You want to
have a productive day? and thus be happy and proud of your achievements? then
you need to master these 7 steps as they are the tonic for making anyone's day
quite productive.
As you may
know, a happy morning does not start in the morning, it surely starts the night
before.
Here are the
tips
1. Have
something to look forward to
Making
plans with friends the night before can boost your happiness the next day.
Happy mornings start the
night before.
Make sure before you go to bed you have something to
look forward to tomorrow.
Research shows anticipation is a powerful happiness booster. It’s 2 for the price
of 1: You get the good thing and you get happy in anticipation of the good
thing.
Got nothing you’re looking forward
to? Schedule lunch with a friend or promise yourself you’ll do something you
enjoy. It’s one of the secrets of the happiest people in the world.
2.
Manage your mood
Do something you enjoy first thing.
Research shows your mood in the morning affects
your mood for the rest of the day:
“We saw that employees could get
into these negative spirals where they started the day in a bad mood and just
got worse over the course of the day,” said Steffanie Wilk, associate professor
of management and human resources at Ohio State University’s Fisher College of
Business.
What makes you happy early in the
day? Do that.
Are you often stressed in the
morning? Then ask yourself, “What gives me a feeling of control?”
Anything that increases your perception
of control over a
situation — whether it actually increases your control or not — can
substantially decrease your stress level.
3. Eat breakfast
Savor your breakfast.
Do you
skip breakfast? I recommend you skip skipping breakfast. Eat something. It puts
you in a better mood and increases willpower.
Kids
who skip breakfast misbehave more than kids who eat their Wheaties. After a
snack, all the children are little angels again.
So eat something. (And don’t kill anybody.)
Going to just scarf something down quick? Bad idea.
Savor your breakfast. Take some time to really
enjoy it. Research shows
savoring — appreciating the good moments — is what separates the
happiest people from the average Joe.
The key component to
effective savoring is focused attention. By taking the time and spending the
effort to appreciate the positive, people are able to experience more
well-being.
4. Do
something you dread
Yeah, you heard me. This post is
about how to feel happy all day. So ask yourself what
that thing is that you’re avoiding.
What’s that thing you’re going to
feel guilty about not having done? Going to the gym? Doing
that awful chore?
I spoke to the leading expert on
willpower, Roy Baumeister, and he said we have the most
self-control in the morning. That makes it the best time to do that thing
you’re trying to dodge.
You have more
willpower in the morning so push yourself to do that thing you’ll regret not
having done. Afterwards, you’ll feel good about yourself. And the rest of the
day will look comparatively easy.
5. Send
a “thank you” email
Every morning send a friend, family member or
co-worker an email to say thanks for something.
There’s tons and tons and tons of
research showing that over time, this alone – one silly email a day – can make
you happier.
Or you can send a text.
That’s fine too.
6. Plan
how you’ll deal with challenges
Ask yourself the question
“What’s the worst that could happen today?” Sound like a downer? This is how
you keep the
day happy. By being ready.
The Stoic
philosophers would
imagine the worst before any major undertaking. Why? To prepare themselves.
7. Kiss somebody you love
Smooches
are good science. Men who kiss their wives before work live 5 years
longer, make 20-30% more money and are far less likely to get in a car
accident.
A ten-year psychology study undertaken in Germany during the
1980s found that men who kissed their wives before leaving for work lived,
on average, five years longer, earning 20 to 30 percent more than peers who
left without a peck good-bye.
The researchers also reported that not kissing
one’s wife before leaving in the morning increased the possibility of a car
accident by 50 percent.
Psychologists do not believe it’s the kiss itself
that accounts for the difference but rather that kissers were likely to begin
the day with a positive attitude, leading to a healthier lifestyle.
No romance in your life right now? Sorry to
hear that. But there’s a substitute: Give 5 hugs today.
People assigned to give or receive hugs 5
times a day ended up happier.
Sum up
Here’s
the morning ritual that will make you happy all day:
Have something to look forward to: Plans with a friend are always good.
Manage your mood: Don’t check email. Do what gives you a feeling of control.
Eat breakfast: If you eat nothing and end up killing someone, well… I hope
it’s not me.
Do something you dread: You’ve got the willpower. And you’ll feel so much better
afterwards.
Send a “thank you” email: Yes, it’s that simple. Really.
Plan how you’ll deal with challenges: Think about the worst that could happen and
it probably won’t.
Kiss somebody you love: If this makes you late for work, feel free to blame me.
Don’t
wait. You’ll forget. Right now, plan something fun tomorrow.
Or send
a “thank you” email.
Or just
give that special someone a big kiss. Who says being happy has to be hard?