have to accept it as a fact in your life. It's necessary to grow uncomfortable with your unpleasant feelings, even if it sounds counterintuitive.

When you are dealing with self-doubt, it's simpler to avoid it than to tackle it

However, this will not make the feelings go away. If you try to escape bad thoughts or feelings, they will almost certainly return with a vengeance.

So, rather than running for the hills, confront your self-doubt! You show your inner villain that you are good enough, that you desire better for yourself, and that you are capable by confronting your negative beliefs.

2. Stop perceiving your thoughts as facts

Did you know that in a single day, the average human has over 6,000 thoughts? Isn't that a lot of thoughts?

Some thoughts are beneficial, such as when you're fixing an issue or conversing with a friend.

Other thoughts, such as "I'm going to completely screw this up," are far less constructive.

This is why you must cease taking what you think as fact.

A thought is exactly what it sounds like: a thought. It's a mental habit you've developed over time, not a fact.

And, fortunately, habits can be unlearned at any time.

So, be cautious of your thoughts, especially the ones that are self-doubting. You'll soon be robbing those thoughts of their influence over you.

3. Create a positive attitude

You'll need a positive mindset to defeat your inner villain and remove self-doubt.

A positive mindset might assist you in remaining critical of your thoughts and combating self-doubt.

Reframing your negative ideas in a more positive light is one technique to cultivate a good mentality.

For example, if you make a mistake on a report, you may be concerned that your manager will think you're unfit for the job. Because of your self-doubt, you believe, "My career is over." Reframe that concept to be less pessimistic and more realistic. You might rephrase that as, "I made a mistake, but this is an opportunity to learn from it." My supervisor knows I'm a valuable addition to the company, and one slip-up won't ruin my reputation.”

4. Determine your purpose

Self-doubt might deceive you into believing that you aren't good enough or talented enough to achieve your goals.

And this can make you fearful of pursuing your passions or finding your life's purpose. This is a sign that you should reconnect with your sense of purpose! Your goal will stoke a fire within you that will drive even the most ruthless inner adversary to flee.

5. Surround yourself with friends and family members who are positive.

Sometimes your self-doubting thoughts are simply cruel. It's critical to surround oneself with positive individuals while you're having negative thoughts.

You'll become more accustomed to hearing great things about yourself if you hang out with a more optimistic crowd.

You can learn to accept compliments and then reciprocate by giving yourself compliments.

6.   Select Affirmations that increase confidence

Affirmations that enhance your confidence might also help you think positively.

Affirmations are short, uplifting sentences that you repeat to yourself every day as mantras.

When you put your whole heart and soul into your affirmations, you start to persuade your subconscious mind that they are true.

You may drown out your inner villain (your negative thoughts) and  fuel your inner hero by sayings things like "I am enough" or "I am worth it" every day

7.   Get involved in healthy competition

We said earlier that not all competition is beneficial.

When you compete against others solely to prove something to them, you are engaging in unhealthy competition

Healthy competition, on the other hand, is when you compete against yourself and no one else.

Healthy competition aims to help you become a better version of yourself. That is, you compete to improve your own abilities or learn new ones. You learn not to measure your worth based on your success by participating in healthy competition.

Plus, you prove to yourself that if you set your mind to it, you can achieve anything!

8.  Practice self compassion

Self-doubt makes you feel inadequate and incompetent. You may grow to dislike yourself over time.

But keep in mind that there is only one of you in the world, and you are your own superpower.

Begin by reminding yourself of your best attributes or personal achievements to practice self-compassion. It's critical to recognize that under your self-doubt, you have an inner hero waiting to be released.

9. Keep a gratitude record

Finally, keep a thankfulness notebook to help you overcome self-doubt.

A thankfulness diary is a special place where you may write down everything you're thankful for.

You can write about anything you like, including your sense of humor, your career, your family, or anything else that interests you.

A thankfulness journal's objective is to remind you of all the good things in your life. — even when you're convinced that nothing is going well because of your self-doubt

Today - more than ever before - Move On From Your Self-doubt.

This is your opportunity to feed either your inner evil or your inner hero.

Remember that you are in control when imposter syndrome and self-doubt seep in.

Stop allowing your inner villain to rule your life by incorporating some of these 9 tactics into your everyday routine.

Do you want to channel your inner hero instead of your inner villain?

We would be delighted to read from you just one experience you have had with self-doubt and what you did to overcome it.

Share your experience as a comment in the comment box below

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Why Are You Repeating The Mistakes Of The Older Men Around You?

 

Why Are You Repeating The Mistakes Of The Older Men Around You?

 

This Is For You

Yes this is for you, if you are 18 to 35 years of age, I have taken out time today to address you.

It may not be a welcome address as I am bound to tell you some naked truths and as they say, truth is always bitter.

So if you feel that you don't want to hear the truth, then don't read - stop right here and now!

but if you feel that you can only get better with the bitter truth, then continue reading.

But it's a long read, I must tell you ahead of time

I just want to ask you a question

Why are you repeating the mistakes of the Older men around you?

In the days of the Older men around you, it was the in thing to follow the established tradition of - GO to School - SCORE good grades - GRADUATE with a good degree - PICK a job - WORK HARD at your job - WAIT for salary increments, promotions and advancements and then be happy thereafter. Finally RETIRE after serving 35 years or hitting 60 years whichever comes first.

For those who did not go to school, there was also an established traditional route - BECOME an apprentice - SERVE your Master dutifully for the number of years agreed (usually 5 - 7 years) - GET FREED by your Master with some form of settlement - SET UP your own BRICK AND MORTAR BUSINESS and then continue struggling to make it big.

Have you taken a closer look at the Older men around you who followed the aforementioned pathways diligently and retired at the appropriate time and age?

did you notice that most of them retired into poverty and penury?

Did you notice that their pensions are paid very irregularly?

Did you notice that whenever they are to be paid their pension (as miserable as the sum is), they first have to spend the money on their hands to go for verification - this is to ensure that they are still alive?

Did you know that their pensions have been frittered away by those who are the custodians of the money?

Did you know that some of them collapsed and died in the course of the verifications while some others were involved in motor traffic accidents that left them permanently disabled?

If you come from a home where the Father was a member of this group, did you notice how much he struggled to bring food to the dinner table?

Did you notice that there was always tension in the house particularly over money?

Did you notice that money was always in the scarcity mode in the house and that you were always reminded that money did not grow on trees neither were they picked along the streets?

Did you notice that some days your Father and Mother would exhibit some animosities towards themselves, you may not know but the two commonest causes of animosities in marriage are sex (not enough of it) and money ( lack of it)

And if the wife is the type that insults her husband, did you take note of how many times she called him good for nothing man?

Did you know that in the days of the Older Men around you, things were done manually? there was no INTERNET, no ONLINE TOOLS to make life and living easier.

Sometimes I even wondered how we survived it all

But then

It is your turn

Having noted all these mistakes, why are you still repeating them?

You went to School because we place emphasis on acquisition of certificates and you learnt no other skill - only BOOK

In your time they introduced NYSC which was meant to give you a soft landing from graduation before getting a job and they exposed you to ENTREPRENEURSHIP TRAINING but you showed no interest because you were sure you were going to land a good paying job immediately after NYSC - you burnt the whole of 12 months doing nothing but gossiping and snapping pictures in borrowed clothes and uploading on social media platforms, living a fake lifestyle - YOU LEARNT NO SKILLS

After NYSC your PPA tells you that they were sorry but they could not retain you so you are thrown into the Labour Market where the jobs are very limited but the chasers of the jobs are in their millions.

You tell yourself that your case is different and that it is not your portion to be unemployed but ONE YEAR down the line, you are still busy throwing applications for employment all over the place even for jobs you have no inkling what is done there - you just want a job where they pay salary.

ONE AND HALF YEARS and you are yet to land the job of your dreams so you resort to picking up whichever job comes along because you have hit the frustration point and have thus become desperate.

Yes the School curriculum which was patterned after the British was meant to raise EMPLOYEES for the Civil Service but the number of GRADUATES from our more than 200 Higher Institutions have overwhelmed the Civil Service and the system can no longer absorb the graduates and because of this more than 20 million Nigerian Graduates are UNEMPLOYED and quite a number of them are UNEMPLOYABLE.

You gain nothing by complaining and wailing against the Government, the Politicians, the Fraudsters and the Tricksters. they are doing what they should be doing. No Government is ever set up to make you rich,  Governments are set up to once every years raise a generation of persons who would come and make their own lives better.

The masses will always be the masses if they choose to remain so and you should not be there.

Yes you made the mistake in School when you learnt no SKILL

Yes, you made the mistake during NYSC when you learnt no SKILL

But

You can always correct your mistakes and learn from them.

In your time there is a BIG BLUE OCEAN called the INTERNET and anyone with access to it has a tangible tool to make a living.

Do you know that all things you need to make a living are found right there on your big smart phone which you carry to show off but use not for its main purpose?

Do you know that the social media platforms are made not only for socializing and gossiping over irrelevancies but also for doing business online?

Do you know that you can have up to 7 income streams simultaneously online just with your smart phone and internet access and you would have no need for a rigid-structured office space?

And so I wish to advise you to STOP MAKING THOSE MISTAKES RIGHT NOW

Use that tool in your hands that you play with like a toy to make a difference in your life

For those who are already graduates but without any digital skills - GO LEARN AT LEAST ONE - it could be graphics design, it could be creative writing, it could be proofreading, it could be speed tying, it could be website design, it could be programming - JUST LEARN ONE SKILL and then apply it to earn money

For those in School and yet to graduate, instead of wasting your spare time use it to learn a digital skill just like I pointed out above.

There are also some physical skills anyone can learn - house painting, house wiring, tailoring, fashion designing, CCTV installation, phone repairs, Barbing, Laundry and so on and so forth

Your School learning made you an Employee, you can make yourself an Employer

All you need to do is to RESET YOUR MINDSET

That will be it for now

I may write you again

But you are welcome to communicate with us if we missed out something in this write up

Drop your concerns as a comment under this Post

Have a good day

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

#successwithdrjerrythefirst

PS
If you are more than 35 but you read this, kindly pass it onto your 18 - 35 year old son or daughter or nephew or niece or brother or friend

It would do them a world of good

BEHOLD JUNE

 

BEHOLD JUNE

 

And the 6th month of the year has arrived- June is her name, a new month with an old name

BUT

we have entered into it by the mercy and grace of God and not by our own power or might.

For who by himself can keep himself alive?, who by himself can make himself whole?, who by himself can keep himself sane and of a sound mind?. For it is said 'neither by power nor by might shall any man prevail'

It is God that keeps us because "in HIM we live and move and have our being"

He lives in us to Guide, Guard, Protect, Defend, Shield and Provide for us.

In this month of June, God Who keeps you shall neither slumber nor sleep. He shall not let your feet hit upon any stone and in fact He shall give His Angels charge over you that they bear you upon their shoulders and make you invisible to those who out of sheer egoistic pride despise you.

He will provide for you and you shall lack nothing

He will turn around that challenging situation in your life and your mouth shall be filled with laughter like them that dreameth

And you shall have cause to glorify His Holy Name

In this month of June, I invite you to come and rest on the Lord. Take all your worries, your travails, your challenges, the obstacles on your path to Him. HE IS ABLE and ABUNDANTLY so.

Happy New Month

May God bless you beyond your borders.

Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

#successwithdrjerrythefirst