Monday, March 20, 2017
Every year on the 20th of March, the World celebrates International Day of Happiness.
The essence is to help world citizens keep at bay all issues that buffet them in their lives and just be happy.
I keyed into this maxim so many years ago when I realized that my happiness is really not dependent on the things I have achieved in life or the things I own, not even in the Wife and Children but in knowing that Christ came and died for me and that God is always there with and for me despite the circumstances and situations.
But I know that some people still think that their happiness is dependent on achieving one thing or the other; if only they can learn from me that happiness is not an event but a journey.
If your happiness is dependent on your achievements, then it will always be ephemeral and transient, because as soon as the euphoria of the achievement wears off, you enter into a despondent mood again.
When your happiness streams from inside because of the love of God in you, no matter what is happening around you, you'd always muster the courage to be happy.
Though we keep getting bad news about persons who take their own lives, it is really tragic but no one has the right to take his or her own life NO MATTER WHAT.
No matter how much the vicissitudes of life bellow on us, SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION
Today, just be happy and enjoy your life
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
Research shows that habitual complaining affects us mentally, emotionally, and physically. Such behavior may cause or worsen stress, sapping our energy and desire to pursue our dreams.
Above all that, it just doesn't feel good to complain, or hear complaints. They're negative by nature and they don't help resolve the situation you wish were different. Complaining can also keep you from being a likable person.
If you want to start attracting and creating the success you desire, you'll want to stop complaining. Here are seven ways to break the habit of complaining, backed by science.
Research from Loma Linda University in California reveals that the simple act of laughter increases endorphins and sends mood-lifting dopamine to the brain. This hormone also has the power to lower stress levels by helping us process emotional responses and experience pleasure.
This solution is pretty simple: Bring more laughter into your life. As Law of Attraction advocate Steve Harvey says, "Laughter attracts joy and releases negativity." If you allow more joy and laughter in your life, you won't feel the pains and stresses as much. You won't focus on them.
Whether it's funny TV shows, comedy podcasts, or time with friends and family, there are more ways than ever to get laughing.
Try the "Rubber Band Technique"
We've all heard the story of Ivan Pavlov, the Russian physiologist who discovered that any activity or object he associated with food--yes, his famous bell!--would trigger the same salivation response in his dogs. What did he really discover? The power of conditioning.
You can apply this same principle to stop complaining. Put a rubber band around your wrist. When you complain about something, think about the complaint while you pull the rubber band back. Then release it so it stings the inside of your wrist.
This simple action serves as a physical and mental reminder that you're complaining, and to reinforce the negativity around the action. It works by bringing subconscious acts into your daily consciousness. I did this when I wanted to stop my own complaining, and it worked.
See through the lens of gratitude
We tend to complain when we focus on the negative, not the positive. Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're grateful for each night. This habit will help you see your life through the lens of gratitude, and not lack. As a result, you'll simply see fewer things that prompt you to complain in the first place. Some schools of thought believe we can change our brain chemistry this way, and this process will help rewire you to see the positive.
Examine your relationships
Author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn says it best: "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." When trying to stop a bad habit, it helps to surround yourself with people--inspirational speakers or leaders, mentors, family and friends--who embody the same behaviors and discipline you want to live by.
Consider the power of your closest ties by examining how your relationships make you feel and behave. Take steps to end any toxic relationships, and invite more positive people into your inner circle and life.
Matthieu Ricard, a trained biochemist turned Buddhist monk, suggests we can train our minds to generate an ongoing sense of serenity and fulfillment through meditation. He cites brain plasticity, which is the ability of repetition and reinforcement to alter our synaptic connections.
I credit my regular meditation practice with raising my baseline for awareness and serenity, and lowering my baseline for stress and anxiety. After a few weeks of practicing meditation, I became more grounded and small things didn't bother me as much.
Get more sleep
Studies show that getting more sleep helps us to be happier and more positive, while also building the mental acuity needed to stay focused. How much sleep do adults need? Research suggests between seven and nine hours nightly.
Exercise out the stress
There are few better ways to counter negativity than by getting your blood flowing and releasing endorphins through exercise. According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise has been shown to reduce stress and ward off feelings of anxiety or depression, which can lead to chronic complaining.
Putting it all together
Complaining is a negative behavior that affects our happiness, attitude, and ability to perform. Learn from what science teaches us about this bad mental habit--and how to bring more positive practices into your life starting today.
Saturday, March 11, 2017
Do you have the habit of comparing yourself with others?
If you do, there is a good chance that you are comparing yourself to someone who has done better than you.
"Johnny scored higher for the class test than me.... again."
"My boss does the same job as me, but her pay is a lot more than mine. Unfair huh?"
"Brad has rich parents, that's why he can stay jobless. Wished I had that kind of luck."
Notice the bit of negative energy that is associated when you compare with people who are "better" than you?
You can be awesome at what you do, and be well loved by your friends...
but as long as you make unnecessary comparisons with what others are better at, you will never be truly happy.
I have to admit - I am a fiercely competitive person.
I used to compare myself with others when I was younger and more aggressive (and more ignorant
But now my biggest competitor is myself.
I always ask myself 2 questions.
1) Am I better than myself 1 year ago?
2) What can I do today to make myself better in 1 year's time?
I don't care about other people's achievements.
Now, friends earning big money has nothing to do with me - Good for them, but I'm more concerned about increasing my income.
If I have the energy to criticize other people's achievements (and their rich daddies)...
then I certainly should convert the energy to do something useful for my personal growth.
So how do you break the habit of comparing yourself to others?
You just have to consciously stop yourself when you are about to compare.
Sounds easier than done?
All of us have our strengths and weaknesses.
You are happy while he is smart. It's comparing apples to oranges, so why make your life miserable?
Life is a long journey - get yourself ready for it.