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Wednesday, April 4, 2018

India In The News





Sundar Pichai, the CEO of Google is from India.
Rajeev Suri, the CEO of Nokia is from India
Indra Nooyi, the CEO of PepsiCo is from India.
Rakesh Kapoor, the CEO of Reckitt Benckiser is from India. Shantanu Narayen, the CEO of Adobe is from India.
Ajay Banga, the CEO of Mastercard is from India.
Satya Nadella, the CEO of Microsoft is from India.

The Last 3 attended the same high school  -  the Hyderabad Public School, Begumpet in India.

Nigeria and India were both colonized by Britain


If Nigeria is the Giant of Africa, what is India?

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Happy Mothering Sunday






Today is being observed all over the Anglican Communion as the Mothering Sunday.

A day set aside to honour women and mothers both at home and in Israel

What better language can we use today to describe our Mothers, Wives, Sisters and Aunties if not that given by the Holy Spirit Himself as recorded in Proverbs Chapter Number 31 from verse number 10

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life
She seeketh wool and flax and worketh willingly with her hands
She is like the merchants' ship, she bringeth her food from afar
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens
She considereth a field, and buyeth it; with the fruit of her hands, she planteth a vineyard
She girdeth her loins with strength and strengtheneth her arms
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good; her candle goeth not out by night
She layeth her hands to the spindle; and her hands hold the distaff
She stretcheth out her hands to the poor; yea she reacheth her hands to the needy
She is not afraid of the snow for her household; for all her household are clothed with scarlet
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the Elders of the land
She maketh fine linen and selleth it and delivereth girdles unto the merchant
Strength and honour are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come
She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindnes
She looketh well to the ways of  her household and eateth not the bread of idleness
Her children arise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praiseth her
Many daughters have done virtuously but thou excellest them all
Favour is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised
Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her own works praise her in the gates

May the good Lord continue to bless the virtuous women in our lives starting with my Lady - ObyJerry Oguzie, my Sister Lolo EudyMark - KenWuche and all the others too numerous to mention.

Happy Mothering Sunday


Sir, Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP

Thursday, March 1, 2018

#Explorers Wanted!!!!






Hello People

March is here

The month of March, the one after February and before April, the 3rd month of the year has finally arrived; when it ends, we would have used up 90 days of the allotted 365 days of this year 2018.

What were your new year resolutions?
What is that one goal you want to achieve in this 2018?

What did you do with January?
What did you do with February?

What are you going to do with March?

Now while I acknowledge the overarching influence of the Supreme Being in the affairs of men but don't tell me that everything is in God's Hands, if that be the case, He would not have given you hands too.

He gave you hands because He has also placed some things in your own hands, what are you doing about those things God has placed in your Hands?

Or are you waiting for Him to do His Own and also do your own???

But you know that is "impossicant" (in the voice of Zebby)

When your hands begin to move, at the point it gets exhausted and tired and about to drop, God takes over - that is how He works ever since creation.

But if you are UNWILLING TO MOVE YOUR HANDS, God is not going to flog you and force you to move those hands of yours.

Are you getting my drift?

In exploring, we use our eyes, our hands and our feet

Together You and I are EXPLORERS

Come let's #ExploreMarch together

Let's explore the world of business
let's explore the world of personal development
let's explore the world of professional development
Let's explore the world of career progression and development
Let's explore the world of financial security and independence
Let's explore the world of educational acquisition and attainments

What are your constraints?
What are your perceived obstacles?
What are your challenges?

What are the subterfuges, the innuendoes, the fears, the drawbacks?

Bring them all to the #ExplorationTable

This program - Explore March - kicks off on the 5th of March 2018, it will be held online - TELEGRAM

It's FREE and anyone who desires to make the best of March 2018 irrespective of their Calling, their Profession or their Possession, is free to join.

Interested?
Indicate your interest - HERE -                    

This is from #Me - Dr. Jerry - the First Oguzie: JP to #YOU out there
Come let's #ExploreMarchTogether


PS:
If you are not on TELEGRAM and you have a smart phone, do go to Google Play Store, search for and download Telegram to your smart phone or any other electronic device

Welcome March







People

The 3rd month of the year 2018 has just arrived and it has brought with it gifts that are worth working for.

Do not for any reason miss your own gift from March because like you know "all good and perfect gifts come from God"

By the reason of His Unction, I proclaim to you that in this month of March, God shall

*In blessing - bless you beyond your imagination
*In providing - provide for you that your cup would be running over
*In protection - protect you from the hands of your enemies
*In shielding - shield you from the vagaries of the weather, that they hurt you not

*He shall strengthen your right hand that whatever you do shall prosper
*He shall quicken your feetsteps that you go to where His goodness, mercy and favour shall follow you
*He shall make you a conqueror and not the conquered
*He shall make you victorious and not a victim
*He shall make you the head and not the tail
*He shall make you the lender and not the borrower

This month
Your destiny helper shall locate you and
You shall fulfill your destiny

The Almighty shall fulfill His Words
Key into them

Whatever you need that is yet to come, call it by name, be specific about it and He shall grant the requests of your hungry soul in accordance with His Holy Will and His Riches in Christ Jesus

It is well with your soul

You are blessed

Join me to welcome the Month of March 2018
Let God continue to reign supreme in our lives

#CarpeDiem


#DrJTF

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Make Sunday Special




It's #Sunday

Make it special

Saturday, February 17, 2018

Are You Unable To Say No?






If yes is your answer to the above question, then you are a People Pleaser

One common behavioral pattern I have seen over and over again among people who are unable to lose weight or otherwise manage their health is the People Pleaser.  

A People Pleaser is one of the nicest and most helpful people you know.
They never say “no.” 
You can always count on them for a favor. 
In fact, they spend a great deal of time doing things for other people.
They get their work done, help others with their work, make all the plans, and are always there for family members and friends.

 So far this sounds like a good thing.  
Unfortunately, it can be an extremely unhealthy pattern of behavior.

Consider the story of Janet.

Janet is a 42 year old mother of 2 boys, 11 and 13. She works full-time as a nurse.  She is 50 pounds over weight and hasn't lost any weight after 10 weeks in our weight loss program, so we sit down to figure out what might be wrong. She says she hasn’t started exercising or keeping a diet journal and she continues to eat fast food several times a week.  She tells me, “I'm too busy.  My only chance is to get up at 5am and go walking but I then get up and realize how much there is to do.  I find myself getting distracted making lunches, getting on the computer to respond to emails, and other things around the house. I can’t exercise after work because I have to drive straight to the boy’s games.  Jack has soccer on Wed and Sat.  Jason has baseball on Tuesdays and then karate on Friday. By the time we get home we are starving so I just throw something together quick or get drive thru if I haven’t planned dinner in advance. After dinner I feel guilty and start planning dinner for the next day, after that it’s probably 9pm and I’m ready to crash.  I also have to make it out to the nursing home to see my grandmother twice a week, which I fit in on the weekend or a day the kids don’t have a game.  I’m exhausted. There just is no time.”

Janet is a People Pleaser.  All of her time revolves around taking care of other people.  When she says she has no time to exercise, she is right.  She definitely can’t exercise if she wants to keep to all of these commitments.

Why am I a People Pleaser? 

Typically, the intense need to please and care for others is deeply rooted in either a fear of rejection and/or fear of failure.  

Fear of Rejection is the underlying feeling that, “If I don’t do everything I can to make this person happy they might leave or stop caring for me.”  

Fear of Rejection can come from early relationships in which love was conditional or in which you were rejected/abandoned by an important person in your life (parent left or was emotionally unavailable or inconsistently available).

Fear of Failure is the underlying feeling that “If I make a mistake, I will disappoint people and/or be punished.” 

Fear of failure can arise from early experiences with severe punishment for even small mistakes. 

People who had highly critical parents may develop a people-pleasing pattern. 

Early experiences with harsh criticism or punishment can lead to significant anxiety upon attempting a task. 

Even though the parent or other important person in your life who doled out the criticism may no longer be in your life, anxiety is an emotion that can live on for a very long time. 

To deal with that anxiety, we do everything we can to get things right, finish the job, and make sure everybody is happy.

Regardless of the origins, consistently putting others needs above your own can develop into the following 5 pretty bad consequences.  I suggest some solutions for each.

1.      Neglect self
People Pleasers devote very little time to taking care of their own health.  Their efforts towards taking care of others usurps time they need to be active, de-stress, plan healthy meals, etc.  As a result they may be more prone to health problems.  

If you are a People Pleaser your heart is in the right place. Wanting to take care of others is not a bad thing and if more people had a little bit of what you have, the world would be a better place. 

However, you cannot do this at the expense of yourself.  A balance is needed.  Consider that taking care of yourself makes you better equipped to take care of others by giving you the energy and vitality to do it even better than you are now. 

Imagine you are driving a Red Cross truck delivering food and water to hurricane victims.  If you are in such a hurry to get to every single victim that you don’t stop once in a while to refuel the truck, eventually you will be stalled on the side of the road helping no one. 

Think of the time you put into exercise, de-stressing, and eating healthy as your fuel stops.

2.      Passive Aggression And/Or Resentment

Over time, Janet is likely to find herself silently angry at the people in her life.  Her desire to be kind will suppress that anger but unexpressed anger often turns into passive aggression. 

We are being passive aggressive when we make sharp comments, crack sarcastic jokes, or make subtle actions that let a little of our negative feelings seep out (e.g., doing the favor but in a half-assed fashion).

Making matters worse, mounting resentment is the biggest destroyer of relationships.  

Communicating your feelings is the only way to avoid resentment, although it requires taking the risk that the other person might not be happy to hear that you are upset or they may not take responsibility for what has upset you. 

The outcome doesn’t matter as much as the fact that you spoke up for yourself

Speaking up also puts people on notice that they will be informed when they have done something that has upset you. This alone can make people tread more lightly.

3.      Reduces Ability To Enjoy Other People And Activities 

At one point Janet made the guilt-laden confession that she didn’t even enjoy going to her son’s ball games.  She said she feels so stressed while she’s there, thinking of all the things she still needs to get done that it takes away from her ability to enjoy the game.  

I really can’t imagine that her son doesn’t pick up on his mom’s lack of enthusiasm.  

Your level of engagement in an activity or a person is impossible to hide.  What message do we send our loved ones by being present but disengaged?  

Being present but disengaged is not better than being absent. 

By attending less frequently and recharging herself in the interim, she would get more enjoyment from his games and be more of an active and engaged participant in her son’s life.

4.      Stress And Depression

The definition of stress is having more demands than you can handle.  

People Pleasing can turn into a vicious cycle of chronic stress and unhealthy behaviors. 

If you have the constant feeling like you are too busy and doing everything for everyone else but yourself, you might be stuck in this cycle. 

Stress and depression can be medicated but that won’t break the cycle.  If pulling out of the cycle seems overwhelming, identify one small place you can start. 

 Identify one responsibility you have taken on that you can cancel to free up some time for yourself.  Work from there.
Find one person in your life to share your plan with and ask them to help you implement it.

5.      Be Taken Advantage Of

 By always saying yes to requests for favors, people may begin to take advantage of your kindness by asking for more than is reasonable.  

Even worse, you may become the target of exploitive people because they will quickly see that you can’t say no and take as much as they can from you. 

Even people who are generally not exploitive may take advantage because they don’t realize that you are overtaxing yourself and have difficulty understanding where your boundaries are because you have set none. 

Either way, requests from other people will become overwhelming.  

We teach people how to treat us by the behavior we accept or reject from them. 

If someone takes advantage of you, it is only their fault once.  After that it is your fault for not teaching them different. 

Teaching different means setting boundaries about what you can and cannot do, and what you will and will not accept. 

Once you have established this, sticking to it is important.  

The other challenge is that if everyone is used to you saying yes, they may feel disappointed or angry when you begin to say no. 

It is extremely important to ignore feelings of guilt. You deserve to take care of yourself, it is nothing to ever feel guilty about. 

Keep reminding yourself of the Red Cross Truck.


Source:     Psychology Today

Thursday, February 1, 2018

Guess Who's Coming For Breakfast? - FEBRUARY






Thursday                       1st February 2018

February Is Here

People

The 2nd month of the year 2018 has just arrived and it has brought with it gifts that are worth working for.

Do not for any reason miss your own gift from February because like you know "all good and perfect gifts come from God"

By the reason of His Unction, I proclaim to you that in this month of February, God shall

*In blessing - bless you beyond your imagination
*In providing - provide for you that your cup would be running over
*In protection - protect you from the hands of your enemies
*In shielding - shield you from the vagaries of the weather, that they hurt you not

*He shall strengthen your right hand that whatever you do shall prosper
*He shall quicken your feetsteps that you go to where His goodness, mercy and favour shall follow you
*He shall make you a conqueror and not the conquered
*He shall make you victorious and not a victim
*He shall make you the head and not the tail
*He shall make you the lender and not the borrower

This month
Your destiny helper shall locate you and
You shall fulfill your destiny

The Almighty shall fulfill His Words
Key into them

Whatever you need that is yet to come, call it by name, be specific about it and He shall grant the requests of your hungry soul in accordance with His Holy Will and His Riches in Christ Jesus

It is well with your soul

You are blessed

Join me to welcome the Month of February 2018
Let God continue to reign supreme in our lives

#CarpeDiem


#DrJTF