Monday, February 29, 2016
By 00.00 hrs Greenwich Meridian Time, the month of February 2016 would have ended.
It has been a long month indeed even though it was only 29 days.
It came with promises as usual and as usual too, it is leaving with some of the promises unfulfilled.
It is in this month that the Nigerian Naira suffered its greatest bashing in its 43 year history of existence, leaving most importers stranded including even those who do online importation.
The cost of living tripled in this month because of the scandalous dollar-naira exchange rate
But all that is going into the bin of history as February ends
And because we are human beings always filled with hope, we are looking forward to the new month of March with renewed vigour and a zeal to overcome.
We thank the Lord for seeing us through the month of February and as we bid farewell to February, we can only ask her to say us well to January and to hasten the birthing of March
You have a wonderful day today
Let God reign Supreme
Dr. Oguzie Jerry - the First: JP
Sunday, February 28, 2016
I know many of us are used to the title of this post because over years you have kept hearing it.
But I am certainly sure that not many of us really understand the import of that sentence because if we do, then the number of wasted dreams and abandoned ambitions would not be that high.
When the Bible asked us to be men (and women) of LONG SUFFERING, that is exactly what it meant; that we need to exercise extended patience in all our pursuits be they career inclined or property acquisition or even living a better life.
For all living beings, the only time that life is over is when death comes calling but for as long as anyone is still alive, s/he can still achieve that which s/he had set his or her heart on along the path of life.
Thomas Edison was one man who understood the concept of "it is not over until it is over" very well because it took him NINE HUNDRED AND NINETY NINE times to find out the right way to invent the filament in a light bulb which gave us the electric bulbs that we use today.
If he had not persisted and persevered for those Nine hundred and ninety nine times, he would have been defeated and per adventure the discovery of the bulb would have taken a longer time.
Are you in dilemma right now over a choice you have made but which is not coming to fruition yet no matter how hard you have tried?
Well I have a message for you this day
"It is never over until it is finally over"
As long as the life breath still flows in and out of you, go give your idea your best push and you would be surprised!!
Let God reign Supreme
Dr. Oguzie Jerry - the First: JP
Why embracing laziness can make you more productive
If you have a smartphone, and data shows you most likely do, then you have struggled with the idea of "shutting down" after work. As you sit on your couch watching the latest Netflix original series, a voice in the back of your mind tells you that instead of being lazy, you could be on your phone cleaning out your inbox or taking notes for tomorrow's meeting.
Well, says Georgetown professor and author Cal Newport, a wide body of scientific research suggests this inability to stop working, or even the inability to do so without guilt, is harming your productivity.
If you really are dedicated to your job, then you need to learn how to be lazy, Newport writes in his new book "Deep Work," a guide to learning how to work in periods of intense focus.
"At the end of the workday, shut down your consideration of work issues until the next morning — no after-dinner email check, no mental replays of conversations, and no scheming about how you'll handle an upcoming challenge; shut down work thinking completely," Newport writes.
There will be times, of course, when you will need to put in extra hours to finish a demanding project. In that case, Newport says, stay at your desk longer and get it done rather than taking it home with you.
When it's time to shut down, do so with a shutdown ritual rather than just giving yourself a hard deadline and turning your computer off as soon as you hit it. Florida State University psychologist Roy Baumeister conducted a 2011 study in which he found that intrusive thoughts about an unfinished project are reduced or eliminated simply by devising a plan for how to eventually complete it.
Newport suggests spending at least 10 to 15 minutes at the end of each workday cataloging all of the tasks you are working on and have yet to work on, with updates on what remains and how they will be completed. He even suggests ending with a phrase that will tell your brain it's OK to let go of work (Newport uses "Shutdown complete," which he knows is cheesy but finds effective).
When you get home and take the time to watch a show, go for a jog, listen to a podcast, or read something unrelated to your job, you're not just entertaining yourself; you're giving your brain a chance to process all of the information you absorbed throughout the day.
Newport cites the work of Dutch psychologist Ap Dijksterhuis, whose unconscious thought theory (UTT) states that decisions requiring adherence to rules, like solving a math problem, require the conscious mind. Conversely, decisions dependent on large amounts of information related in a complex way, like determining which car to buy, benefit from an active unconscious mind.
Newport likens the conscious mind to a personal computer that can run processes based off programs, and he compares the unconscious mind to the way a Google search utilizes a massive data center to sort through an incredibly vast stream of information.
"The implication of this line of research is that providing your conscious brain time to rest enables your unconscious mind to take a shift sorting through your most complex professional challenges," Newport writes.
He explains how further research has shown that this rest can only happen during activities that occupy your attention just enough, without taxing it. And the activity doesn't need to be enjoyable, either. A walk through the park on a bright, warm day is just as effective in this sense as one on a bleak, cold day.
Plus, the work you'd be fitting into your leisure time doesn't usually turn out that great anyway, Newport says. When mentally and physically exhausted, those extra tasks will be done slowly and not as sharply as they could have been had they been set aside.
"When you work, work hard," Newport writes. "When you're done, be done."
So, the next time you kick back after a long day of work and sip a beer on your couch, remind yourself that sometimes it's good for your brain to be lazy.
This behavior could be the No. 1 secret to likability
Everyone wants to be liked.
On Quora, there's a lengthy thread dedicated to sharing tips and tricks to win people over.
While reviewing the answers, we noticed a common theme: Focus less on yourself and more on your conversation partner.
Users recommend that you "create the space for others to feel heard and seen"; that you listen activelywithout trying to come up with the perfect response; and that you look to be impressed by othersrather than trying to be impressive to them.
This advice, while not necessarily widely followed, is hardly new. In fact, Dale Carnegie wrote about similar strategies in his 1936 bestseller "How to Win Friends and Influence People."
One of Carnegie's secrets to making people like you is simply to listen and encourage other people to talk about themselves. Carnegie recalls speaking to a botanist at a party and being so curious about the man's profession that he had him talking about his work all night.
Before he left, the botanist told Carnegie that he was "most stimulating" and a "most interesting conversationalist" — even though Carnegie hadn't said more than a few words. Simply being allowed to talk about himself made the botanist feel fondly toward Carnegie.
Other tips in the book include talking in terms of the other person's interests and making the other person feel important.
Carnegie gives another example, of a bread salesman who was frustrated because he couldn't win the business of one particular hotel manager. Finally, the salesman found out about a society of hotel executives that the manager belonged to and started talking to him about that experience. Soon after, the manager reached out and made the salesman a deal.
More recently, scientists discovered that talking about yourself is inherently pleasurable; it stimulates the same reward centers in the brain that are lit up by sex, cocaine, and good food. So it makes sense that people would feel fondly toward someone who let them engage in such an enjoyable experience.
Writing on Psychology Today, psychologist Hendrie Weisinger suggests that we feel deeply connected to someone who "respects us enough to listen to our ideas."
Weisinger recommends responding to what people say instead of initiating a new topic, and showing that you understand by "paraphrasing or summarizing what you think the person is communicating."
Ultimately, these strategies should help remove some of the pressure during interactions with new people. Instead of thinking about what you should say and do to make a positive impression, you can focus instead on how the other person is feeling at the moment.
If they're in the spotlight and you're a receptive audience, chances are good they'll be happy with how the interaction is going.
Source: How To Make People Like You
Saturday, February 27, 2016
As a human being you possess the inert ability and capability to be in charge of your situation or circumstance.
This is because you have the capacity to control the way you think, you have total control of how you perceive every situation that you are in.
It is either you accept it and make a decision to change it if you are not happy with it or you sit and feel sorry for yourself.
Change Your View
Whenever something happens the way you did not intend it to you feel either disappointed or sad, the disappointment easily turns to anger or you feel defeated and helpless, however that is one’s personal choice.
When something does not work out or something does not happen it does not mean it will never happen, it may mean that you are not ready for it and that you still need to grow and mature as a person.
It is better to always look at things differently, when you miss the bus from work or school always consider what if that bus is going to be involved in an accident, if your friends forget to invite you out for the evening do not sit and feel miserable think of all the things you wanted to do that you never had time for and go do them.
Delay is never denial and defeat is not failure, failure is not getting up to try again.
When things always happen our way it will make us selfish and self-centered, always consider that there is tomorrow and that you can always try again.
Always accept the things you cannot change that will help avoid disappointments, change the things you cannot accept by either working harder or turning to the alternative and always be careful in knowing the difference.
Appreciate the little things in life before you crave for bigger and better that way you know life can be good before all the other big changes and always expect less or nothing to avoid disappointments
Have you noticed how it is that no matter what is going on, people tend to go on with their lives?
Have you ever attended a burial ceremony?
Did you notice how the attendees are only sober during the commendation service and the internment and as soon as it is time for refreshment all hell is let loose as they hustle for food and drinks?
Have you been at the scene of a road traffic accident before?
Did you notice how drivers slow down to either see the site or attend to the victims of the accident but as soon as they enter their cars again, they drive at maximum speedometer level forgetting the speed limit and the advise of FRSC to "drive to arrive alive?"
How about the victims of natural disasters?
Did you notice how those not affected continue living their lives like nothing else matters?
We can go on and on to give examples but the truth of the matter is that, whatever loss anyone suffers is really personal.
Even though people may be by your side when you have suffered a loss, but your best bet is to encourage yourself from the inside because those persons move on with their own lives with time which may actually be in hours.
And even though one may not be able to control the elements in one's life and the happenings therefrom but one can learn to allow life to go on even when the taste of living is gone
Top of the day to you
Let God reign Supreme
Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP
Thursday, February 25, 2016
Hope gives you the strength to keep going, when you feel like giving up.
Don’t ever quit believing in yourself.
As long as you believe you can, you will have a reason for trying.
Don’t let anyone hold your happiness in their hands; hold it in your own, so it will always be within your reach.
Don’t measure success or failure by material wealth, but by how you feel.
Our feelings determine the riches in our lives.
Don’t let bad moments overcome you.
Be patient, and they will pass.
Don’t hesitate to reach out for help; we all need it from time to time.
Don’t run away from Love, but towards love; because it is our deepest joy.
Don’t wait for what you want to come to you.
Go after it with all that you are;
knowing that life will meet you half way.
Don’t feel like you’ve lost when plans and dreams fall short of your hopes.
Anytime you learn something new about yourself, or about life, you have progressed
In life, all you have to do is make progress
A new day has dawned and as usual I am grateful to none other but my God for the opportunity of being alive in the land of the living this Thursday the 25th day of February 2016.
I love every new day and the simple reason is because it affords me the opportunity to do a retrospective study and then extrapolate it to the day.
Every new day is an opportunity to do it better than yesterday. It is a new slate, all errors and mistakes have been erased and I have the freedom to start afresh.
It is akin to forgiveness of sins by God. When one has the confidence that his sins have been forgiven him, he basks in the freedom of it all.
It's Thursday, People, and our own #CourageousThursday. It surely takes loads of courage to overcome and withstand the whiles of the enemy.
So today, find courage in God and go ye and overcome
And you, how do you regard a new day?
Let God reign Supreme
Dr. Jerry - the First: JP
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
Are you one of those who want to please all persons?
Are you the type of person who would take the advise of another even against their own better judgement?
Are you fond of always running to a 2nd or even 3rd person before deciding on what would be good for you?
Then, you would surely benefit from this story written by an #Unknown #Author
Here is the story
"Doctor, don’t worry. I know I am going to die. I didn’t want to come here but they brought me here.
Please don’t worry about me, look at my hair, they are gone. I am so old but you are so young.
I have learnt a lot from life, if you don’t mind I will tell you some of them before I die.
When I was 4 years, I used to think the world is about me.
When I turned 14, I wanted to rule the world. I thought I would be the greatest man that ever lived.
When I was 21, I wanted to be the richest man,
when I was 25, I wanted to find love,
when I was 40, I wanted to be helpful to everyone.
Now that I am here, I want to die.
You see, I wanted so many things at so many times.
Most importantly, I wanted to be happy. I thought the best way to be happy is to listen to others.
When I wanted to enter the University, I wanted to study Zoology but everyone said I should study Engineering that I will be a great Engineer.
So I listened to them.
I had no one to pay my fees, I had to work and also pay my fees.
In my third year, I couldn’t cope with my studies, I had to drop.
When I dropped, the same people told me "you should have studied Zoology"!
When I turned 28, everyone said I should marry.
That I needed a wife.
So I listened to them, I got married.
6 years into the marriage, I caught my wife sleeping with my neighbour.
I asked her why and she slapped me. I was angry and didn’t say anything. The next day I returned from work, she had run away with my children, now I am dying a lonely man.
At 40, I got a huge contract. My name was in the news.
The next day, all my friends and families were at my house, everyone had a serious problem.
Within one week, I spent all the money on them with the promise that they will pay back.
I could not complete the contract because they refused to return the money as promised. So I was sent to jail for 6 years. I stayed in jail and I came out. When I came out, they were nowhere.
There was one mistake I made through all this time.
Now it is clear to me.
Let me tell you about it.
I refused to listen to myself.
I ignored my own self and listened to others.
Now that I am here the only person that is with me is myself.
You see, it is very good to listen to others. It is very wise to seek advice from others.
But it is very dangerous to ignore your own self. It is very very dangerous to refuse to pay attention to your heart.
When you get home this night, sit down, take a glass of water. Close your eyes if you want or open it if you want, then talk to yourself, reason with yourself. You can walk down the road alone and as you walk, begin to talk to yourself.
The only person that can overrule yourself is God, after God, listen to yourself next.
I know it may not make sense to you now but always remember I told you LEARN TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF."
Sunday, February 21, 2016
I do not know what you have passed through or what you are passing through at this moment
I do not know what your challenges are or what huddles you need to jump over to arrive at your destination
I do not know what problems your background put you into or what lack you have suffered from birth
I also do not know what gifts or talents that the Good Lord bestowed on you
But I do know some things
I do know that as long as there is life, there would always be hope
I do know that no matter how dark the tunnel may be, there would always be light at its end
I do know that no matter how pitch dark the night may be, the morning would always come with brightness
I do know that life is all about overcoming challenges and learning how to jump over huddles and obstacles
I do know that life is not a hard task Master and that she is willing to pay anyone exactly what they price themselves
I do know that if only you would believe in yourself, your future is already made
And I am bringing these your way just so you would know
Remember them always and that is ALWAYS
Let God reign Supreme