Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Once Upon Nigeria, A Prospering People Asked For Change… God Gave Them Buhari"

By Charles Novia

There was a young business woman, whom we will call Jessie, who had a thriving buying and selling business which had been yielding fantastic profits for years. She would travel to Dubai, America, Paris to buy goods and would sell and make eye-popping profits back home in Nigeria. She was rich. But she wanted more. She wanted change. So she prayed and prayed for change, telling God that she wanted her business to grow more under a new government. She prayed and added change to her prayers. And God shrugged and accepted her request.

And God gave her Buhari.

There was a young banker, who we will call Momah, who had a good job in a bank and as a financial worker, could see the growth patterns of the economy and the daily volume of cash flow in his branch. He had a wife, could provide for his family, summer holidays for years with his family abroad and he even ran some private businesses on the side. But he felt it could be better. He wanted more. He wanted change. And he prayed and wished and screamed for change, screaming to the high heavens for change. And God heard, shrugged and accepted his request.

And God gave him Buhari.

There was a bureau de change operator, we will call him Haruna. He ran a successful forex business and also had a chain of private stores in his region. As the Nigerian economy grew all through the years, he saw his business grow as well. But he was restless. He felt someone else could do it better for the nation. Someone closer to him by spiritual beliefs, regionalism, and personal ideologies. So he prayed to Allah for change. He prayed more than five times a day. And Allah shrugged and gave him his request.

And Allah gave him Buhari.

There was a people in a country, who experienced prosperity in their lives for over a decade. They watched the economy grow, their industries yield outputs, their pockets filled or sometimes half full with money. The country wasn’t perfect but it had promise. Things may not have been where it should have been but things were certainly not as bad as thought. But a section of the people became consumed by the Israelites-in-the-wilderness complex. And they prayed for change. They prayed and prayed louder than the other section which mumbled supplications. And God shrugged and gave them their request.

And God gave them Buhari.

And now, in God’s sanctuary, as He watches whose prayers will be answered between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, God hears the loud cries of pain, suffering, death and malady coming up to the heavens.

‘Where is that din coming from?’ God asks Archangel Gabriel.

‘From Nigeria, Heavenly Father’ Archangel Gabriel replies with a bow.

‘Didn’t I give them what they cried for last year? Didn’t I answer Joanna’s prayers? And the prayers of Momah and Haruna and the people who cried for change?’ God asks as some Cherubims strum gently on their harps.

Archangel Gabriel replies as he reads from a scroll, ‘ Yes, Heavenly Father. But Joanna has lost everything. No one buys anything from her anymore. Her business is zero. She’s broke. She’s the person wailing in that sing-song right now. Momah was sacked by his bank in June 2015. He can’t even pay his children’s school fees and his business is at low levels. Haruna can’t get dollars or foreign exchange to run his business anymore and is gnashing his teeth. The people who cried for change amongst those who didn’t want it, have suddenly realised that what they prayed for is the same as snakes and scorpions. The stubborn ones amongst them still openly scream that they don’t regret that they asked for this change but in the privacy of their homes, they roll on the floor like Dino Melaye and curse the day they picked their permanent voters cards to vote for change. Many who voted for this change openly have been repenting of their mistakes and openly apologising. Those who didn’t vote for it have just been shaking their heads and hissing. It’s a mess, Heavenly Father’

‘And what do they want again this time?’ God asks in amusement.

‘It’s a Babel of voices, Heavenly Father’ replies Archangel Gabriel. ‘Those in charge of this change seem to have tongues of lies and confusion. They say one thing today and run back to change it the next minute. Even Lucifer is grumbling at the other side that some of those people in Nigeria are threatening his job!’

God laughs and laughs at this.

Gabriel continues, ‘Those who the change movement removed from Power are starting a new mantra which they call ‘change the change’. There is just chaos in that land. Now, both the change people and the other side of the divide are just praying’

God smiles. ‘ Let me attend to the American elections first. After that, I will get back to Nigeria. By the way, who’s this Lai Lai fellow I keep hearing people scream about from there?

Gabriel looks through his scroll. ‘ Heavenly Father, Lucifer would best have an answer to that question!’

Charles Novia is an award-winning filmmaker. He is founder of November Productions and November Records. Connect with him on Facebook.

Monday, May 15, 2017

Knowledge Plus Understanding = Unbeatable Combination

This Post Will Surely Help You To Get Understanding

Whether you drive a keke napep or a maruti or a beast or a suzuki 190, the ROAD is the same

Whether you fly business class or economy class or first class or even use your own private jet, your DESTINATION doesn't change

Whether you wear kpako watch or a Rolex or a Titan, TIME remains the same

Whether you use iphone 30 or inifinix or nokia torch, or samsung, the people who CALL you are the same

Whether you eat chicken alacarta or mama put without or isi ewu or potpouri, the OUTCOME would always be faeces

There's really nothing wrong with dreaming and even living a luxurious lifestyle.

But what needs to be seen is that need doesn't become greed because needs can always be met but greed? it is quite insatiable!!!!

What A Husband Needs Most From A Wife Is Never Sex

Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex.

Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body.

But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experienced they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them.

And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex.

Others also think once they are giving out their body it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex was all that mattered to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue, and for reasons beyond imagination, a very handsome good man married her.
The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage hit the rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit.

But submission is what men need, not sex.

It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are expensive jewelry, and a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Holy Book say? "Wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many young ladies in nowadays see submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh."

If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love, and love her sincerely.

There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African Queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. 

Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has made many maids hijack their mistresses' husbands. 

Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage.

May God bless you with a good marriage, my dear sisters.

Written By:         Catherine Ijeoma Nwike

Sunday, May 14, 2017

It's Great To Suck At Something

Over the past 15 years, surfing has become a kind of obsession for me. I surf eight months a year. I travel to surf destinations for family vacations and seek (forgiving) waves in the Atlantic and the Pacific Oceans. I have spent thousands of dollars on boards of all sizes and shapes.

And yet — I suck at it.

*In the sport of (Hawaiian) kings, I’m a jester.
*In surfing parlance, a “kook.”
*I fall and flail.
*I get hit on the head by my own board.
*I run out of breath when held down by a four-foot wave.
*I wimp out when the waves get overhead and I paddle back to shore.

When I do catch a wave, I’m rarely graceful.
On those rare occasions when I manage a decent drop, turn and trim, I usually blow it by celebrating with a fist pump or a hoot.
Once, I actually cried tears of joy over what any observer would have thought a so-so performance on a so-so wave.

Yes, I was moved to tears by mediocrity.

So why continue?
Why pursue something I’ll never be good at?

Because it’s great to suck at something.

When people hear that I surf, I get a knowing nod of awesomeness from the terra firma-bound. I know what they’re picturing: me on a thruster, carving up and down a wave face until I casually kick out the back to paddle out to the line up for another.

The truth is that most surfers don’t come close to what we see in highlight videos. But pretty’s not the point. The point is the patience and perseverance it requires to get back on the board and try again.

After a surf instructor pushed me into my first wave, it took me five years to catch one on my own.

When I do catch a wave and feel the glide, I’ll hold onto that feeling for hours, days or even weeks. I’m hooked on the pursuit of those moments, however elusive they may be. But it’s not the momentary high that has sustained me. In the process of trying to attain a few moments of bliss, I experience something else: patience and humility, definitely, but also freedom.

Freedom to pursue the futile. And the freedom to suck without caring is revelatory.

My friend Andy Martin is a Cambridge don of French literature. He has surfed the world over. But about his status as a surfer, he tells me, “I am called a surfer only at Cambridge.” In his mind, he sucks, but he’s O.K. with that. That being O.K. is the humility that comes only with sucking and persevering.

The notion of sucking at something flies in the face of the overhyped notion of perfectionism. The lie of perfectionism goes something like this: “If I fail, it’s only because I seek perfection.” Or “I can never finish anything because I’m a perfectionist.” Since the perfectionist will settle for nothing less, she is left with nothing.

Self-knowledge here is key. No one ever tells you how much you suck at something. Unless you have a mean boss, an abusive parent or a malicious friend, most people are happy to help us maintain the delusion that our efforts are not in vain. No, we cannot count on people around us to let us know how much we suck. It is far more acceptable to compliment than to criticize. So the onus is on us as individuals to admit to ourselves how much we suck at something. And then do it anyway.

By taking off the pressure of having to excel at or master an activity, we allow ourselves to live in the moment. You might think this sounds simple enough, but living in the present is also something most of us suck at.

Think about how focused you become when you’re presented with something totally new to accomplish. Now, what happens when that task is no longer new but still taps into intense focus because we haven’t yet mastered it? You’re a novice, an amateur, a kook. You suck at it. Some might think your persistence moronic. I like to think of it as meditative and full of promise.

In the words of the Zen teacher Shunryu Suzuki, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind, there are few.” When I surf, I live in the possibility.
Or, as the great father of surfing, Duke Kahanamoku, wisely advised: “Be patient. Wave come. Wave always come.”

But, then what’s going to happen?

As my friend Michael Scott Moore wrote in his book, “Sweetness and Blood,” “When a surfer takes off on a wave, there are two possible results.” Fairly predictably for me, the outcome is an epic fail. Yet, I remain hopeful that this time will be better than the last.

Maybe sucking at something where the stakes are low can lead us to a better place. Maybe it could be a kind of a medicine for the epidemic cocksureness in our culture. Seeing ourselves repeatedly doing something we suck at — no matter how trivial — might make us a bit more sympathetic to how hard so many things really are: trying to navigate health issues, listening to our neighbors, improving the economy or mitigating relations with hostile nations.

By exposing ourselves to the experience of trying and failing we might develop more empathy. If we succeed in shifting from snap judgments to patience, maybe we could be a little more helpful to one another — and a whole lot more understanding.

If we accept our failures and persevere nonetheless, we might provide a respite from the imperative to succeed and instead find acceptance in trying. Failing is O.K. Better still, isn’t it a relief?

There’ll always be another chance. And another after that, trust me. Be patient. Waves come. Waves always come.

Do you suck at something? Share your stories in the comments.

Written By:     Karen Rinaldi

Source:     NYTimes

You Can Create Results Or You Can Make Excuses

Exactly! You can create results or you can create excuses. Look, it’s very easy to create excuses. As a matter of fact, you don’t need to create any excuse., they are all around you. Just look and you will find.

I asked a friend, why haven’t you written the book you told me about. His responses are; I don’t have time and, I am not as good as you are. To him, these are valid reasons. But my dear, they are just excuses.

I asked another friend, why haven’t you started your online business. Hmm, I don’t know anybody to show me how and I don’t have money to invest were his answers. To this friend too, they are valid reasons. But once gain to me, they are excuses. 

My dear, both friends could have thought of creative ways to do what they want to do. Do could have jumped into the fray believing help and support will come when they need it. But they chose to find excuses.

Well, my message to you is simply this: Excuse your excuses so you can make your dreams come to pass. You can create results or you can make excuses.

Keep the lion within you roaring all through the year. This is your year, this is your season, you are sure to smile again.

You are bound for the top. I love you! I believe in you! I believe in your dreams. You are chosen for greatness! YOU'RE TRULY BORN TO WIN!

Stay motivated! Stay Blessed! Please share this message to help others. Thanks and God bless you.

Tuesday, May 9, 2017

Take That Step Now!

Whatever you want to do, starting small is always encouraged

Tip toe, if you must but TAKE THAT STEP NOW


Saturday, May 6, 2017

What's Your Level Of Busyness?

Can you find yourself in the above picture?